170404 The Road Less Traveled - Love

1. The Road Less Traveled
11 March 2017
LOVE
Risk of Independence, Risk of Commitment.

2. The Purpose
• To be brave enough to take a risk in growing up, the real
process of growing up inside. Knowing the sole purpose of
Commitment in our life, to use it as our foundation of having a
genuine loving relationship.

3. Risk of Independence

4. Risk of Growing Up
• Growing Up
– The act of stepping from childhood into
adulthood

5. Growing Up Outside ≠ Growing Up Inside
– Even successful adults remain psycho-logical children
until their death

6. The Leap
• Growing up occurs
gradually with
multiple leaps into the
unknown.

7. Growing up & LOVE
• Growing Up is act of self-love
• Love is the base for the courage to take
a risk.
• When we GROW UP
We can proceed to the highest level of
spiritual growth
We are free to manifest love in its greatest
dimensions

8. Be A Good Person No
Matter How Different You
Might Be

9. COMMITMENT
• Taking a risk to get married, have babies, get
a higher position in career
You choose to do it by your own Commitment, not
what people expect from you.
Don’t make a SHALLOW Commitment
You will act out of love, become subjective and
know nothing to act genuine love

10. • Shallow Commitment could either:
– Grow into a DEEP Commitment (help to assure a relationship)
– Destroy the relationship.
Genuine Love is always
a free choice
Not act of conformity
Even Deep Commitment can’t guarantee the success of
a relationship, what about not having one?

11. Risk of Commitment

12. Commitment
• Is the foundation of any Genuinely
Loving relationship
• Even deep commitment does not guarantee the success of the
relationship, what about not having one?

13. • Shallow commitments may grow deep
with time
If not, the relationship will likely
crumble or else be inevitably sickly or
chronically frail

14. GENUE LOVE
Sense of commitment which makes possible the transition
from falling in love to

15. Problems of commitment are a
major, inherent part of most
psychiatric disorders

16. FEAR THE RISK OF COMMITING
Because:
• They basically do not understand what
cimmitment is all about
• They grew up without experience of
commitment

17. Commitment is the cornerstone
of the psychotherapeutic
relationship

18. “I’LL DESERT YOU BEFORE YOU
DESERT ME” SYNDROME
Such injuries can be healed only if it is possible for the person to
have a basic and more satisfying experince with commitment at a
later date

19. TRY TO “ LET GO”
Such injuries caused by a parental failure of commitment are not
healed by a few words, a few superficial reassurences. On
successively deeper levels they must be worked through again and
again

20. SEE YOU!Next Saturday:
The Myth of Romantic Love
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