Parenting tips to guide parents that how to deal their children because the parenting style, behaviour and their communication affect the behaviour, style and communication of their children.

1. WORKSHOP ON
“MANTRAS FOR DEALING CHILDREN”
BY:- DIVYASHU SHARMA
SCHOOL COUNSELLOR
Pathfinder Global
School, Pataudi
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3. “MANTRAS” at a Glance
Introduction
Today’s scenario
How much important is
guidance
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4. Introduction
 To up bring a children is a big challenge.
 Children usually misbehave which leads
embarrassment .
 Every child is unique so parents are not sure
about best strategy to reduce or handle their
misbehave.
 There is no clear cut way or a STAT tablet to
reduce their misbehave.
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5. TODAY’S SCENARIO
 No training is required for parenting skills.
 Our parents reared us why we can’t.
 But time has changed.
 New generation is getting more freedom and
becoming street smart.
 So children must be tackled with a different
approach.
 Parent-child relation, now must be
explanation based not fear based.
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6. Importance of Guidance
 Little guidance is good parenting.
 It will boost up the confidence of parents as
teachers.
 Reduce the stress related to different behaviour
problems in children.
 Parents must now work on different strategies
for tackling misbehaviour.
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7. MANTRAS while dealing children
1. Understand this; Is its really a
problem behaviour.
2. Is there is any fault in the
environment-parents,teachers, peers,
siblings, restricted environment.
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8. 3. Correction is required within the
environment- parents, teachers,
siblings etc. not in the child.
4. Common causes are strict
discipline, harsh punishments, and
insecure feeling.
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 5. Try to find the underlying cause
don’t react superficially.
 6. Why the child is doing that- scared,
unhappy, threatened or even ignored.
 7. Find the cause, deal with them.
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8. Rewards or bribes: reward them
in form of praise, a look of
approval, a pat. Understand the
difference.
9. Punishments can be in form of,
with holding privileges.
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11. 10. Threats, scolding's and physical
punishments are not effective
punishments, these lower self esteem,
make them unwanted and unloved .
11. Any behaviour which can’t be
tolerated must be immediately rectified
not after a time lapse.
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12.Discipling children must be
explanatory not fear based. Clear
them the reason WHY.
13. Praise/ Reward the child when
doesn’t make mistake rather scolding
for wrong deeds.
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14.Respect the individuality of each
child.
15. Each problem must be dealt in its
present perspective.
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16. Make children understand why
they are not allowed to do they want
through role plays and story telling.
17. Make the child feel secure in your
unconditioned love.
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15. 18. Give positive and concrete
commands. Like – play outside instead
of don’t play here.
19. Be consistent with your approach
towards children.
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20. Listen to your child, listen with
your eyes through active and
reflective listening.
21. Describe your own feeling using “
I ” statements.
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22. Every problem must be attended,
handled with care, understanding,
affection and concern.
23. Display sense of humour for
effective parent – child relationship.
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18. 24. Don’t worry or panic about
occasional misbehaviour. Try to
understand child point of view.
25. Don’t hesitate to consult a
counsellor.
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