A parenting style is a psychological construct representing standard strategies that parents use in their child rearing. The quality of parenting can be more essential than the quantity of time spent with the child. For instance, a parent can spend an entire afternoon with his or her child, yet the parent may be engaging in a different activity and not demonstrating enough interest towards the child. Parenting styles are the representation of how parents respond and demand to their children. Parenting practices are specific behaviors, while parenting styles represent broader patterns of parenting practices

1. Parenting Styles and Outcomes
By
Abhishek Jaguessar

2. Parenting Stylesand Outcomes
Thought:
Weknow that theway children are
parented when they areyoung influences
thetypeof peoplethey become. How?
Why?
A Kentucky father of a teenage boy says
his hardest job is getting his son to realize
that “no” is a complete answer.

3. Competencies/ Objectives
Thestudent will beableto:
• Identify parenting styles, including positiveguidance
techniquesthat help children develop positiveself-concepts,
self-management, and responsibility.
• Identify parenting typesand styles.
• List waysto foster achild’sself-concept.
• Identify positiveguidancetechniques.
• Writean abstract and apersonal analysisof achild guidance
articles.
• Apply positiveguidancetechniquesto child-rearing
problemsand/or casestudies.

4. Match
1. Responsiveto
children's’ needs.
2. Indifferent to
children, ignore
them
3. Reject their children
4. Critical, derogatory,
dissatisfied with
their children.
5. Warm,
understanding and
accepting.
A. Hostileand
antisocial
B. Poor self-control,
difficulty with social
interactionswhen
teenagers.
C. Compliant with
parent’swishes
D. Happy and friendly
E. Dissatisfied with
themselves.

5. Matching Key
1. Responsiveto
children's’ needs.
2. Indifferent to
children, ignore
them
3. Reject their children
4. Critical, derogatory,
dissatisfied with
their children.
5. Warm,
understanding and
accepting.
A. Hostileand
antisocial
B. Poor self-control,
difficulty with social
interactionswhen
teenagers.
C. Compliant with
parent’swishes
D. Happy and friendly
E. Dissatisfied with
themselves.

6. Typesof Parenting Stylesand
Outcomes
Most parent can beclassified into
threemain typesby thestylein
which they guidetheir children. As
wediscusseach, think about where
your own parentsfitsmost
appropriately. Do each of your
parentsusethesamestyle?Do you
fit theoutcome?

7. Authoritarian:
Limits without Freedom.
Definition:
Parents’ word islaw, parentshaveabsolute
control.
Misconduct ispunished
Affection and praisearerarely give
Parentstry to control children's’ behavior
and attitudes
They valueunquestioned obedience
Children aretold what to do, how to do it,
and whereto do it, and when to do it.

8. Outcomesof Authoritarian Style
•Obedient
•Distrustful
•Discontent
•Withdrawn
•Unhappy
•Hostile
•Not High Achievers
•Often Rebel
Children from authoritarian
homesareso strictly
controlled, either by
punishment or guilt, that
they areoften prevented
from making aconscious
choiceabout particular
behavior becausethey are
overly concerned about
what their parentswill do.

9. Permissive:
Freedom without limits.
Definition:
Parents allow theirchildren to do theirown
thing.
Little respect fororderand routine.
Parents make few demands on children.
Impatience is hidden.
Discipline is lax
Parents are resources ratherthan standard
makers
Rarely punish
Non controlling, non-demanding
Usually warm
Children walk all overthe parents

10. Outcomeof PermissiveParenting
•Aggressive
•Least self—
reliant
•Least self-
controlled
•Least exploratory
•Most unhappy
Children from
permissivehomes
receiveso little
guidancethat they
often become
uncertain and anxious
about whether they
aredoing theright
thing.

11. Democratic:
Freedom within limits.
Definition:
Middle ground between the two above
Stress freedom along with rights of others and
responsibilities of all
Parents set limits and enforce rules
Willing to listen receptively to child’s requests and
questions.
Both loves and limits
Children contribute to discussion of issues and make
some of theirown decisions
Exert firm control when necessary, but explain
reasoning behind it.
Respect children’s interest, opinions, unique
personalities.
Loving, consistent, demanding
Combine control with encouragement

12. Outcomesof Democratic Style
•Happy
•Mostly self-reliant
•Mostly self-
controlled
•Content, friendly,
generous
•Cooperative
•High-achiever’
•Lesslikely to be
seriously disruptive
or delinquent
Children whoseparents
expect them to perform
well, to fulfill
commitments, and to
participateactively in
family duties, aswell as
family fun, learn how to
formulategoals. They also
experiencethesatisfaction
that comesfrom meeting
responsibilitiesand
achieving success.

13. In groupsof threeor four havestudent
develop acasestudy or story that fitseach
parenting style.
Havegroup passtheir storiesto other group
and havethem read them to seeif they
can identify theparenting style.

14. Activity: Fingerprints,
Activity: Fingerprints, page168, More
ActivitiesThat Teach, Tom Jackson,
IBSN #0-9664633-3-1

15. Waysto foster achild'sself-esteem.
Provide more
successes than
failures for the
child. Give them
freedom to fail
with acceptance.
Give lots of
encouragement.
Give
uncondition
al love.
Allow
independence.
Eliminate the
negative.
Do not set
standards
unreasonably
high. Avoid
ridicule.

16. Waysto foster achild'sself-esteem.
Be available.
Give your children
responsibility
Be a good role
model.
Take their ideas, emotions
and feelings seriously.
Help your child
develop talents
Set Limits Allow exploration and
encourage questions.

17. Assignment: Building Self-esteem
In each of thesituations, what would you
say or do to build achild’sself-esteem?

18. Speaking Positively activity: Don’t --
PleaseDo

19. Show and DiscussthePositiveGuidance
TechniquesPowerPoint Presentation from
theChild Disciplineand GuidanceLesson
Plan on UEN.

20. Assignment: What aresomeappropriate
solutionsto thefollowing situations?
Assignment: What aresomeappropriatesolutionsto thefollowing
situations?
1. Tommy isthrowing aball in theliving room and knocksover alamp.
2. Nicoleisthrowing sand at theother kidsin thesand pile.
3. Your threechildren arebickering in thebackseat whileyou are
driving on theinterstate.
4. Jerry, eating in arestaurant with you, createsadisturbanceand
humiliatesyou by belching and giggling loudly.
5. Amy keepsforgetting to takeher lunch money to school. You are
alwayshaving to remind her to do it or takeit to her at school.
6. Jon won’t comein thehousewhen you call him for dinner.
7. Heather takesher brother’smoney from hispiggybank and spendsit.
8. Your teenager keepsthecar out past theagreed time.
9. Jocelyn refusesto do her homework.
10. Craig leaveshisdirty clotheson thefloor instead of putting them in
thehamper wherethey aresupposed to go.

21. I’m Hooked
HavestudentscompletetheI’m Hooked
Sheet (writedown what you learned today
and how will you usethisin your life).

22. Summary:
Oneof themost important thingsto
remember asaparent isto beyourself. You
can only usethosemethodswith which you
feel comfortable. A child can spot afakea
mileaway. Children know if you mean
what you say or if it isjust another threat.
Select themethodsthat you believein, that
you feel comfortablewith, and then be
consistent.