The document discusses developing self-compassion as an essential leadership trait and superpower. It notes that fear provides valuable data but people should aim to have less fear rather than being fearless. Self-compassion involves treating oneself with kindness, understanding and non-judgment rather than self-pity or selfishness. Developing self-compassion through practices like expressive writing can increase resilience and perseverance while reducing stress.

1. The Courage & Compassion to Change
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2. I. Beating ourselves up
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3. PERSONAL STORY:
OVER-CONFIDENCE, FEAR AND FAILURE
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5. Telling people to be fearless
is superficial and lacks empathy.
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6. FEAR IS INVALUABLE DATA
Signals desire or danger.
Learn from it.
Don’t be fearless.
Have less fear.
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7. When did fear propel you to take a
courageous chance?
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8. Beyond fear: what fuels courage?
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9. What I learned at Courage Camp
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10. How rebels sustain courage
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11. II. Self-compassion: the essential superpower
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12. Fear
Courage
Self-compassion builds our
perseverance
The path from fear to courage
is rarely a straight shot
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13. Courage
Self-compassion
SELF-COMPASSION:
Essential leadership trait
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14. Self-pity
Self-indulgence
Self-esteem
Self-centered
Self-confidence
Selfish
Self-kindness
Sense of humanity
Self-compassion isn’t: Self-compassion is:
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15. Self-compassion develops:
Resiliency
Optimism
Perseverance
Less stress, anxiety
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16. Compassion: increases
perseverance on difficult tasks
by over 30 percent.
Nudging the mind to be more
patient and more self-less
benefits everyone whom our
decisions impact, including
our future selves.
This give us not only grit, but
grace.
Dr. David DeStano,
Northeastern University
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17. The more self-compassionate,
the less severe stress, anxiety.
Resiliency may be
the most remarkable benefit
of self-compassion.
Dr. Kristin Neff
Univ. of Texas/Austin
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18. Self-compassion has all the
advantages of self-confidence
without the downside of
delusion.
Eric Barker
Barking Up the Wrong Tree
Self-compassionate people are
better able to accept feedback
and improve because
of an objective view of reality.
Beware the Dunning-
Kruger Effect of self-
confidence
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19. Honesty Perseverance
Bravery Enthusiasm
Self-compassion cultivates the four traits of courage.
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20. III. Developing self-compassion
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21. “I’m having a bad brain day.”
“I speak to my brain as
though it is a group of
children. Please stop bringing
this stuff up.
“Deciding that internal verbal
abuse is not acceptable
behavior is the first step in
finding deep inner peace.”
Dr. Jill Bolte Tayler
”My Stroke of Insight:
A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey”
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REFRAME
I’m so excited.
Not yet.
This is an adventure.
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23. What advice would
a kind, compassionate
friend give you?
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24. …or an imaginary friend?
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25. “Expressive writing is a far more
powerful tool than we ever
imagined."
Dr. James Pennebaker
Univ. of Texas/Austin
ü Organizes jumble of thoughts.
ü Constructs a new narrative.
ü 15 minutes/4 days in a row.
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26. “We can recognize that
everyone has times when they
blow it, and treat ourselves
kindly.
“Maybe we weren’t able to put
our best foot forward, but we
tried, and falling flat on one’s
face is an inevitable part of life.
“An honorable part, in fact.”
Dr. Kristen Neff, Self-Compassion
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27. Learn from your fear.
Be kind to yourself.
Love your courage.
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28. PERSONAL STORY:
OVERCOMING A WORK TRAGEDY WITH EXPRESSIVE WRITING
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30. LOIS KELLY
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RebelsatWork.com
Foghound.com
CourageCamp.net
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