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Positive Parenting

  1. 1. Secrets of Positive Parenting Gathered By:- Divyashu Sharma (School Counsellor)
  2. 2. child in the 21st century is more challenging than ever. All parents want to do the best they can to raise their child healthy. There are many forces that influence choices child will make. Child rely on their parents for guidance about tough decisions. Raising
  3. 3. 1. Become an expert of your child development. 2. 3 things mostly required is :Love, Boundaries, and Power. 3. New Communication techniques. 4. Allow to fail. 5. Delay, Delay, and Delay. 6. Look in the mirror. 7. Think “basics”. 8. Develop and nurture a support network for yourself.
  4. 4.  Requirement of time and outgoing efforts on your part.  Why its important to understand and what does it mean?  It‟s a process by which child acquire social, cognitive, and emotional skills to navigate.  The process is based on age, temperament, environment and more. The behaviour you see is its product.  Child develop: socially, cognitivelly, physically, sexually, emotional
  5. 5.  On Social Development:- • Provide encouragement, an understanding ear and guidance when needed. Facilitate child‟s connection and provide appropriate supervision.  On Cognitive Development:- • Give opportunities to make good choices and decisions but don‟t count on them to always do so.  On Physical Development:• Self Conscious about their physical development. Don‟t compare.
  6. 6. On Sexual Development:- • Teaching about sex and values you want to pass along, discuss the emotional aspects of sexual relationship. On Emotional Development:- • Emotions are more intense as compared to adults.
  7. 7. Love:- • Unconditional love, expressed properly. Boundaries:- • Clear rules and expectations, non negotiable, teach appropriate behaviour. Power:- • Let them express their voice, their views and opinions. They want to make their own decisions. Guide them.
  8. 8.  Some tips • 1. learn to read body language. • 2. know child‟s friend and friend‟s parents. • 3. know all the adults who play an important role like teachers, coaches, leaders, develop relationship with them. • 4. Focus on the relationship with your child. • 5.Create comfortable moments where communication can unfold naturally. • 6. Get familiar with the technologies.
  9. 9. Failure to change. 2. Problem solving without being asked. 3. Being over involved to save your child from mistakes and pain. What they can do?  Engage them in conversation, rather then directing them.  Identify your non negotiable rules or expectations and be willing to open discussion on all.  Listen with respect to what they say not the words but underlying emotions. 1.
  10. 10.  Don‟t hesitate to counsel your child if he/she fails.  Avoid giving any punishment as it will lower down there self confidence.  Ask yourself that Don‟t you have failed in any life situation.
  11. 11.  Delay the start.  Providing the things before time can be harmful for them.  Don‟t make your dependent as you time to listen to them. child technology may not have much
  12. 12.  Ask yourself about • Are you enhancing your relationship with your child ? • Are you contributing to problems ? • Are you responsible for creating the environment and family culture in your home ? as its your primary responsibility. • Are you maximizing your influence ?
  13. 13. CRISIS PLAN Step 1: Breath deeply to slow down things, don‟t sleep on it, if possible. Step 2: Identify objectivity what has happened. Step 3: Ask „What is the best outcome we can have.‟ Step 4: Ask „How can I help make this happen‟
  14. 14.  Treat your child with respect.  Listen  Allow  Be with your head and heart. your child to express their emotions. comfortable exercising your authority and your flexibility when appropriate.  Get help when you need it- getting help from a professional which is a sign of strength.  Allow others to play a role.
  15. 15.  Develop and nurture a support network make a meeting with parents of your child‟s friends.  Organize social gathering.
  16. 16.  Parents can have the strongest influence by starting direct conversations with their child.  Have confidence to speak directly.  Consequences are needed and should be communicated clearly.  Be logical to support future safety.  Don‟t impose consequences harshly in a way that devalues your child.  Be available for them always.
  17. 17.  Simply listening without fixing problems goes a long way.  Be interested in the new ideas and thoughts that only they can have. They feel valued and proud.  Point  Give out all the things they do well. them responsibilities they can accomplish.  Guide them when they need and monitor them to set their boundaries.
  18. 18. Reference : www.parentingteensinfo.com and www.squidoo.com Helpline No. : +91 860 73 483 78, + 91 90 500 67 674 Email @: pgscounsellor@gmail.com