Managing conflict in relationshipsPresentation Transcript
INTRODUCTION TOINTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATIONASSIGNMENT NO 01GROUP NO 05Group members K.W.R.C.P.KUMARA (TC/IS/2010/CS 10) D.H.WITHARANA (TC/IS/2010/CS/27) S.W.N.S.SUMANAPALA (TC/IS/2010/CS/29) G.S.DARSHINI (TC/IS/2010/CS/07)
Interpersonal conflict exists whenpeople who depend on each otherexpress different views, interests,or goals that they perceive as incompatible or opposed.Defining InterpersonalConflict
Interpersonal conflict is expressed disagreement, struggle, or discord.Conflict exists only if dis agreements or tensions areexpressed in same way.Some times we express dis agreement overtly ordirectly, such as by saying ,‘’ I am furious with you’’Conflict are more convert or indirect, such asdeliberately not answering the phone because youare angry with the caller.Expressed Disagreement
Interpersonal conflict can occur onlybetween people who depend on eachother in the area of the conflictInterpersonal conflict exists only whenit is expressed by people who affectone another.Interdependence
Conflict is more than just having differenceswe differ with people about many things, butthis doesnt invariably lead to conflict.Ex:- My – in – laws don’t like large dogs , andwe don’t like small ones.Conflict involves tensions betweengoals, preferences, or decisions that we feelwe need to reconcile.Conflict involves two perceptions.The Felt Need For Resolution
Many people view conflict as inherentlynegative. But that is a misunderstanding.1)Conflict is natural in relationships.Conflict is normal , inevitable part of mostinterpersonal relationships . when peoplematter to each other and affect each other ,disagreements are unavoidablePrinciples of Conflict
When we defined conflict ,we noted thatdisagreement can be expressed either overtly .over conflict is out in the open and explicit.1)Conflict can be managed well or poorly.2)Conflict can be good for individuals andrelationships.Conflict maybe overt or covert
Our cultural membership andsocialization in particular socialcommunities effect how we view andrespond to conflict.I. Cultural differences regarding conflict.II. Differences among social communities.Social groups shape the meaning ofconflict behaviors
People respond to conflict in a variety ofways’ from physical attack to verbalaggression to collaborative problemsolving.Conflict can be managed well orpoorly
We deepen insight into our ideasand feelings when we express themand get response from others.Conflict can be good forindividuals and relationships
A lose- lose orientation assumes that conflictresult in losses for everyone and that it isunhealthy and destructive for relationships.The lose-lose orientation is not usuallybeneficial in dealing with conflicts inrelationships.LOSE- LOSE
Win-lose orientation assume that one personwins at the expense of the other.The win-lose orientation is cultivated incultures that place value on individualism,self- assertion, and competition.A win-lose approach to conflict is notcommon in cultures that place priority oncooperation .WIN LOSE
That are usually ways to resolve difference sothat gains.A win – win resolution is often possible.Win-win attitudes result in compromises thatsatisfy enough of each person’s needs toprovide the health of the relationship.WIN-WIN
The Exit responseThe Neglect responseThe Loyalty responseThe Voice responseResponses to conflict
The exit response involves physically walkingout are psychologically withdrawing.Refusing to talk about a problem is anexample of psychological exit.Ending a relationship and learning whenconflict arises are examples of literal exit.Because exit doesn’t address problems, it is aforceful way to avoid conflict , it is active.The Exit response
The neglect response denies or minimizesproblems, disagreement, anger, tension orother matters that could lead to overtconflict.Neglect generally is destructives because itdoesn’t resolve tension.It is passive because it avoids discussion .Either the person thinks that escalating thedisagreement will harm everyone, or theperson thinks that he or she will lose it theconflict is allowed to progress.The Neglect response
The loyalty response is staying committed toa relationship despite differences.In other words the person who adoptsloyalty as a response to conflict decides tostay in a relationship and tolerate thedifferences.Loyalty is silent allegiance that doesn’tactively address conflict, so it is a passiveresponse.The Loyalty response
The voice response addresses conflictdirectly and attempts to resolve it.People who respond with voice identifyproblems or tensions and assert a desire todeal with them.Thus , voice often is the most constructiveway of responding to conflict in enduringintimate relationship.The Voice response
Constructive UnproductiveValidation of each other Disconfirmation of each otherSensitive listening Poor listeningDual perspective Preoccupation with selfRecognition of other’s Cross- complainingconcernsAsking for clarification Hostile mind readingInfrequent interruptions Frequent interruptionsFocus on specific issues Kitchen-sinkingCompromises and contracts CounterproposalsUseful meta communication Excessive meta communicationSummarizing the concerns Self – summarizing by both partnersConstructive andUnproductive communication
Compromise is giving up a little to gainlittle as a quick resolutiontradingrandom selection or flipping a coinbeware of too much compromisingon one sideOutcomes of conflict
Win-win solutions please bothpartiesLose-lose solutions solves conflictbut no one is happySeparation removes you from therelationshipDecide to agree with the otherperson.
Conflict management is how weengage in conflictIt is how address disagreementswith our relational partners
Escapist strategies avoid the issuesChallenging strategies promotes yourpoint of view like assertivenessManaging conflict
Attend to the relationship level of meaningCommunicate supportivelyListen mindfullyTake responsibility for your thoughts feelings and issuesCheck perceptionsLook for points of agreementLook for ways to preserve the others faceImagine how you will feel in the futureConflict management skills
Cooperative strategiesBenefit the relationship and serve mutualgoalsAvoid verbal aggressivenessProbing asking questionsNegotiating alternatives
Respect the right to disagreeExpress your real concernsShare common goals and interestsOpen yourself to different points of viewListen carefully to all proposalsUnderstand the major issues involvedThink about probable consequencesImagine several possible alternative solutionsOffer some reasonable compromisesNegotiate mutually fair cooperative agreements
Communication is systemic which means itoccurs in contexts and it is composed ofmany interacting parts. Applying theprincipal of system to conflict we can seethat how we deal with conflict is shaped bythe overall system of relationship andcommunication.
Timing effects how we communicateabout conflicts. There are three waysto use chronemics so that conflicts aremost likely to be effective .first try notto engage is serious conflict discussionsat time when one or both people willnot be fully present psychologically.
When conflict exists two peoplewho care about each other & wantto sustain a good relationship. Win-win style is usually the best choice.
we are emphasized the importanceof honoring yourself ,others, andrelationship.It’s important to keep all three inbalance, especially when conflict arise.
Grace is sometimes appropriate .Grace is granting forgiveness or puttingaside our own needs when there is nostandard that says we should or must doso. grace is not forgiving when weshould (for instance , excusing peoplewho aren’t responsible for their actions.