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2. O you of little faith…
…Do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or
'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?‘
For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your
heavenly Father knows that you need them all.
But seek first the kingdom of God and his
righteousness, and all these things will be added to
you.
Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be
anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Mat 6:30b-34

3. 1. A TALE OF TWO TEARS
A good wife is her husband's
pride and joy; but a wife who
brings shame on her husband is
like a cancer in his bones. Pro
12:4
How hard it is to find a capable
wife! She is worth far more than
jewels! Pro 31:10
Find a wife and you find a good
thing; it shows that the LORD is
good to you. Pro 18:22

4. 2. THE GREAT EXCEPTION
… be concerned above
everything else with the
Kingdom of God and with what
he requires of you, except when
you are choosing someone to
marry. In that case, you should
follow your emotions, insist on a
exciting romantic attraction and
overall relational compatibility
that makes the relationship fun,
and he will provide you with all
these other things. Mat 6:33

5. 3. VULNERABLE AND STUPID
But his father and mother asked
him, "Why do you have to go to
those heathen Philistines to get a
wife? Can't you find someone in
our own clan, among all our
people?" But Samson told his
father, "She is the one I want you
to get for me. I like her.“ After this,
Samson fell in love with a woman
named Delilah, who lived in Sorek
Valley.
Jdg 14:3,16:4
Sensible people are careful to
stay out of trouble, but stupid
people are careless and act too
quickly.
Pro 14:16

6. 4. YOU DON’T WANT WHAT
YOU THINK YOU WANT
Charm is deceptive and beauty
disappears, but a woman who honors
the LORD should be praised. Pro 31:30
But the LORD said to him, "Pay no
attention to how tall and handsome he is.
I have rejected him, because I do not
judge as people judge. They look at the
outward appearance, but I look at the
heart.“ 1Sa 16:7
You should not use outward aids to
make yourselves beautiful, such as the
way you fix your hair, or the jewelry you
put on, or the dresses you wear. Instead,
your beauty should consist of your true
inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle
and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest
value in God's sight. 1Pe 3:3
What you think is the right road
may lead to death. Pro 14:12

7. 5. SOUL MATE OR SOLE MATE
Remember the LORD in everything
you do, and he will show you the right
way. Never let yourself think that you
are wiser than you are; simply obey
the LORD and refuse to do wrong.
Pro 3:6,7
Get all the advice you can, and you
will succeed; without it you will fail.
Pro 15:22
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The greatest love you can have for
your friends is to give your life for
them. Joh 15:13
Husbands, love your wives just as
Christ loved the church and gave his
life for it. Eph 5:25

8. 6. A MARRIAGE MADE IN HEAVEN?
Show me proof of your
goodness, LORD; those who
hate me will be ashamed when
they see that you have given me
comfort and help. Psa 86:17
He prayed, " LORD, God of my
master Abraham, give me
success today and keep your
promise to my master. Gen
24:12
She was a very beautiful young
woman and still a virgin.
Gen 24:16

9. 7. THE RELIGIOUS ROMANCE LOTTERY
How hard it is to find a capable
wife! She is worth far more than
jewels! Pro 31:10
Find a wife and you find a good
thing; it shows that the LORD is
good to you. Pro 18:22
Ask, and you will receive; seek,
and you will find; knock, and the
door will be opened to you.
Mat 7:7
If you are lazy, you will never get
what you are after, but if you work
hard, you will get a fortune.
Pro 12:27 (missions)

10. 8. PASSIVE SURRENDER OR
PASSIONATE PURSUIT
But if you cannot restrain your desires,
go ahead and marry---it is better to
marry than to burn with passion.
1Co 7:9 (sex)
…Jesus said to Simon Peter, "Simon
son of John, do you love me more
than these others do?" "Yes, Lord," he
answered, "you know that I am
attached to you/affectionately love
you/dearly love you”
Joh 21:15 (culture)
We have courage in God's presence,
because we are sure that he hears us
if we ask him for anything that is
according to his will. 1Jn 5:14 ($$$)

11. 9. WHAT’S YOUR STYLE
If you are lazy, you will meet
difficulty everywhere, but if you
are honest, you will have no
trouble. Pro 15:19
Two are better off than one,
because together they can work
more effectively. Ecc 4:9
Any country that divides itself
into groups which fight each
other will not last very long; a
family divided against itself falls
apart. Luk 11:17

12. 10. ARE YOU STRONG
ENOUGH TO BE MY MAN/WOMAN
That is why a man leaves his
father and mother and is united
with his wife, and they become
one. Gen 2:24
Husbands, love your wives just as
Christ loved the church and gave
his life for it. Eph 5:25
Parents, do not treat your children
in such a way as to make them
angry. Instead, raise them with
Christian discipline and
instruction. Eph 6:4

13. 11. FINDING OR MAKING A MARRIAGE?
Don't do anything from selfish
ambition or from a cheap desire to
boast, but be humble toward one
another, always considering
others better than yourselves. Php
2:3
Be tolerant with one another and
forgive one another whenever any
of you has a complaint against
someone else. You must forgive
one another just as the Lord has
forgiven you. Col 3:13
Better to live out in the desert than
with a nagging, complaining
(conflictive) wife. Pro 21:19

14. 12. SOMETHING YOU MUST AGREE ABOUT I
Submit yourselves to one another
because of your reverence for
Christ. Eph 5:21
Wives, submit yourselves to your
husbands as to the Lord…Eph
5:25 Husbands, love your wives
just as Christ loved the church
and gave his life for it. Eph 5:22
It is the one who sins who will die.
A son is not to suffer because of
his father's sins, nor a father
because of the sins of his son.
Good people will be rewarded for
doing good, and evil people will
suffer for the evil they do. Eze
18:20

15. 12. SOMETHING YOU MUST AGREE ABOUT II
In the past God spoke to our
ancestors many times and in
many ways through the prophets,
Heb 1:2 but in these last days he
has spoken to us through his Son.
Heb 1:1
So then, confess your sins to one
another and pray for one another,
so that you will be healed. The
prayer of a good person has a
powerful effect. Jas 5:16
Some friendships do not last, but
some friends are more loyal than
brothers. Pro 18:24
What do you do when you get together?

16. 13. YOU’RE LOOKING FOR A COMPLEMENT
NOT A CLONE
If you are not willing to serve him,
decide today whom you will
serve… As for my family and me,
we will serve the LORD. Jos 24:15
Do not try to work together as
equals with unbelievers, for it
cannot be done. How can right
and wrong be partners? How can
light and darkness live together?
2Co 6:14
And I tell you more: whenever two
of you on earth agree about
anything you pray for, it will be
done for you by my Father in
heaven. Mat 18:19

17. 14. WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW
REALLY CAN HURT YOU
Sensible people are careful to stay out
of trouble, but stupid people are
careless and act too quickly. Pro
14:16
Two people can resist an attack that
would defeat one person alone. A rope
made of three cords is hard to break.
Ecc 4:12
If the LORD does not build the house,
the work of the builders is useless; if
the LORD does not protect the city, it
does no good for the sentries to stand
guard. Psa 127:1
Jeremiah, test my people, as you
would test metal, and find out what
they are like. Jer 6:27
Trinity talk, natural habitat, memory lane, pray together

18. 15. A NEUROCHEMICAL WAR AGAINST YOUR
REASONING
God wants you to be holy and
completely free from sexual
immorality. Each of you should
know how to live with your wife in
a holy and honorable way, not
with a lustful desire, like the
heathen who do not know God. In
this matter, then, none of you
should do wrong to other
Christians or take advantage of
them. We have told you this
before, and we strongly warned
you that the Lord will punish those
who do that.
God did not call us to live in
immorality, but in holiness.
1Th 4:3-7

19. 16. PROBLEM PEOPLE
I have shown you in all things that
by working hard in this way we
must help the weak, remembering
the words that the Lord Jesus
himself said, 'There is more
happiness in giving than in
receiving.‘ Act 20:35
Wise people will gain an
honorable reputation, but stupid
people will only add to their own
disgrace. Pro 3:35
The second most important
commandment is like it: 'Love
your neighbor as you love
yourself.‘ Mat 22:39

20. 17. WHY YOU WON’T KNOW YOUR WIFE UNTIL
SHE TURNS THISTY--FIVE
The LORD says, "I will condemn
those who turn away from me and
put their trust in human beings, in
the strength of mortals. Jer 17:5
Don't put your trust in human
leaders; no human being can save
you. Psa 146:3
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Therefore whether you eat or
drink, or whatever you do, do all to
the glory of God. 1 Co. 10:31
Not to us, O Jehovah, not to us,
but to Your name give glory, for
Your mercy and for Your truth's
sake.
Psa 115:1
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21. 18. HOW WOULD JESUS DATE
When Jesus arrived, he found that
Lazarus had been buried four days
before… When Martha heard that
Jesus was coming, she went out to
meet him, but Mary stayed in the
house. Martha said to Jesus, "If you
had been here, Lord, my brother
would not have died!
Joh 11:17-21
Finally, our friends, you learned from
us how you should live in order to
please God. This is, of course, the
way you have been living. And now
we beg and urge you in the name of
the Lord Jesus to do even more. 1Th
4:1
Peter and the other apostles
answered, "We must obey God, not
men. " Act 5:29

22. 19. MERCY MARRIAGES
My friends, if someone is caught in
any kind of wrongdoing, those of
you who are spiritual should set him
right; but you must do it in a gentle
way. And keep an eye on
yourselves, so that you will not be
tempted, too. Gal 6:1
Save others by snatching them out
of the fire; and to others show mercy
mixed with fear, but hate their very
clothes, stained by their sinful lusts.
Jud 1:23
If you think you are standing firm
you had better be careful that you
do not fall. 1Co 10:12

23. 20. A NEW VISION:
WHAT DO WE GET MARRIED FOR?
For if you want to save your own life,
you will lose it, but if you lose your life
for my sake, you will save it. Will you
gain anything if you win the whole
world but are yourself lost or
defeated? Of course not!
Luk 9:24,25
I am telling you the truth: a grain of
wheat remains no more than a single
grain unless it is dropped into the
ground and dies. If it does die, then it
produces many grains.
Joh 12:24
Did he not make them one, with a
portion of the Spirit in their union? And
what was the one God seeking?
Godly offspring. So guard yourselves
in your spirit, and let none of you be
faithless to the wife of your youth. Mal
12:15