If you place a few fleas in a glass jar you can safely predict they will jump straight out again. (You see, fleas are quite capable of jumping high. Fleas are the best jumpers in the insect world. They can jump eight to ten inches high, many times their own height.) Now, if you catch them, place them in the jar again and put a lid an amazing piece of behavior reprogramming begins. This time the fleas will learn that there is a limit to their freedom as they hit an obstacle, namely the lid, over and over. After a while you can take the lid off and you will discover to your amazement that the fleas keep jumping inside their &apos;prison&apos; - just a little bit short of freedom. And, if you are not compassionate enough to tip them out, they will probably die within this &apos;safe space&apos;.
The fleas&apos; ability to jump high did not change - but their willingness did. And that&apos;s what determines the difference. And this is pretty much the method of our own programming too, isn&apos;t it?
Week 1 Effective Speech rev 9 14
Welcome to Effective Speech 155
Why It Matters..
YYoouu ccaann cchhaannggee yyoouurr ““sseett ppooiinntt””!!
A person with poor self-esteem
will feel the urge to
put down or condescend to
A person with good self-esteem
when faced with a
person showing ignorance
or confusion or trouble will
try and help the person.
AVOID THINKING OF YOURSELF
IN TERMS OF PERFECTION OR
DDeevveellooppiinngg yyoouurr iinnnneerr ccoonnffiiddeennccee
((wwiitthhiinn aa rreeaalliissttiicc sseellff aapppprraaiissaall))
ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FEARS AND
“Nothing in this world can take
the place of persistence. Talent
will not; nothing is more common
than unsuccessful people with
talent. Genius will not;
unrewarded genius is almost a
proverb. Education will not; the
world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence and determination
alone are omnipotent.”
I didn't say she stole my money - someone else said it
I didn't say she stole my money - I didn't say it
I didn't say she stole my money - I only implied it
I didn't say she stole my money - I said someone did, not
I didn't say she stole my money - I considered it borrowed,
even though she didn't ask
I didn't say she stole my money - only that she stole money
I didn't say she stole my money - she stole stuff which cost
me money to replace