3. What is ANGER?
● Anger is an intense emotion you feel when something has
gone wrong or someone has wronged you.
● It is typically characterized by feelings of stress, frustration,
and irritation.
● Everyone feels anger from time to time.
● It’s a perfectly normal response to frustrating or difficult
situations.
4. Types Of ANGER
There are three types of anger which help in shaping how we react in a situation that makes us angry.
● Passive-Aggressive Anger
● Assertive Anger
● Openly Aggressive Anger
5. 1. Passive - Aggressive Anger
Passive-aggressive behavior can show up in many forms. If someone is
being passive-aggressive, they might:
● "Ghost" you, or seemingly disappear
● Give you a backhanded compliment ("I saw you did the dishes. I was
surprised.")
● Give you the silent treatment
● Indirectly refuse your request (not tell you no, but also not do what you've
asked)
● Make excuses rather than say what is on their mind
● Procrastinate when you've asked them to do something
● Respond to your requests with sarcasm or subtle digs
6. 2. Assertive Anger
The signs and outcomes associated with assertive anger are most easily recognised:
● Being confident and controlled when communicating a point of anger or
frustration
● Thinking about the matter causing the problem in a more profound way to
understand more of the root cause
● Considering the impact and concerns of the other side in the situation
● Controlling your emotions while trying to be empathetic to the other person’s
feelings
● Explaining the source of frustration and anger but at the same time looking to
resolve the matter in a mutually beneficial way
● Be respectful of the other person’s position even if this is the cause of the anger
● Willingness to ask for forgiveness and forgive others who apologise
7. 3. Openly Aggressive Anger
This can be showed in the following ways:
● Fighting
● Bullying
● Blackmailing
● Accusing
● Shouting
● Bickering
● Sarcasm and criticism.
As you all know the most
recent and famous
example….
8. Characteristics of Anger
Inside the Body Outside the Body
● Increased energy levels
● Raised blood pressure
● Spike in hormones like
adrenaline and
noradrenaline
● Increase in body
temperature
● Increased muscle tension
● Raised voices
● Clenched fists
● Frowning or scowling
● A clenched jaw
● Physically trembling
● Rapid heartbeats
● Sweating excessively
● Pacing excessively
9. Consequences of aggressive anger on oneself
Putting your body through the psychological and physical changes caused by anger,
and by repeatedly getting angry, can lead to medical conditions and complications
such as :
● An angry outburst puts your heart at great risk
● Anger ups your stroke risk
● It weakens your immune system
● Anger is also linked to depression
● Hostility can hurt your lungs
● Anger can shorten your life
10. Triggers (What bugs you ?)
Different things can make different
people angry, but everyone feels angry
sometimes.
11. Anger - Producing Situation
● Specific person (s) or Event
● Insults
● Stress and Worries
● Disappointment / Annoyance
● Fears, Resentment, Frustration
● Rejection / Hurt / Embarrassment
● Having possessions taken or broken
● Jealousy
● Being teased or talked about
● Low-Self Esteem
● Grief
● Home Life
14. Factors of Road Rage
● Traffic delays
○ Heavy traffic, sitting at stoplights, looking for a parking space or even
waiting for passengers can increase a driver’s anger level.
● Running late
○ Running behind for a meeting or appointment can cause drivers to be
impatient.
● Anonymity
○ If drivers feel that they probably won’t see other drivers again, they may
feel more comfortable engaging in risky driving behaviors like tailgating,
cutting people off, excessive honking or making rude gestures.
● Disregard for others and the law
○ Some drivers may think the rules don’t apply to them.
● Habitual or learned behavior
○ For some drivers, aggressive driving may be the norm.
16. Domestic Violence
Uncontrolled and inappropriately expressed anger is a major problem in
relationships and in families. Anger and domestic violence is present
when an abuser repeatedly and unpredictably uses intimidation and
threats of physical force to control others. These threats often lead to
physical assaults, resulting in bodily and psychological harm to
sp00ouses, partners and other members of the family. This inappropriate
expression of anger damages and violates trust in intimate relationships.
It can leave its victims with physical and psychological injuries and
trauma, and in severe cases, may lead to death.
17. Anger isn’t the real problem in an abusive relationship
Despite what many believe, domestic violence and abuse does not
happen due to the abuser’s loss of control over their temper. Rather, it’s
a deliberate choice to control another person. If you are abusive towards
your spouse or partner, know that you need specialized treatment, not
regular anger management classes.
18. How to handle Anger ?
Finding ways to cope with anger is very important. Here are a couple of coping
mechanisms that can help :-
Coping Anger
Meditate Let It Out
Avoid Triggers
Work Out
Identify the
Cause
19. Few tips to manage your anger :-
1. Explore what’s really behind your anger
2. Be aware of your anger warning signs
3. Identify your triggers
4. Learn ways to cool down quickly
5. Find healthier ways to express your anger
6. Stay calm by taking care of yourself
7. Use humor to relieve tension
8. Recognize if you need professional help
20. Some questions you must ask yourself before getting
angry…..
● What will be the consequences?
● Is my response appropriate to the situation?
● Is there anything I can do about it?
21. Myths and Facts about Anger
● Myth: I shouldn’t “hold in” my anger. It’s healthy to vent and let it out.
Fact: While it’s true that suppressing and ignoring anger is unhealthy, venting is no
better. Anger is not something you have to “let out” in an aggressive way in order to
avoid blowing up. In fact, outbursts and tirades only fuel the fire and reinforce your
anger problem.
● Myth: Anger, aggression, and intimidation help me earn respect and get what I
want.
Fact: Respect doesn’t come from bullying others. People may be afraid of you, but they
won’t respect you if you can’t control yourself or handle opposing viewpoints. Others
will be more willing to listen to you and accommodate your needs if you communicate
in a respectful way.
● Myth: I can’t help myself. Anger isn’t something you can control.
Fact: You can’t always control the situation you’re in or how it makes you feel, but you
can control how you express your anger. And you can communicate your feelings
without being verbally or physically abusive. Even if someone is pushing your buttons,
you always have a choice about how to respond.
22. Conclusion
We have discussed:-
● Anger, its types and its causes
● Characteristics and consequences of anger
● What usually makes us angry
● Difference between Anger and Aggression
● Road-rage and Domestic Violence
● Anger Management
● Myths and Facts about anger