2. Marshmallow Towers Activity
• The goal of your group is to build the
tallest and most stable tower
possible
• Work as a team to come up with a
design and a strategy
• Each member of your group should
play an important role
3. Questions:
• What did you notice about how your group
interacted during the activity?
• Purpose of Event
• What Is a Leader?
• Leadership Quotes – which was your favorite?
• What do you hope to learn by the end of the
day?
4. Consumer & Social Movements
• Civil rights movement
• Women’s suffrage
• Disability rights
• Faith movements
• GLBTQ
6. Foster Care Movement
• Youth in Care Network
• California Youth Connection
• Statewide youth advisory boards
• Foster Care Alumni of America
• International foster care movement
19. What’s foster care like
from
YOUR
point of view???
Choose – Connect - Claim
Editor's Notes
Each of these consumer and social movements have left their fingerprints on our lives
The idea behind consumer movements is that the consumers of a service should be involved in its design and delivery, and should be given opportunities to evaluate their experience.
We are the consumers of foster care/adoption, and any time that a new law is passed that effects foster care, it needs our input
Consumers of a service should be involved in its: (WHITEBOARD)
• Design
• Delivery
• Evaluation
The idea behind consumer movements is that the consumers of a service should be involved in its design and delivery, and should be given opportunities to evaluate their experience.
We are the consumers of foster care, and any time that a new law is passed that effects foster care, it needs our input
Consumers of a service should be involved in its: (WHITEBOARD)
• Design
• Delivery
• Evaluation
LISA: History of foster care movement:
Canadian Youth in Care (CYC) now called the Youth in Care Network – led to the creation of California Youth Connection (CYC)
The success of the California Youth Connection led to legislation requiring states to create youth advisory boards
The need for foster care alumni to ALWAYS have a voice and community that they can never “age out” of led to Foster Care Alumni of America
Foster Care Alumni of America is a national organization, created in May 2006
There is an international foster care movement as well
Connect & Transform – Change the Odds – Nothing About Us Without Us
▪ Large group Cultural Awareness activity: Each participant is asked to introduce themselves and one group that they belong to… trying not to use the same group as any of the other people before them. This group could be cultural, based on a physical attribute, based on belonging to a certain club or society, etc. (This is an exercise about belonging).
Self-disclosure is a lot like clothing. We dress to be comfortable with ourselves and around other people. We dress to present ourselves a certain way, and we usually are more comfortable when we’re dressed for the occasion — meaning that we fit in with the way everyone else is dressed.
If we do dress differently from others, we want that to be our choice. Have you ever had the experience of arriving dressed up at an event you thought was formal only to find everyone else in shorts and jeans? Or the other way around?
Likewise, we share information about ourselves in order to present ourselves in a certain way and fit in comfortably with other people. We’re usually most comfortable when the level of self-disclosure is balanced. Sometimes when we share to educate, inform, and influence, the self-disclosure is not balanced and it can feel like showing up wearing the wrong clothes.
If you don’t plan out what you will and will not share ahead of time, you run the risk of experiencing sharer’s remorse. Sharer’s remorse is like a ‘self-disclosure hangover.’ Because, it’s your life, but to them it’s just a story.
If you share too much, that story might be later used against you. Bringing up certain memories can be painful. Listeners might feel sorry for us or decide that we are not credible if we display an excess of emotions when we share.
Double-bind: The very thing that makes us credible to some people (our first-hand experience) may make us not credible to others
"We know that there are major (and often lasting) emotional and behavioral consequences of the experiences we’ve faced, but it’s important for the people who care for us to remember that we are adjusting to our lives and attaching to people as well as we can, based on what our experiences have taught us. Please don’t assume we are broken just because our lives have been."
“Strategic sharing” is making thoughtful choices about how we will tell our life stories so that our voices can be heard, we are effective, and our well being is protected.
Strategic sharing is constructive, respectful, and safe. But it does require work on your part, to plan ahead of time.
Attribution theory: How you interpret events affects how you respond to them.
BOUNDARIES --- HIDDEN RULES – BALANCE OF SHARING
Relationships are based on underlying assumptions about what is or is not appropriate to say or do given the nature of a relationship. The definition of “boundary” is a border or a limit. There are physical boundaries, like a state line or a property line between houses so you know where your yard ends and your neighbor’s begins.
Questions to ask yourself:
What type of relationship is this?
What is the time frame for this relationship?
Is sharing equal in this relationship?
Are there things that you would like to say in this relationship, but you don’t or feel you can’t?
Do you feel that your own boundaries are respected in this relationship?
Whenever possible, balance self-disclosure by inviting audience members to introduce themselves and share from their own experiences.
Stories are:
Memorable and compelling. They put a human face on issues, needs, and problems.
Stories can influence public opinion and public policy
They can motivate change and inspire people to action
They engage the imagination of the audience, and help them see new possibilities and opportunities
Personal growth and self understanding
Connect with other people
Change in our lives and the lives of others
Affirm cultural identity
.
ROLEPLAY
Tips for sharing effectively: Know what you want to accomplish by sharing, be prepared to share Best Practices and success stories (not just horror stories), don’t tell your story from a place of blame, always start from a place of strength
Ask yourself: Where does your motivation come from? What is unique about my story? What lessons can I share from what happened in my life?
What do you want to accomplish?
What meaning did this experience have for you?
Share Best Practices and success stories (not just horror stories)
Tell your story from a place of strength, not blame
Prepare ahead of time:
Choose: What information you will and will not share.
Connect: Know who your audience is and what you want them to learn
Claim: The meaning the experience had for you, how it influenced your thinking and values, how telling this story makes you fell
Select a subject that will interest your audience and that you know something about and feel comfortable discussing.
Be willing to do additional research beyond your initial experiences. Talk about broader perspective: What are the statistics? Was your experience common?
Do your research
Decide what you will and won’t share
Narrow your topic
Outline the main points
Know the statistics
Practice and rehearse
Focus on: hook, closing
Role play
DC trip – how we treat hotel staff reflects on the movement
Dress the part
Poise
Preparation
No candy
Be united
Treat others with respect
“If It Bleeds, It Leads”
Drew Barrymore syndrome
Talking to the Media: Make your answers short and sweet – get to the heart of your story. Be aware that journalists tend to have a thesis that they are trying to prove. Watch out for slanted questions. If they ask questions that you feel uncomfortable answering, redirect to statistics.
If It Bleeds, It Leads.
“The question is what do people need to know, what do they want to know, what do they have the right to know, and if we report this, what are the consequences.” (Keith Connors, News Director)
CHOOSE – what to share
CONNECT – with your audience
CLAIM – what the experience meant to you
