5. The Self-Fulfilling ProphecyThe Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
Our expectations influence ourOur expectations influence our
behaviorsbehaviors
The behavior causes our expectationsThe behavior causes our expectations
to come trueto come true
6. For ExampleFor Example
If I believe I am not good in math, I mayIf I believe I am not good in math, I may
not do the assignment or may evennot do the assignment or may even
avoid taking mathavoid taking math
If I believe I can be good in math, I canIf I believe I can be good in math, I can
take the steps needed to be successfultake the steps needed to be successful
7. Robert RosenthalRobert Rosenthal
Did experiments on the “self-fulfillingDid experiments on the “self-fulfilling
prophecy”prophecy”
AnimalsAnimals
School childrenSchool children
Positive expectations led to positivePositive expectations led to positive
outcomesoutcomes
9. Negative ThoughtsNegative Thoughts
Can be toxic to the bodyCan be toxic to the body
Can cause biochemical changes thatCan cause biochemical changes that
lead to depressionlead to depression
10. Positive ThoughtsPositive Thoughts
Build good self-esteemBuild good self-esteem
Help us to become confident in ourHelp us to become confident in our
abilitiesabilities
Help us to achieve our lifeHelp us to achieve our life
goalsgoals
14. For example:For example:
I, Marsha, am relaxed.I, Marsha, am relaxed.
I, Marsha, am healthy.I, Marsha, am healthy.
15. Share one of your affirmationShare one of your affirmation
statements with the class.statements with the class.
16. Guidelines for IncreasingGuidelines for Increasing
Positive ThoughtsPositive Thoughts
Monitor your thoughts. Are theyMonitor your thoughts. Are they
positive or negative?positive or negative?
When you notice a negative thought,When you notice a negative thought,
imagine rewinding a tape and recordingimagine rewinding a tape and recording
a new positive message.a new positive message.
17. Guidelines for IncreasingGuidelines for Increasing
Positive ThoughtsPositive Thoughts
Start the positive message with “I”Start the positive message with “I”
and use the present tenseand use the present tense
Make your affirmation stronger byMake your affirmation stronger by
visualizing what you want tovisualizing what you want to
achieveachieve
Repeat positive thoughts toRepeat positive thoughts to
yourself until they become a habityourself until they become a habit
19. Athletes Use VisualizationAthletes Use Visualization
A good way to practiceA good way to practice
Helps you to pre-experience events inHelps you to pre-experience events in
your mindyour mind
For example, pole vaultersFor example, pole vaulters
imagine the perfect jumpimagine the perfect jump
before they make itbefore they make it
20. VisualizationVisualization
We create all things twiceWe create all things twice
Make a mentalMake a mental
picturepicture
Create the physicalCreate the physical
reality by takingreality by taking
actionaction
21. For example:For example:
In building a house weIn building a house we
Create a blueprint or planCreate a blueprint or plan
Then we build the houseThen we build the house
22. As a college student:As a college student:
Visualize yourself in your cap and gownVisualize yourself in your cap and gown
walking across the stage to receivewalking across the stage to receive
your diplomayour diploma
23. Exercise:Exercise:
Visualize Your SuccessVisualize Your Success
Draw a picture, make a list orDraw a picture, make a list or
write some sentences.write some sentences.
Share with the classShare with the class
24. Hope for the BestHope for the Best
Believing that you can be successfulBelieving that you can be successful
helps you to be successfulhelps you to be successful
Hopeful students are more successfulHopeful students are more successful
39. Will you finish your careerWill you finish your career
paper on time? Be carefulpaper on time? Be careful
about the language you use.about the language you use.
40. Life is a DangerousLife is a Dangerous
OpportunityOpportunity
41. The Chinese Word for CrisisThe Chinese Word for Crisis
Has Two Characters:Has Two Characters:
DangerDanger
OpportunityOpportunity
42. What is the danger?What is the danger?
What is the opportunity?What is the opportunity?
43. Every adversity has the seedEvery adversity has the seed
of a greater benefit orof a greater benefit or
possibility.possibility.
45. Values are:Values are:
What we think is importantWhat we think is important
What we feel is right and goodWhat we feel is right and good
46. Where do we get our values?Where do we get our values?
47. Values come from:Values come from:
ParentsParents
FriendsFriends
CultureCulture
ChurchChurch
MediaMedia
SocietySociety
48. Assignment:Assignment:
My Personal Coat of ArmsMy Personal Coat of Arms
What your like about yourselfWhat your like about yourself
Your greatest achievementYour greatest achievement
Your most prized possessionYour most prized possession
What you value most in lifeWhat you value most in life
A symbol of your personalityA symbol of your personality
Three words to be remembered byThree words to be remembered by
54. Steps to HappinessSteps to Happiness
Express gratitudeExpress gratitude
Cultivate optimismCultivate optimism
Avoid over thinking and socialAvoid over thinking and social
comparisoncomparison
Practice acts of kindnessPractice acts of kindness
Increase flow activitiesIncrease flow activities
55. Steps to HappinessSteps to Happiness
Savor life’s joysSavor life’s joys
Commit to accomplishing your goalsCommit to accomplishing your goals
Take care of your bodyTake care of your body
56. Secrets to HappinessSecrets to Happiness
Martin SeligmanMartin Seligman
Identifying, cultivating, and using yourIdentifying, cultivating, and using your
personal strengths in work, love, play,personal strengths in work, love, play,
and parentingand parenting
57. Happiness = S + C + VHappiness = S + C + V
SS is your set range (50% of happinessis your set range (50% of happiness
is determined by heredity)is determined by heredity)
CC is your circumstance (8-15 % ofis your circumstance (8-15 % of
happiness)happiness)
VV is what is under your voluntaryis what is under your voluntary
control (40%)control (40%)
58. What are some examples ofWhat are some examples of
factors under your voluntaryfactors under your voluntary
control?control?
59. Seven Habits of HighlySeven Habits of Highly
Successful PeopleSuccessful People
Steven CoveySteven Covey
61. Begin with the end in mindBegin with the end in mind
Know what is importantKnow what is important
What do you want to accomplish in yourWhat do you want to accomplish in your
life?life?
62. Put first things firstPut first things first
Set prioritiesSet priorities
63. Think win-winThink win-win
Seek solutions that benefit everyoneSeek solutions that benefit everyone
Focus on cooperation rather thanFocus on cooperation rather than
competitioncompetition
64. First seek to understand.First seek to understand.
Then be understood.Then be understood.
Listening is the first step in effectiveListening is the first step in effective
communicationcommunication
65. SynergizeSynergize
The whole is greater than the sum of itsThe whole is greater than the sum of its
partsparts
Working together as a team, you canWorking together as a team, you can
accomplish more than each memberaccomplish more than each member
can accomplish separatelycan accomplish separately
66. Sharpen the sawSharpen the saw
Invest time in yourself to stay healthy:Invest time in yourself to stay healthy:
PhysicallyPhysically
MentallyMentally
SpirituallySpiritually
SociallySocially
67. Find your voice and inspireFind your voice and inspire
others to find theirsothers to find theirs
Believe that you can make a differenceBelieve that you can make a difference
in the world and inspire others to do thein the world and inspire others to do the
samesame
FromFrom The 8The 8thth
Habit, From EffectivenessHabit, From Effectiveness
to Greatnessto Greatness by Steven Coveyby Steven Covey
69. Secrets to HappinessSecrets to Happiness
Happiness can’t be boughtHappiness can’t be bought
Happiness is more internal thanHappiness is more internal than
externalexternal
Happiness is not determined by age,Happiness is not determined by age,
race, gender or incomerace, gender or income
Happiness won’t arrive in theHappiness won’t arrive in the
Publisher’s Clearinghouse envelopePublisher’s Clearinghouse envelope
70. Secrets to HappinessSecrets to Happiness
Happiness depends less on things thanHappiness depends less on things than
on our attitude toward the things weon our attitude toward the things we
havehave
Happiness is a ‘hookable” habitHappiness is a ‘hookable” habit
71. Make a decision to chooseMake a decision to choose
happinesshappiness
72. Find small things that makeFind small things that make
you happy and sprinkle youryou happy and sprinkle your
life with them.life with them.
73. Laugh more. LaughterLaugh more. Laughter
produces a relaxationproduces a relaxation
response.response.
74. A good joke beats a pill for aA good joke beats a pill for a
lot of ailments.lot of ailments.
75. Learn to think like an optimist.Learn to think like an optimist.
Assume you will succeed.Assume you will succeed.
77. Do things that use your skills.Do things that use your skills.
78. Fill your life with things youFill your life with things you
like to do. Remember the 20like to do. Remember the 20
things you like to do?things you like to do?
84. If you don’t do anythingIf you don’t do anything
else in life, love someoneelse in life, love someone
and let someone love you.and let someone love you.
85. Keep things in perspective.Keep things in perspective.
Will it matter 10 years fromWill it matter 10 years from
now?now?
88. Have a laugh at life and lookHave a laugh at life and look
around for happiness insteadaround for happiness instead
of sadness.of sadness.
----Red SkeltonRed Skelton
89. The physical act of smilingThe physical act of smiling
makes you feel happier.makes you feel happier.
90. If you do not feel happy, smileIf you do not feel happy, smile
and pretend to be happy.and pretend to be happy.
Smiling produces seratonin which is aSmiling produces seratonin which is a
neurotransmitter linked with feelings ofneurotransmitter linked with feelings of
happinesshappiness
91. So, smile and be happy. UseSo, smile and be happy. Use
your creativity to make someyour creativity to make some
positive changes in your lifepositive changes in your life..
93. What we believe is true,What we believe is true,
comes true.comes true.
What we believe is possible,What we believe is possible,
becomes possible.becomes possible.
----Henry FordHenry Ford
94. Watch your thoughts;Watch your thoughts;
they become words.they become words.
Watch your words;Watch your words;
they become actions.they become actions.
Watch your actions;Watch your actions;
they become habits.they become habits.
Watch your habits;Watch your habits;
they become character.they become character.
Watch your character;Watch your character;
it becomes your destiny.it becomes your destiny.
Frank OutlawFrank Outlaw
96. Grand Essentials of LifeGrand Essentials of Life
Something to do (that you like)Something to do (that you like)
97. Grand Essentials of LifeGrand Essentials of Life
Something to do (that you like)Something to do (that you like)
Someone to loveSomeone to love
98. Grand Essentials of LifeGrand Essentials of Life
Something to do (that you like)Something to do (that you like)
Someone to loveSomeone to love
Something to hope forSomething to hope for
99. Use theUse the
tools intools in
this bookthis book
to createto create
your success.your success.
100. This is not the end of theThis is not the end of the
course but a new beginning.course but a new beginning.
101.
102. Review the Keys to SuccessReview the Keys to Success
in this book. What is yourin this book. What is your
favorite one and why?favorite one and why?
103. Measure Your SuccessMeasure Your Success
Complete the exercise.Complete the exercise.
Pick up the one you did the first day ofPick up the one you did the first day of
class.class.
Compare your results. Is your scoreCompare your results. Is your score
higher?higher?
Staple the two exercises together andStaple the two exercises together and
hand them in.hand them in.
104. Place these in the envelope:Place these in the envelope:
Visualize Your SuccessVisualize Your Success
Happiness Is . . . .Happiness Is . . . .
Intentions for the FutureIntentions for the Future
Put your name and address on it.Put your name and address on it.
