1. Anger Management
Knowthe differencebetweenangerandaggression.
Angerisan emotion. Itis okto be angry.
Aggressionisactingoutinappropriatelyandisnotok. Learnto check youraggressionand
expressyourangerappropriately.
Skills needed in dealing with your anger:
1. Identifyarange of feelingsincludinganger
Embarrassment
Excitement
Disappointment
Jealousy
Fear
Helpless
Sadness
Left-out
2. Identifyaggressiveactsbyself andothers
Throw something
Kicksomeone orsomething
Get insomeone’sface
Shoving,grabbing,hitting
Breaksomething
Call someone names
Give someone adirtylook
Silenttreatment
Get othersto “gang up”
Spreadrumors
3. Identifythe potential consequencestoself andotherfromthese aggressiveacts
Physical harmto someone or self
Destructionof property
Loss of family/friends
Loss of job
2. Loss of social privileges
Goingto jail
Gettinga bad reputation
4. Identifyself-destructive behavior
Negative self-talk
Blamingeveryoneelse
Takingeverythingpersonally
Assuming
Overeating, drinking
Drivingrecklessly
Takingdrugs
Lookingforfights
Feelingoutraged
5. Identifythoughtspriortoaggressiveacts
You didthat on purpose…
You wantedtohurt me…
You deserve this…
You neverevenaskedme…
You’re beingunreasonable…
You thinkyou’re sogood…
I’ll showyou…
You startedit…
There’snojustice…
6. Identifyinternal cuestofeelingsof anger
Stomachgets tight/upset
Heart isbeatingfaster
Clenchingfists
Feel myself gettingflushed
Pressure onmytemples
Sweatypalms
Clenchedjaw
7. Developcopingmechanismsfordealingwithanger
Stepsto taminganger
Knowwhatpushesyourbuttons.
Knowyourbody’sangersigns.
3. Stopand think!
Cage your rage…it’syourchoice.
Decide whatto do.
8. Expressangerwithoutlossof control
Calmdown
Name the problem
Findsolutions
Pickthe bestsolution
Congratulate yourself
Evaluate the solution
Make changesif necessary
Anger Management Self Statement:
I am in charge of my own feelings:
1. I ownmy feelings.
2. It isokay to feel angry.
3. Angerispart of beinghuman.
4. I learnhowto expressmyangerinhelpful ways.
I choose to feel good about myself through expressing my feelings.
1. I expressangryfeelingsinwaysthatare fairto othersand me.
2. I use fairwords…e.g.“Ifeel whenyou”
I stop blaming others and myself.
1. Blamingonlykeepspeople upset.
2. Blamingisa way of not respectingpeople.
3. I expressmyfeelingsandthentrytowork thingsout.
4. I don’t have to hold on to my anger.
1. I findwaysto letitgo
2. I talkabout hurtand angry feelings.
3. I lookforsomeone to discussmyanger.
4. I discussmywordsand actionsthat hurt others.
I remember that people are precious.
1. I watch mythoughts,words,andactions.
2. I stophurtingpeople withmywordsandactions.
3. I take ownershipof the hurtful thingsIdoand say.
4. “Bullying”hurtseveryone.
Ways to keep cool :
1. Get exercise everyday.
2. Eat right.
3. Get enoughsleep.
4. Learn to relax.
5. Knowyourfeelings.
6. Write aboutthose feelings.
7. Finda quietplace.
8. Take a time out.
9. Findfundistractions.
10. Make gooddecisionsaboutwhat yousee andhear.
11. Choose friendswhomake youfeel good.
12. Learn to forgive andforget.