Co-Dependency Awareness and Interventions

Co-Dependency
Part of the Co-Occurring Disorders Recovery Coaching Series
Recovery & Resilience International in partnership with AllCEUs.com
Co-Occurring Disorders Recovery Coaching Curriculum

Objectives
 Define codependency
 Identify characteristics of the codependent
relationship
 Explore the motivations for these behaviors
 Hypothesize alternate, healthier behaviors

Why I Care/How It Impacts Recovery
 Co-dependency can serve as an alternate
addiction or distraction
 Co-Dependents may use relationships to try to
deal with depression or anxiety
 Ultimately codependency is self-defeating
because one of the few things that cannot be
controlled is the will of another person.

Definition
 Codependency describes a type of relationship in
which
 One partner defines his or her worth or goodness based
on someone else
 The codependent person often chooses relationships in
which the other person needs to be rescued, thereby
making himself or herself indispensable.

Co-Dependency as an Addiction
 Tolerance
 Need more of the same substance/activity
In a codependent relationship, as time passes, the
codependent’s identity becomes increasingly defined by
the relationship with the other person
 Withdrawal
 Not getting the substance, being around the person
results in physical or psychological withdrawals
When apart from or unable to control the other person,
the codependent experiences extreme anxiety and/or
depression

 Spending more time thinking about, engaging in
or recovering from the behavior
 Co-dependents are always hypervigilant to other
peoples behavior, and obsessing about what they are or
are not doing
 Co-dependents spend large amounts of time rescuing or
covering up for the other person “fixing it”
 The codependent gets exhausted taking care of the
other person, but cannot stop because they rely on the
other person to tell them

 Foregoing other interests in order to maintain the
addiction
 The relationship is the “drug” of choice in the
codependents’ lives
 Having that person in their life makes them feel “okay”
or “whole”
 The relationship takes the place of self-love

 Continuing the addiction/relationship despite
negative consequences
 Emotional (depression, anxiety, anger, resentment)
 Social (Loss of other friends)
 Physical (stress-related physical issues)
 Occupational (poor job performance)

Addicts and Codependents
 Low self esteem
 Depression, anxiety
 Need to control
 Fear of abandonment
 Relationship comforts/numbs
 Relationship becomes the addict’s primary focus
 Minimizing, denying, blaming to protect the relationship
 Stinkin’ Thinkin’

 Have difficulty identifying what they are feeling.
 Lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
 Mask pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.
 Experience significant aggression/resentment and negativity

 Have difficulty making decisions.
 Judge what they think, say, or do harshly, as never good enough.
 Value others’ approval of their thinking, feelings, and behavior
over their own.
 Do not perceive themselves as lovable or worthwhile persons
 Seek recognition and praise to overcome feeling less than.
 Have difficulty admitting a mistake.
 Need to appear to be right in the eyes of others and may even lie
to look good.
 Are unable to identify or ask for what they need and want.
 Have trouble setting healthy priorities and boundaries.

 Believe people are incapable of self-care
 Try to convince others what to think or feel.
 Offer unsolicited advice and direction
 Become resentful when their help is rejected
 Lavish gifts, favors or sexual attention on those they want to influence.
 Demand that their needs be met by others.
 Use blame and shame to control.
 Adopt an attitude of indifference, helplessness, authority, or rage to
manipulate outcomes.
 Use recovery jargon in an attempt to control the behavior of others.
 Pretend to agree with others to get what they want.

Interventions
 Identify the benefits and drawbacks to the
relationship AND the benefits and drawbacks to
being single
 Remember that codependency, like other
addictions is used to escape, distract or avoid
pain.
 Begin self-esteem work (There are a myriad of
books and worksheets available)
 Until the person can provide self-validation, all
relationships can potentially become codependent
Recovery & Resilience International in partnership with AllCEUs.com Co-Occurring Disorders Recovery Coaching Curriculum

Apply It
 Identify 3 ways you could have used this information in
the past week.
 What was the situation?
 What did you do?
 How effective was that for you?
 Short term
 Long Term
 If you would have had this new information, what could you
have done differently?
 How would that have changed the outcome?
 How can you start integrating this knowledge into your routine

Summary
 Codependents generally get in relationships with
addicts or others who need to be “rescued.”
 Codependents do not feel worthy or lovable.
They need someone else to validate them
 Recovery involves
 Developing a sense of self-worth
 Addressing the depression and anxiety
 Learning about and creating a network of healthy
relationships

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