76% of employees are disengaged at work. Staff eventually leave because they don't feel seen, heard, or appreciated. Who knew the answer to this lies in a show called Ted Lasso? Ted Lasso's leadership style, which combines both feminine and masculine traits, is vital for companies because it demonstrates the effectiveness of a more holistic and inclusive approach to being a leader. Divine feminine leadership emphasizes empathy, intuition, and collaboration, which creates a compassionate work culture. Healthy masculine leadership cultivates assertiveness, decisiveness, and accountability, which leads to a more productive and results-oriented work culture. Combined, this approach builds the strongest and most effective teams. This session is for organizations who want to rise above the antiquated Mad Men way of managing; for the executive ready to embrace a Ted Lasso standard of leadership where our people are our priority. Is your company ready to follow through on the values plastered on your walls?

1. Why ^ Feminine & Masculine
Leadership Matters
Jeff Harry
Positive Psychology Play Speaker
TED LASSO’s

2. Visualize A Toxic Leader At Work

3. Visualize A Leader You Admire At Work

4. Reflect On
How We
Got Here
How Much Is
Toxic Leadership Costing
Us?
Explore
Leadership
Archetypes
Identify
The Values of
Healthy Feminine &
Masculine Leadership
Identify Actions
To Cultivate
Balanced Leadership
Topics We Are Covering

7. Who Am I?

11. • Play (No Business Plan)
• Intuition (Picked Fun People)
• Prioritized relationships over
short-term profits
• Focused On Inspiring Staff
• Avoided Hiring Toxic People
Built The Largest LEGO-Inspired
STEM Organization In The U.S.

12. What Do Employees Want?

13. What Do Employees Want?
Staff Want To Feel Seen,
Heard, & Appreciated

14. What Words Describe Toxic
Masculinity?

15. Toxic Masculinity Is Not Anti-Men

16. Anyone Can Exhibit Toxic Masculine
Leadership

17. Definition of Toxic Masculinity
Toxic masculinity is a narrow and
repressive description of manhood,
designating “being a man” as defined
by dominance, aggression,
individualism & lack of emotion.

18. Toxic Masculine
Leadership Traits
• Bullying
• Avoid losing at all costs
• Restraining one’s emotions
• During conflict, showing
strength through aggression
• Exhibiting dominance
masking insecurity

19. Toxic Masculine Leadership Caused Our Biggest Workplace Issues

20. Toxic Masculine Leadership Caused Our Biggest Workplace Issues
Great Resignation Quiet Quitting Bare Minimum Mondays

22. October 2022

23. November 2022

24. November 2022

26. November 2022

28. February
2023

30. April
2023

31. Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership Produces Higher Profits

32. Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership Produces Higher Profits

33. Toxic Masculine Leadership Is Costing Billions

34. Toxic Masculine Leadership Is Costing Billions

35. How Much Is Toxic Leadership Costing You?

36. How Much Is Toxic Leadership Costing You?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity
$14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace

37. How Much Is Toxic Leadership Costing You?
Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff
$50,000 - $75,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity
$14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace

38. How Much Is Toxic Leadership Costing You?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity
$14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff
$50,000 - $75,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
Cost To Defend An Employee
Lawsuit $75,000 - $150,000*
*Litigation Cost Survey of Major Companies - USCourts.gov

39. Pournelle’s Iron Law of Bureaucracy
The people devoted to the
benefit of the bureaucracy
get in control and those
dedicated to the goals that
the bureaucracy is supposed
to accomplish have less and
less influence, and
sometimes are eliminated.

42. WE CELEBRATE TOXIC MASCULINE LEADERS

43. HEALTHY MASCULINE LEADERSHIP EXAMPLE

44. FEELING SEEN

45. LEADERSHIP ARCHETYPES

46. The "Boss" Archetype
• Logical reasoning
• Delegates authority well
• Gifted At problem solving
• Decisive

47. The "Coordinator"
Archetype
• Sequences things & organizes
• Gifted at accurately performing
detailed procedures
• Dependable, practical, predictable

48. The "Innovator" Archetype
• Visionary & Able to see Potential
• Energized by exploring &
creative problem solving
• Sees the big picture, not the
minute details
• Entrepreneurial

49. The "Nurturer" Archetype
• Specializes in connection & Harmony
• Sensitive, sentimental about things &
people
• Memory is based on
emotions/feelings, not facts

50. Stage Front
Back Of The Room
The "Nurturer"
Archetype
The "Innovator"
Archetype
The "Coordinator"
Archetype
The "Boss"
Archetype

51. Learn About Each Other
What Resonated With You
About This Archetype?

52. Learn About Each Other
What Parts of You Are Not
Represented By This
Archetype?

54. FEELING HEARD

55. Diversity of Perspective

56. Diversity of Perspective

57. What Traits Does Your Team Currently
Have?

58. What Traits Are Missing From Your
Team?

59. The Traits Teams Need For Success

60. We Are All On A Gender Spectrum

61. Healthy Masculine Leadership
Healthy Masculinity replaces harmful, risky
and violent masculine attitudes and
behaviors with empathetic behaviors and
attitudes that benefit men’s mental,
emotional, and physical well-being and
increase their ability to role-model
nonviolence

62. Traits of Healthy Masculine Leadership
• Asking for help when needed
• Comfortable displaying vulnerability
• Expressing a wide range of emotions
• Developing healthy relationship skills
• Feeling comfortable in emotionally
nurturing roles
• Calling out/in other men who engage
in disrespectful or aggressive
behaviors

63. Traits of Healthy Masculine Leadership
• Asking for help when needed
• Comfortable displaying vulnerability
• Expressing a wide range of emotions
• Developing healthy relationship skills
• Feeling comfortable in emotionally
nurturing roles
• Calling out/in other men who engage
in disrespectful or aggressive
behaviors

64. Healthy Feminine Leadership
Healthy Feminine Leadership values
empathy, collaboration, communication,
and emotional intelligence. It emphasizes
relationship building, inclusiveness, a focus
on personal growth and well-being, and a
more holistic approach to decision-making.

65. Traits of Healthy Feminine Leadership
• Taking Initiative
• Inclusion
• Practicing Self Development
• Collaboration
• Systems Thinking
• Authenticity
• Vulnerability
• Resilience

67. FEELING
APPRECIATED

69. What Is Your Language of
Appreciation?

70. How Will You Cultivate More Balanced
Leadership?

71. How Will You Foster More Balanced Leadership?
• What Leadership Traits Do You Want To
Cultivate?
• Who Currently exemplifies Balanced Leadership?
• Whose Buy-In Do You Need To Build This New
Crop of Balanced Leaders?
What Is The First Action You Will

72. Who Will Decide The Future of Work?

73. Pre-Pandemic
Leadership
Individualism
Control
Ego
Competition
Post-Pandemic
Leadership
Shared Humanity
Inspiration
Intuition
Collaboration
Who Will Decide The Future of Work?

74. 2000 - 2500 Hours

76. Let’s Build Healthy Workplaces Together
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