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Women Don’t
Ask?
Presented by:
Michelle Lounsbery, JD, MBA
Introduction
 Grew up on a custom harvesting crew
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lqR-KpNUx4
 Daughter of
 First in family to get a doctoral degree
 Formerly the Executive Director of AGC –
Moving to Howalt+McDowell
Observations and Frustrations
 Mother never asks
 Afraid of conflict
 Does not want to run the risk of hurting
relationships
 Backs away from conflict
 Personal situation
Why are we talking about this?
 Women’s ability to ask (negotiate) is
hampering our ability to break the glass
ceiling and regain pay equality.
 If we don’t ask, how can we expect to get?
Alarming statistics
 57% of men negotiate their starting salary
 Only 7% of women do?
 Why?
 Women earn 77 cents on the dollar.
 Why?
 Outcomes of this type of behavior?
 Millions lost
Did you ask?
 Think back to your last position -Did you
negotiate ?
 Did you negotiate for different terms?
 Yes – Why?
 No – Why not?
 What about in your personal life?
 What have you asked/negotiated for?
 Feelings about that?
Negotiating
 Why do most women feel uncomfortable
negotiating?
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Jdk3riKKw
o
Negotiating is equated as conflict
 Constructive Healthy Conflict vs. Non-Healthy
conflict
 There is a difference…..
Negotiating is ASKING!
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BAj2j26kuzo
 Different parts of the process:
 1) Interests
 2) Position
 3) Agreement
 4) Best Alternative to Negotiated Agreement.
(BATNA)
 The process used when asking?
In addition to asking…..
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18uDutylDa
4
Closing questions/remarks!
 Resources used for this presentation;
 Women Don’t ask – by Linda Babcock and
Sara Laschever
 Lean in by Sheryl Sandberg
QUESTIONS or
COMMENTS?
I can be reached at 605-759-0441 or
Email at michellelounsbery@hotmail.com

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Women Don’t Ask

  • 2. Introduction  Grew up on a custom harvesting crew  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lqR-KpNUx4  Daughter of  First in family to get a doctoral degree  Formerly the Executive Director of AGC – Moving to Howalt+McDowell
  • 3. Observations and Frustrations  Mother never asks  Afraid of conflict  Does not want to run the risk of hurting relationships  Backs away from conflict  Personal situation
  • 4. Why are we talking about this?  Women’s ability to ask (negotiate) is hampering our ability to break the glass ceiling and regain pay equality.  If we don’t ask, how can we expect to get?
  • 5. Alarming statistics  57% of men negotiate their starting salary  Only 7% of women do?  Why?  Women earn 77 cents on the dollar.  Why?  Outcomes of this type of behavior?  Millions lost
  • 6. Did you ask?  Think back to your last position -Did you negotiate ?  Did you negotiate for different terms?  Yes – Why?  No – Why not?  What about in your personal life?  What have you asked/negotiated for?  Feelings about that?
  • 7. Negotiating  Why do most women feel uncomfortable negotiating?  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Jdk3riKKw o
  • 8. Negotiating is equated as conflict  Constructive Healthy Conflict vs. Non-Healthy conflict  There is a difference…..
  • 9. Negotiating is ASKING!  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BAj2j26kuzo  Different parts of the process:  1) Interests  2) Position  3) Agreement  4) Best Alternative to Negotiated Agreement. (BATNA)  The process used when asking?
  • 10. In addition to asking…..  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18uDutylDa 4
  • 11. Closing questions/remarks!  Resources used for this presentation;  Women Don’t ask – by Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever  Lean in by Sheryl Sandberg
  • 12. QUESTIONS or COMMENTS? I can be reached at 605-759-0441 or Email at michellelounsbery@hotmail.com

Editor's Notes

  1. Insert personal pictures here
  2. Why is constructive conflict healthy and needed?