Parenting, How can you build a legacy by Dr. Kanwal Kaisser

1. Our children, Our Legacy
Dr. Kanwal Kaisser

2. What do people leavebehind for
posterity?
Wealth Property
Business
Empires
Charity
homes
Name/
landmarks

3. What we think about kids?
Our children are the
next generation and
we are passing on a
legacy to them—
whether for good or
for ill.

4. Questions for parents
For those of
us who are
parents or
grandparen
ts:
What hope
do we have
that our
children
will stand
by their
faith?
Live by
their
values?
What are
you
counting
on?
What are
you hoping
in— that
will
produce
relationally
healthy,
followers of
God?

5. Alarming decline in moral direction and
spiritual values
No need for
religion
Science
reigns
Nuclear
family
disintegrated
Society is
competitive
and
materialistic

6. Parenting approach
Child oriented
Vague parental focus
Less direction for right and wrong
Focus of success is material prosperity
Changes in culture and society have
been so gradual that the human mind
has not always detected them

7. WeLive In A Culture Hostile to Values
• Diminished respect for marriage
• Unfaithfulness in marriage
• Rise in divorce rates
• Destroying gender role distinctions
• Distractions - Busy mom’s and dad’s
• More focus on the secular than the holy
The world’s
attack on the
family

8. The LondonSundayTimesof November 1,
1998, reported
“According to Kay Hymowitz, author of a book on
tweens [an age group between childhood and
adolescence]... busy parents are spending less
time with their children—so television,
magazines and peers at school are becoming
more significant influences on children's lives.
‘It's a very disturbing trend’ [Hymowitz] said.
‘Parental absence, the market and the peer group
form a vicious circle that works to distort the
development of youngsters.’”

9. Raising Godly Children In An
Ungodly World
We Live In A Culture Hostile to Godly Values
Television, movie, and music industries glorify immorality of all kinds
– especially sexual sins., while ridiculing godliness
Government education promotes immorality and tolerance for every
form of ungodliness – while forbidding exhibitions of faith in Christ -
Naturalistic Evolution and humanism are taught in public schools at
every level -

10. What parents need…..
Recapture a strong
sense of values and
beliefs
Teach their offspring
so as to benefit them
and succeeding
generations.

11. Think About It …
What are things that are strong or significant
influences on children and young people in our
society?

12. Back tobasics

13. Become a good coach in their decisions.
Counsel with an open heart, an open mind, and an open Bible
Mentor, using your life as an example
Be a friend for life

14. Right Foundation
What is the purpose of the foundation of a building?
Why would we need a spiritual foundation?

15. Advice of Luqman to his sons

16. Listen for ways we should
communicatewith our children

17. Share Your Life Message
What kind of Quranic truths or principles
might be taught in this situation?

18. Share Your Life Message
What kind of Quranic truths or principles might be
taught in this situation?

19. Share Your Life Message
What kind of Quranic truths or principles might be
taught in this situation?

20. Keep Your Focus

21. Teach Them How To Love By Loving
Them
To love them
is to value
them

22. Teach ThemGod’s Word
Begin teaching
them the Quran
early
Teach them
“diligently” –
keeping it before
them at all times
Teach them by
living it

23. Discipline Them Properly
This includes positive teaching and training – teaching them to
respect authority
Teach them to think – discerning right from wrong
Punish disobedience

24. Regulate Their Friends
Do not be deceived into thinking that worldly friends
will not negatively influence your child. Children may
see it as intrusive, especially in the teenage years, but
it is necessary – it is your duty to protect them.

25. Dress Them Appropriately
Teach them
the meaning
and
importance
of modesty
Like it or not,
clothing
sends a
message

26. Get Them Involved In Good Deeds
Getting them
involved in
helping others
consistently
will train them
to be conscious
of others needs.