This document discusses social awkwardness and how to deal with it in oneself and others. It defines social awkwardness as being out of sync or out of place in social situations, which everyone experiences to some degree due to living in a fallen world. Some signs of social awkwardness mentioned include lack of social skills, patience, kindness or manners. The document advises being patient, kind, and encouraging towards others, while also setting boundaries, and pointing them to Christ for help with their issues. When dealing with one's own social awkwardness, it recommends submitting to God daily, thinking humbly of oneself, communicating tactfully, guarding one's heart against sin, treating others well, and not overreacting to others' awkward

1. DealingwithSocial AwkwardnessandToxicPeople
Introduction-Thingsthatcanannoyand drive people nuts
Thesis-Due tosin,we all have trouble relatingtopeople,fittinginandfindingouridentity,butwe are to
worshipGodand walkinlove inorderto curb social awkwardness.
What isSocial Awkwardness?Thingsare outof joint
What isconsideredsocial awkwardness?Manypeople justthinkwhateverbothersthem, andhave
differentideasandlabelsornotfollowingthe rulesandwalkingastraitline.Butthere are two camps:
1. Those whoknowtheyare messedup
A. These people are eithertryingtogetbetteror livingmesseduplives.Theyknow theyare
sinnersbuttheyare powerlesstochange theircondition.
2. Those whoknowtheyare messedupbutare livingasif theyare not
A. These people usuallypointthe fingeratsocial awkwardnesswheninfact,theyhave
problemsof theirown.Theytendtofocuson the problemsof othersinorderto coverup
theirproblems.Theymayevenwantspecial treatmentcomparedtoothers.
B. Theymay thinktheyare better,or more superiorthanothersor more special thanothersor
eventhinktheyare ina class of theirownor more importantthanothers.
C. However,theyare justas social awkward,orevenworse orbetter.
Romans12:3 “Thinkof yourself soberly”
Everyone issociallyawkwardtoapoint,itis justthat social awkwardnessisusuallycaughtwhen
someone isoutof jointina crowd.Everyone usuallyhasapart to play.
How isSocial Awkwardnessdisplayed?
1. Lack of Social SkillsandReading Cues
2. Lack of Patience orKindnessorManners
3. ChildishMannerisms(“Lookatme”)
4. Talkingoutof turn,not communicatingorthinkingproperly
5. Tryingto pushor coerce anyone whentheysaidnoSee Stalking.
6. Relyingonfeelingsratherthanreality
7. Beingneedy,clingyorarrivingtoosoon
8. Beingfearful,insecure oranxious
9. Havingunrealisticexpectations,pushingonesagenda
10. Not usingtact or sensitivitytowardsothers
11. Beingtoohard on people
12. Beingaboutoneself insteadof Godandothers.
13. TakingRevenge orfightingevilwithevil
14. Thinkingtoohighlyorlowlyof oneself
15. Puttingupwalls/defenses
16. Guilt,Shame,Condemnation
17. Comingoff toocreepy,strong/Notbeingonthe same page

2. 18. Beingtooforward/Offensive/Inconsiderate
19. Tryingto do thingsinorderto get validationorattentionfromothers.Tryingtoohardor being
too desperate forcommunication,friendship,etc.
20. Anger/Sarcasm/Selfishness/Control
21. Laughing/Scoffing/Slander/Gossip/Bitterness/Wrath
22. Notbeingable torelate to people. Language/Cultural/Personal Barriers
23. Prejudice/Racism/Hatred/Partiality
24. Beingoverhumorous
25. Overfocusedonsin
How doI deal withsocial awkwardness?
Withthose whoare…
1. Be patientandkindwiththem.Know thatnoone is perfectandsince youare not, you would
wantto be treatedwiththe same love andrespect,sogive itaway.
2. I knowyouwant to protectothers,butthere are thingswe justcannotcontrol so we needtodo
whatis inthe bestinterestof everyone.
3. Helpthemsee theirissue andpointthemtoJesusChrist,the one whocan helpthem.Just
because youcannotfix themdoesnotmeanyou can condemnthem.
4. Helpthemor referthemto somethingorsomeone whocansharpentheirskillsandhelpthem
be betterat what theydo.
5. Setboundariesagainstsocial awkwardnessandstill supportandlove thematthe same time.Sin
mustbe dealtwith,butoutof love andnotout of contemptorbitterness.
6. Learn fromthe people inyourlife.Maybe there are some irritationsthatmayhelpshake off
some roughedgesonyou like sandpaper.
7. Believe the bestforthemandencourage themtomove forward.
Withyourself….
1. It isa process…socontinue togive yourawkwardnessandyoursoul to God bysubmittingtohis
wordon a dailybasis.Do yourbestto be disciplinedwiththe HolySpirit.
2. Thinkof yourself soberly…the wayGodseesyou.Remove anyfeelingsof inferiority, superiority,
condemnation,thinkingof yourselftoohighly.Donotthinkyouare better,worse,ormore or
lessspecial thanothers.Youmaybe more importanttothe organizationthanothers,but
everyone still hasthe same value inChrist.
3. Be inthe right frame of mindand communicate withtactwithyourrelationships.Donot
overpresentyourself.
4. Guard your heartwithall diligence…haveazerotolerance policyonsinwithyourself
5. Treat othersthe wayyou wantto be treated…thishelpswithsocial awkwardness.Be
understandingandloyal andlovingtoothersinsteadof beingcontemptuousandangry.
6. Do not overreactor reactnegativelytoanyonessocial awkwardness.LetGodfightyourbattles.
RememberJames1:19,be slowtospeak,slow tolisten,slow to wrath.Do not expectpeople to
be the wayyouwant themto be,allow people tobe whoGodwantsthemto be andlove them
for whotheyare andwhere theyare a.

3. 7. Get helpif youneedto.See a counseloronhow to improve youroverall communication.Stayin
the word andin prayerdaily. Donot be too hard on yourself,separate yourwhofromyourdo
by focusingonyourrighteousnessinChrist.
Remember,onlythroughChristcanone improve onsocial awkwardness…itishisgrace that helpsus
deal withthe sin inour lives.