Intro to Conflict Styles and Conflict Resolution

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Short intro to a five-styles-of-conflict framework for conflict resolution. This 10 slide presentation is similar to another one on Slidecast by the same author, titled "Intro to Conflict Styles".

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Intro to Conflict Styles and Conflict Resolution

  1. 1. Copyright 2009 Riverhouse ePress www.ConflictStyleMatters.com From Riverhouse ePress Publisher of Intro to Styles of Conflict Resolution
  2. 2. <ul><li>Two factors strongly shape our choice of conflict resolution style: </li></ul><ul><li>How hard do we push for the things we want , our agenda ? and… </li></ul>
  3. 3. How much attention do we give to the relationship ?
  4. 4. Relationship and own Agenda When we put the two factors together, we get five different styles of conflict resolution . Each has a different focus, and a unique set of strengths and weaknesses .
  5. 5. DIRECTING Focus on own agenda: High Focus on relationship: Low I win/you lose. How? Assert, control, compete. Insist, demand, defeat. Low focus on relationship High focus on own agenda We’re doing it my way... Let’s just get the job done. (We’ll worry about the relationship later...)
  6. 6. High focus on relationship Low focus on own agenda HARMONIZING Focus on own agenda: Low Focus on relationship: High I lose/you win. How? Agree, go along, give in, affirm. Sure, I’m flexible . Whatever you’re happy with is fine with me....
  7. 7. Low focus on relationship Low focus on own agenda AVOIDING Focus on own agenda: Low Focus on relationship: Low I lose/you lose. How? Withdraw, remain silent, walk away, postpone discussion, delay responding. Let me out of here…! I don’t want to talk about it… Conflict? What conflict?
  8. 8. High focus on relationship High focus on own agenda COOPERATING Focus on own agenda: High Focus on relationship: High I win/you win. How? Dialogue. Agree to talk things through. Assert self and support the other. Let’s talk this through… My preference is….. And I want to hear and understand yours…..
  9. 9. If we each back off and accept half of what we want, we can get an agreement and move on… COMPROMISING Focus on own agenda: Medium Focus on relationship: Medium We both win some/We both lose some. How? Bargain, strike a deal, find a little something for everyone.
  10. 10. “ W hen the on l y tool you have is a hammer, everything you see is a nail.” Mark Twain Each conflict resolution style is a valuable tool, essential for situations all of us face. We handle conflict better when we are skilled in using all five styles. Then we can choose the response most likely to bring a good outcome. www.ConflictStyleMatters.com
  11. 11. Resources for learning about styles of conflict resolution <ul><li>Free essays and web resources on conflict resolution styles. </li></ul><ul><li>Free Trainers Guide to Conflict Style Workshops. </li></ul><ul><li>The Thomas Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument . Online $29.95. Print $14.25 from www.CPP.com </li></ul><ul><li>Style Matters: The Kraybill Conflict Style Inventory . Online with report and detailed tutorial $5.95. Print version $6.95 from www.ConflictStyleMatters.com </li></ul><ul><li>Comparison between the two leading inventories. </li></ul>

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