Dudes, Do Better: Dismantling Toxic Masculinity At Work Do you suspect that your company might be guilty of rewarding toxic masculine behavior? Are you celebrating the brilliant jerk at the expense of the team and the bottom line? ​ A lack of empathy, compassion, and shared humanity in many industries towards their employees lead to the Great Resignation. We find ourselves at a crossroads, having to choose between the "old boys club" style of management of the past and a future of work where we foster leaders who understand the value of balancing feminine and masculine leadership. ​ This session is for organizations who want to rise above the antiquated Mad Men way of managing; for the executive who understands that they need to address systemic workplace issues (e.g. toxic masculinity, misogyny, racism). This is a call-to-action - a BS Meter - for any company claiming that they care about their staff. Is your company ready to follow through on the values written in your mission statement and plastered on your walls? Learning Objectives Identify the key components to look for in a toxic masculine leadership team Explore ways to foster strong leaders who value both feminine and masculine attributes in leadership Determine how to implement specific action steps to eradicate toxic masculinity and replace it with actions that build psychological safety https://www.wearerosie.com/the-write-up/pov/reshape-the-future-of-work-by-dismantling-toxic-masculinity/

1. Dudes, Do Better:
Dismantling Toxic
Masculinity At Work
Jeff Harry
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2. VISUALIZE THAT
TOXIC PERSON
AT YOUR WORK
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3. VISUALIZE THAT
CO-WORKER YOU
ADMIRE
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Reflect On
How We
Got Here?
Topics We Are Covering
How Much Is
Toxic Masculine
Leadership Costing Us?
What Is Effective
Leadership?
Provide Solutions
For Every Level of
The Workforce
Identify Actions
That Can Be
Implemented
Immediately
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5. Who Needs To Change?
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6. Who Needs To Change?
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9. WHO AM I?
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12. Built The Largest LEGO-Inspired STEM Org In The U.S.
• Play (No Business Plan)
• Intuition (Picked Fun People)
• Prioritized relationships over
short-term profits
• Focused On Inspiring Staff
• Avoided Hiring Toxic People
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13. What Words Describe
Toxic Masculinity?
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16. WE CELEBRATE TOXIC MASCULINE LEADERS
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17. TOXIC MASCULINITY DEFINITION
Toxic masculinity is a narrow and
repressive description of manhood,
designating “being a man” as
defined by dominance, aggression,
individualism & lack of emotion.
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18. TOXIC MASCULINE LEADERSHIP TRAITS
• Bullying
• Avoid losing at all costs
• Restraining one’s emotions
• During conflict, showing strength
through aggression
• Exhibiting dominance masking
insecurity
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19. TOXIC MASCULINE LEADERSHIP
DROVE THE GREAT RESIGNATION
The Great Resignation
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26. TRIGGERS &
IMPACT
• What Triggers You About The Toxic Person At Work?
• How Does The Presence Of This Toxic Person Affect
Your Work?
If you are currently not dealing with toxicity in your workplace, refer to a previous experience.
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27. TOXIC PEOPLE MAKE YOU STUPID
•Performed
25% worse
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28. TOXIC PEOPLE MAKE YOU MEAN
• Performed
25% worse
• 9 Times Less
Likely To Help
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29. Alpha Males Are The Strongest Leaders
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30. Alpha Males Are The Strongest Leaders
Alpha Males
describe the
behavior of
captive lonely,
creatures
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31. Data Does
Not Lie
Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Produces Higher Profits
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32. Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Produces Higher Profits
Data Does
Not Lie

33. Reality: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Costs Companies Billions
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34. Reality: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Costs Companies Billions
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35. How Much Can Toxic Masculine
Leadership Cost A U.S. Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
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36. How Much Can Toxic Masculine
Leadership Cost A U.S. Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff $30,000 - $45,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
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37. How Much Can Toxic Masculine
Leadership Cost A U.S. Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff $30,000 - $45,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
Cost To Defend An Employee
Lawsuit $75,000 - $150,000*
*Litigation Cost Survey of Major Companies - USCourts.gov
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38. Diversity of Perspective
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39. Diversity of Perspective
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40. What Traits Does Your Team Currently
Have?
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41. What Traits Are Missing From Your Team?
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42. Traits Teams Need For Successful Leadership
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43. Determine The Primary Motivations
& Drivers Of The Organization
• What Are The Main Goals Of Your Organization?
• What Are The Values Of The Organization?
• What Are The Main Drivers Of The Decision Makers?
• What Are The Primary Motivations Of The Toxic
Staffer?
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44. For Dealing With The
Toxic Person At Work
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49. We Are Talking About Practice…
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50. Who Has Power?
CEO

51. ENTRY LEVEL & JUNIOR LEVEL STAFF
• Find allies & employees who have
similar issues
• Gather data/documentation on
toxic staffers
• Recognize the leverage and access
you have
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52. MID-LEVEL MANAGEMENT
• Explore why staff are quitting
• Ask employees: Did we lose or gain your
trust these past 2 years?
• Focus on your circle of influence
• Experiment with new ways of leading staff
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53. EXECUTIVES & C-SUITE LEVEL
•What is the worst behavior you are
tolerating?
•Reassess what metrics you are
measuring success by
•Fund your committees & resource
groups
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54. HUMAN RESOURCES
• Change the perception of HR by
showing up as allies
• Call out hypocrisy & call in your
organization’s values
• Understand the perspective of
who’s coming into your workforce
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55. Strategy & Implementation
• What Are Your Goals In Addressing Toxicity At Work?
• What Are The Initial Steps You Can Do To Begin?
• Who Are Your Allies That Can Help Implement This
Strategy?
• What Are The Obstacles That May Get In Your Way?
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56. Taking Action To Dismantle
Toxic Masculinity
What Is Your Initial Step To Take Action?
Who Are Your Allies That Will Support You?
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57. Who Will Decide The Future of Work?
Pre-Pandemic
Leadership
Post-
Pandemic
Leadership
Shared
Humanity
Collaboration
Inspiration
Intuition
Individualism
Control
Ego
Competition

58. Recap of What We Covered
Learn From
The Mistakes
of The Past
Outline The Cost of
Toxic Masculine Leadership
Give Examples Of
A Healthy Masculine &
Feminine Leadership
Pick A Solution
That Works For
Your Team
Take Immediate Action
& Remember To Practice
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59. Let’s Dismantle Toxic Masculinity Together
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