How to deal with our need for people in our lives.

2.  It is natural to gravitate towards some people
 Crushes are natural part of life
 We will have desires to be friends with
certain people to a certain extent
 Its totally okay.

3.  When it becomes unhealthy is when these
desires have you
 We begin to covet other people’s
relationships and wish they were ours or wish
we had something like that
 We become consumed by these people and
these people end up controlling us.
 Much criminal activity happens when one
person’s obsession went too far.

4.  When we feel like we “need” these people in
our lives (We try to control them)
 When these people become our “all in all” (We
put too much heart into them)
 When people leave our lives and we still want
them
 When people think they have something with
someone when they truly don’t (perceived
relationship)
 When we base our identity and put so much
energy into these relationships.

5.  Grief (Loss)
 Rejection/Dejection
 Sadness
 Despair
 Depression
 Anger/Control
 Insecurity
 ETC

6.  Need for “love”
 Need for companionship
 Lack of Fulfillment
 Hole of Rejection
 Perceived Relationship

7.  1. Give it to God
 1 Peter 5:7 Cast all care
 Psalms 23:1, John 11 Jesus is the good
shepard

8. 2. Realize The Discrepancy
A. You may want this person as a friend, but
this person may not really want it
B. This person may not feel the same way as
you.

9. 3. Move On
A. Realize these people will not be what you
want them to be in your life, so move on
from them and make new friends.
B. God will send you the right people (Psalms
23:1, 37:4-5) when he is ready, continue to
delight yourself in the Lord.

10.  1. Have faith in God’s love
 A. Realize no one else can love you like they
can
 B. Your search for love ends with Christ
 C. Meditate on how much God loves you
(Romans 5:8, 1 John 4:19, John 3:16, 1
Corinthians 13)

11.  2. Have healthy expectations of people
 A. People are Human
 B. Do not develop a relationship with
someone without their approval
 C. Love people anyways

12.  3. Be secure in God, not people
 A. Your identity is found in Christ, not in a
group of people
 B. People will come and go, so let go and let
God. You cannot “make” someone love you,
but all you can do is love God and them and
leave the results up to God
 C. People will be the way they are, find people
that will love you and keep God first place.

13.  Remember that God’s love reigns supreme. If
you are searching for a girl or guy to really
“love you”, know that in God, you will find
that love.
 Go with the flow…don’t try to control
everything, let God be in control.
 Remember God is first, so release anyone you
put before him.