How do we receive feedback? 8 questions.

1. How do we
receive feedback?

2. Question # 1
Why do you want feedback?

3. Why do you want feedback?
1. Do you want praise?
2. Do you want coaching on how to improve?
3. Do you want evaluation of work you did?
https://hbr.org/2015/05/how-to-get-the-feedback-you-need

4. Further inspiration
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Questions-to-discover-your-values-1329394

5. Question # 2
From whom
do you want feedback?

6. Focus on listening to feedback from people who / whom
 are informed / knowledgeable,
 are helpful,
 have your best interests at heart,
 you trust.
https://hbr.org/2015/08/when-its-ok-to-ignore-feedback
https://hbr.org/2015/08/how-to-handle-negative-feedback

7. Further inspiration
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Trust-1957173

8. Question # 3
How can we
ask for feedback?

9. https://hbr.org/2015/05/how-to-get-the-feedback-you-need
http://hbr.org/2014/01/find-the-coaching-in-criticism
 What is 1 thing I could improve on my blog?
 What is one thing I could have done better during our
conversation?
 What could I have done differently during that event?
Examples of questions to ask when you would like feedback

10. The more often you ask for feedback, the
less stressful it becomes to initiate the
conversation and to hear the comments.
https://hbr.org/2015/05/how-to-get-the-feedback-you-need

11. Invite feedback when you are ready for it.
Ready means that you want to hear
the truth.
https://hbr.org/2015/08/the-key-to-giving-and-receiving-negative-feedback

12. When you ask for feedback, you not
only find out how others see you, you
also influence how they see you.
http://hbr.org/2014/01/find-the-coaching-in-criticism

13. The most effective leaders actively seek feedback
http://www.forbes.com/sites/joefolkman/2013/12/19/the-best-gift-leaders-can-give-honest-feedback/

14. Further inspiration
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Question-types-1567673

15. Question # 4
How do we listen to the
person giving feedback?

16. https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Listening-tips-1485898

17. Question # 5
How can we
avoid defending ourselves?

18. To maximize learning from feedback a person
is giving to you, do not defend yourself.
https://hbr.org/2015/12/4-ways-to-become-a-better-learner

19. Eve if the negative feedback you are getting is wrong, it is not
in your best interest to immediately try to prove the person is
wrong. When you try to prove the person wrong, you become
argumentative. That means you close your mind to the useful
information that may be hidden in the poorly presented
feedback.
Instead, simply nod until the other person has completely
finished giving his or her feedback. Thereby, you will make
sure that your counterpart has said what he/she wants to say.
https://hbr.org/2015/08/how-to-handle-negative-feedback

20. If people feel psychologically safe, they
crave truth. If they feel unsafe, even the tiniest
hint of disapproval can be crushing.
How psychologically safe do you feel?
https://hbr.org/2015/08/the-key-to-giving-and-receiving-negative-feedback

21. Question # 6
How can we
ask the person giving feedback
to communicate more clearly?

22. “I want to be sure I understand what you’re saying.
Do I have it right that you feel . . .?”
This question can help the other person communicate
clearly whatever his or her core message may be.
https://hbr.org/2015/08/how-to-handle-negative-feedback

23. Question # 7
How can we
ask for time to consider
feedback we receive?

24. “I appreciate your feedback. I’d like to give what you’ve
said some thought and get back to you. “Is there anything
else I should know?”
Saying this demonstrates that you take the feedback you
have received seriously.
https://hbr.org/2015/08/how-to-handle-negative-feedback

25. Asking for time to consider feedback you have received
defuses the immediate situation. It tells the other person
who gives you feedback that you consider their feedback
important enough that you want to consider it carefully and
calmly.
And it allows you to think through the accuracy of what
you’ve been told, perhaps testing its validity with others.
https://hbr.org/2015/08/how-to-handle-negative-feedback

26. Question # 8
How often do we
thank for feedback we receive?

27. http://www.inc.com/peter-economy/a-gratitude-guide-for-2014.html
It only takes a minute to express our gratitude.

28. Thank you.

29. Further inspiration
http://www.ascd.org/publications/educational-leadership/sept12/vol70/num01/Seven-Keys-to-Effective-Feedback.aspx
http://www.businessinsider.com/linkedin-ceo-jeff-weiner-2014-6
http://www.fastcompany.com/1753874/feedback-usually-says-more-about-the-giver-than-the-receiver
http://www.gsb.stanford.edu/news/headlines/carole-robin-feedback-gift
https://hbr.org/2013/02/how-to-give-a-meaningful-thank
http://humanresources.about.com/cs/communication/ht/receivefeedback.htm
http://jp.dk/jptv/nyheder_erhverv/karriere/article2514562.ece
Schein, Edgar H.: Process Consultation, p. 98.
http://smartblogs.com/leadership/2011/07/20/how-much-feedback-is-too-much/
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/Hello-speaker-how-will-you-prepare-1449028
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/How-do-we-give-feedback-1761017
https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Product/How-should-people-be-paid-1374105
http://web.hbr.org/email/archive/managementtip.php?date=022610
http://youtu.be/wnojHbEBGqU