Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Audio available at http://edthepastor.podbean.com/e/honor-hebrews-134/?token=e61c503a30002abcf5d399bdc8fedaab

1. HONOR
Hebrews 13:4

2. Hebrews 12:28–13:4
28 Therefore, since we receive a kingdom which cannot be
shaken, let us show gratitude, by which we may offer to God
an acceptable service with reverence and awe; 29 for our God
is a consuming fire. 1 Let love of the brethren continue. 2 Do
not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some
have entertained angels without knowing it. 3 Remember the
prisoners, as though in prison with them, and those who are
ill-treated, since you yourselves also are in the body.

3. 4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage
bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will
judge.

5. Review
since we receive a kingdom which cannot be
shaken, let us show gratitude, by which we
may offer to God an acceptable service with
reverence and awe

6. This is all about…
Verse 1 Brotherly Love
Verse 2 Love of Strangers
Verse 3 Love of the Oppressed

7. Love and Marriage
Marriage is to be held in
honor among all, and the
marriage bed is to be
undefiled; for fornicators
and adulterers God
will judge.

8. Not just
husbands and
wives
All are to honor marriage
Honor-pertaining to high status,
involving both honor and
respect.
Used to refer to a precious
stone.

9. Combat false teaching
…men who forbid marriage and advocate abstaining
from foods which God has created to be gratefully
shared in by those who believe and know the truth.
1 Timothy 4:3
1 Corinthians 7:38 specifically addresses fathers giving
their daughters in marriage.

10. Marriage…it’s complicated
Arranged
conventio in manum
sine manu
Slave
Choice
Greek marriage was
composed of three or four
types. Arranged with legal
rights, arranged without legal
rights. Slave marriage was
determined by the master
and choice still had to be
granted by father of the bride.

11. But not that complicated!
“Have you not read that He who created them
from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,
and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS
FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND
THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? So they are no
longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God
has joined together, let no man separate.”
Matthew 19:4–6

12. New Definition?
The legal union of a man and woman as hus-
band and wife, and in some jurisdictions, bet
-ween two persons of the same sex, usually
entailing legal obligations of each person to
the other.

13. Comparison
Man and woman
Leave and Cleave
One flesh
Together forever
Whatever
Legal obligations

14. Marriage is God’s idea
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for
the man to be alone; I will make him a helper
suitable for him.”
Genesis 2:18
First thing that was “not good”
Ministers to our aloneness

15. He defined it
Have you not read that He who created them
from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND
FEMALE, and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL
LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO
HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’?
Matthew 19:4

16. Not man Courts
Culture
Politicians

17. His union
Purpose
…and God said to them,
“Be fruitful and
multiply, and fill the
earth, and subdue it…
Genesis 1:28
Blessed
He created them male
and female, and He
blessed them…the day
when they were
created.
Genesis 5:2

18. Not legal commitment
…the wife of your youth… though she is your
companion and your wife by covenant.
Malachi 2:14b
[The adulteress] leaves the companion of her
youth And forgets the covenant of her God;
Proverbs 2:17

19. Covenant
A promise made to God and by God.
Based on His faithfulness

20. Challenge
Your marriage should be the visible reflection of
the invisible reality of Christ and His bride

21. How do I honor
marriage?
Sexual purity
premarital sex
extra marital sex
…and the marriage
bed is to be
undefiled; for
fornicators and
adulterers God will
judge.

22. How else do I honor marriage?
How do you refer to it?
Support marriages by encouragement
Promote marriage
Push back against redefinition
Make your marriage an example

23. An Example?
Men first
Husbands, love your
wives, just as Christ also
loved the church and
gave Himself up for her,
Ephesians 5:25
Love languages
1. Quality time
2. Acts of service
3. Gifts
4. Words of appreciation
5. Touch

24. Ladies Nevertheless, each
individual among you also
is to love his own wife
even as himself, and the
wife must see to it that
she respects her husband.
Ephesians 5:33
1. Let him know that you appreciate the
responsibility he bears for protecting
and providing for your family
2. Encourage him in his chosen career
3. Be mindful of your tone of voice and
expression
4. Honor your husband in front of others
5. Acknowledge his value in all areas of
family life
6. Respect his need for physical intimacy