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Dismantling Toxic Masculinity At Work Presentation 6/14/22.
4. Why Start This Way…
• Opportunity To Reflect On Past Experiences
• Share Where We Are Already Aligned
• Recognize How Certain People Can Affect Your
Mood
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5. Topics We Are Covering
• Reflect On Its Impact These Past Two Years
• Breakdown The Costs of Toxic Masculine Leadership
• Explore The Balance of Feminine & Masculine
Leadership
• Provide Solutions For Any Level Of The Workforce
• Explain The Teaching Methodology
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6. Toxic Masculinity Defintion
Toxic masculinity is a narrow and
repressive description of manhood,
designating “being a man” as defined by
dominance, aggression, individualism &
lack of emotion.
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7. Toxic Masculine Leadership Traits
• Bullying
• Avoid losing at all costs
• Restraining one’s emotions
• Showing strength through aggression in moments
of conflict
• Exhibiting dominance masking insecurity
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12. • Play (No Business Plan)
• Intuition (Picked Fun People)
• Prioritize relationships over
short-term profits
• Followed Our Curiosity
• Focused On Inspiring Staff
Built The Largest
LEGO-Inspired STEM
Organization In The U.S.
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13. We Celebrate Toxic Masculine Leaders
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22. • What Triggers You About The Toxic
Person At Work?
• How Does The Presence Of This Toxic
Person Affect Your Work?
If you are currently not dealing with toxicity in your workplace, refers to a previous experience.
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Triggers & Impact
24. What Just Happened…
• Storytelling connects our shared experience
• A great reminder that you are not alone
• Shared Experience that builds empathy
• Begin to open up and be more vulnerable
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25. Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Produces Higher Profits
Data Does
Not Lie
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27. How Much Can Toxic Masculine Leadership
Cost A U.S. Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff
$30,000 - $45,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
Cost To Defend An
Employee Lawsuit
$75,000 - $150,000*
*Litigation Cost Survey of Major Companies - USCourts.gov
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30. What Traits Do We Need For Successful Leadership?
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You’ll find the future where people are having the most fun - Steven Johnson
31. Determine The Primary Motivations
& Drivers Of The Organization
• What Are The Main Goals Of Your Organization?
• What Are The Values Of The Organization?
• What Are The Main Drivers Of The Decision Makers?
• What Are The Primary Motivations Of The Toxic Staffer?
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32. Who Are Examples of This
Balanced Form of Leadership?
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33. Who Are Examples of This
Balanced Form of Leadership?
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34. Where Do We Begin?
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CEO
35. Entry & Junior Level Staff
• Find allies & employees who have similar issues
• Gather data/documentation on toxic staffers
• Recognize the leverage and access you have
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36. Mid-Level Management
• Investigate why staff have left
• Find out if the company lost or gained trust with
employees during the pandemic
• Focus on your circle of influence
• Experiment with new ways of leading staff
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37. Executive & C-Suite Level
• What is the worst behavior you are currently
tolerating?
• Reassess what metrics you are measuring success
by (Employee Retention > Quarterly Profits)
• Start funding your committees & resource groups
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38. Strategy & Implementation
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• What Are Your Goals In Addressing This Toxicity At Your
Work?
• What Are The Initial Steps You Can Do To Begin?
• Who Are Your Allies That Can Help Implement This Strategy?
• What Are The Obstacles That May Get In Your Way?
If you are currently not dealing with toxicity in your workplace, refers to a previous experience.
39. What Just Happened…
• Realize that it isn’t as difficult as we thought
• We are now invested in each other’s success
• By stating what you are willing to do, it
increases the likelihood of implementation
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40. Crossroads To Determine The Future of Work
Pre-
Pandemic
Leadership
Post-
Pandemic
Leadership
Shared
Humanity
Collaboration
Inspiration
Intuition
Individualism
Control
Ego
Competition
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41. Teaching Methodology
• Establish That This Is A Safe Playground To Play
• Don’t Attack The Person, But Address The Problem
• Create Shared Experiences
• Provide The Science That Backs Up The Feelings
• Take Bigger Steps Of Vulnerability Throughout The Workshop
• Find Opportunities For People To Embody Their Experience
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Two part exercise.
Part 1: A-Hole to every one
If you did like it why do you think that is?
If you didn’t what about it made it feel that way?
Part 2: High fives to everyone
How did two environments feel?
Two part exercise.
Part 1: A-Hole to every one
If you did like it why do you think that is?
If you didn’t what about it made it feel that way?
Part 2: High fives to everyone
How did two environments feel?
That is what you are up against.
A society that unconsciously tells you not to be yourself. Narrows your ability to believe what is possible.
Communicates to you that not only should you not be yourself, but also that you are not enough. That something is missing in you. That you don’t know who you are and that you should follow other’s lead.
Every time you scroll on social media, the message is you’re not enough
It can permeate your soul and you end up just feeling dazed, confused, and scared of being yourself.
