Direct contact via Facebook has changed the face of 21st century adoption. Motivated by curiosity birth families and adopted teenagers are reconnecting online, with no safeguards which is retraumatising many adopted children. Some walk away from their adoptive parents, some are derailed by the unwelcome intrusion in their lives, others fail exams or live in fear.
In this presentation Helen Oakwater, author of Bubble Wrapped Children, explores the hows, whys, whats and what ifs of unsupervised online contact and explains how future proofing by sharing 100% evidenced historical truth is the protective mechanism needed.
The courts, social services and health professionals must share data with adoptive families so they can understand the possible sensory triggers for a child and then be able to parent them therapeutiucally.
Adverse Childhood Experiences become the trauma legacy for many children. Their behaviour indicates the underlying issues ONLY IF we are prepared to notice this.
National Child Welfare Conference Finland Keynote speechHelen Oakwater
Look at me - Dignified childhood conference (in English and Finnish) Need for 100% truth telling with children so their somatic memories match the story they are told using careful accurate language, to avoid confusion. This melts trauma which allows building of positive beliefs.
NSW Child Protection Conference sept 2017 Helen Oakwater
The beliefs that lurk below the presenting behaviour of a child (especially a hurt or traumatised child) is where real change and understanding occurs. Useful for Social Workers, Teachers, Foster parents, Adopters and beyond.
Its not just the booze. FASD + maltreatment & neglect EUFASD2016 conference L...Helen Oakwater
Prenatal exposure to alcohol causes irreparable brain damage creating "swiss cheese brains" with gaps and impaired functionality. Infant maltreatment and neglect post birth exacerbates the challenges. Using 4 avatars to illustrate typical scenarios Helen Oakwater raises issues, questions and offers some reframing for parents and professionals. Bottom line. DO NOT CONSUME ANY ALCOHOL IF AT RISK OF PREGNANCY otherwise you condemn your child (and yourself) to a tougher life with learning and health issues from birth to death.
Are you safe on the road? Understanding trauma with NLP eyesHelen Oakwater
Workshop slides for presentation given by Helen Oakwater to Richmond NLP group, November 2019
These slides take you through understanding that trauma comes in different forms (single incident, complex, developmental). Kids and adults impacted differently
Become aware of Sensory and linguistic triggers and how to avoid them.
Understand that trauma is held within the body, has no words.
Trauma Triggered Behaviour at Living with Trauma 24/7 conference : Helen Oakw...Helen Oakwater
Living with children who have experienced severe neglect and maltreatment is often confusing because their behaviour is erratic and challenging.
These children have difficulties because their early experience interrupted and derailed their normal development path and brain wiring.
This presentation looks at trauma, the brain, belief formation, sensory triggers, truth telling and the need to future proof.
Making Sense of Classroom Nonsense: How trauma (maltreatment, chaos, poor at...Helen Oakwater
Presentation to Hertfordshire teachers _ Why do adopted and fostered children struggle?
For some children (especially adopted and fostered) their erratic and challenging behaviour results from their maltreatment or neglect in infancy. These children have difficulties because they experienced severe neglect, repeated abuse, domestic violence or chaos which interrupted and derailed their normal developmental path and brain wiring.
Similar to adult PTSD the legacy of infancy trauma causes them to act in apparently nonsensical ways. Consequently parents and carers feel inadequate and use ineffective parenting and behaviour management strategies.
Direct contact via Facebook has changed the face of 21st century adoption. Motivated by curiosity birth families and adopted teenagers are reconnecting online, with no safeguards which is retraumatising many adopted children. Some walk away from their adoptive parents, some are derailed by the unwelcome intrusion in their lives, others fail exams or live in fear.
In this presentation Helen Oakwater, author of Bubble Wrapped Children, explores the hows, whys, whats and what ifs of unsupervised online contact and explains how future proofing by sharing 100% evidenced historical truth is the protective mechanism needed.
The courts, social services and health professionals must share data with adoptive families so they can understand the possible sensory triggers for a child and then be able to parent them therapeutiucally.
Adverse Childhood Experiences become the trauma legacy for many children. Their behaviour indicates the underlying issues ONLY IF we are prepared to notice this.
National Child Welfare Conference Finland Keynote speechHelen Oakwater
Look at me - Dignified childhood conference (in English and Finnish) Need for 100% truth telling with children so their somatic memories match the story they are told using careful accurate language, to avoid confusion. This melts trauma which allows building of positive beliefs.
NSW Child Protection Conference sept 2017 Helen Oakwater
The beliefs that lurk below the presenting behaviour of a child (especially a hurt or traumatised child) is where real change and understanding occurs. Useful for Social Workers, Teachers, Foster parents, Adopters and beyond.
Its not just the booze. FASD + maltreatment & neglect EUFASD2016 conference L...Helen Oakwater
Prenatal exposure to alcohol causes irreparable brain damage creating "swiss cheese brains" with gaps and impaired functionality. Infant maltreatment and neglect post birth exacerbates the challenges. Using 4 avatars to illustrate typical scenarios Helen Oakwater raises issues, questions and offers some reframing for parents and professionals. Bottom line. DO NOT CONSUME ANY ALCOHOL IF AT RISK OF PREGNANCY otherwise you condemn your child (and yourself) to a tougher life with learning and health issues from birth to death.
Are you safe on the road? Understanding trauma with NLP eyesHelen Oakwater
Workshop slides for presentation given by Helen Oakwater to Richmond NLP group, November 2019
These slides take you through understanding that trauma comes in different forms (single incident, complex, developmental). Kids and adults impacted differently
Become aware of Sensory and linguistic triggers and how to avoid them.
Understand that trauma is held within the body, has no words.
Trauma Triggered Behaviour at Living with Trauma 24/7 conference : Helen Oakw...Helen Oakwater
Living with children who have experienced severe neglect and maltreatment is often confusing because their behaviour is erratic and challenging.
These children have difficulties because their early experience interrupted and derailed their normal development path and brain wiring.
This presentation looks at trauma, the brain, belief formation, sensory triggers, truth telling and the need to future proof.
Making Sense of Classroom Nonsense: How trauma (maltreatment, chaos, poor at...Helen Oakwater
Presentation to Hertfordshire teachers _ Why do adopted and fostered children struggle?
For some children (especially adopted and fostered) their erratic and challenging behaviour results from their maltreatment or neglect in infancy. These children have difficulties because they experienced severe neglect, repeated abuse, domestic violence or chaos which interrupted and derailed their normal developmental path and brain wiring.
Similar to adult PTSD the legacy of infancy trauma causes them to act in apparently nonsensical ways. Consequently parents and carers feel inadequate and use ineffective parenting and behaviour management strategies.
Why do adopted children need a different kind of parenting? With the majority of children adopted from the care system coming from an abusive or neglectful background, it is unsurprising that many struggle to overcome the consequences of this difficult start to life. The Wall illustrates how unmet physical and emotional needs early in life affect children’s later development, requiring different parenting techniques and support for adoptive parents.
Attachment, trauma, emotional regulation in school to make sense of 'nonsensi...Helen Oakwater
Poor attachments, trauma, developmental delay can cause children act in apparently "nonsensical ways" which can make managing classrooms very tricky. Seeing childrens behaviour through the trauma lens throws new light on old issues and helps teachers manage challenging children with more empathy, compassion and effective strategies
Steve Vitto Challeng of the Children Breaking Down the WallsSteve Vitto
Steve Vitto's presentation at the 2011 Challenge of the Children Conference at Hope College in Holland Michigan
Strategies for Defiant Students
svitto@muskegonisd.org
'Parenting and family ties counselling in the home'Dr Wango Geoffrey
The PowerPoint Presentation is based on the book, Parenting: Counselling in the Home. The book seeks to address the challenges of parenting in modern living. From the onset, the authors define parenting as the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, spiritual and intellectual development the child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting is an on-going process. Nonetheless, it has become extremely difficult in today's society for parents, especially the ever busy working father and/or mother and in particular the single parent, to adequately attend to all the needs of the child. The book helps make greater gains by assisting parents with important learning support services including a range of information on various issues in life and home. It adopts the Positive Parenting strategic approach which is constructive, purposeful, practical and progressive. The book accomplishes this task by: (1) assisting parents in understanding the needs of the child; and, (2) providing parents with information and support about child growth and development. The book is written primarily for parents as well as a wide range of people from the helping and health professions. These include: Clinical Psychologists; Counsellors; Psychologists; Psychiatrists; Sociologists; Social Workers; Physicians; Nurses; Teachers and other educators; members of the clergy as well as personnel working in the home, school and education.
'Parenting and family ties christian parenting and counselling in the home'Dr Wango Geoffrey
Many Christian parents want to bring up their child based on religious philosophy. This Power Point focuses on parenting and family ties based on the book, Parenting: Counselling in the Home. The Christian parenting concept is a life-long process based on Christian principles and values inasmuch as it involves constant and continuous guidance and counselling, coaching and mentorship of the child. The authors’ emphasis on an all-round growth, development and nurturing of the child is attuned to the Christian perspective. The Christian parent/s wants their child upbringing to correspond to the Christian philosophical underpinnings, a rigorous methodological discipline. In particular, there is need for meeting the physical, intellectual, emotional, social and spiritual needs of the child that must be critically aligned to the Christian philological task. The PowerPoint offers empirical illustrations on that foregrounds Christian ethos while promoting effective Christian parenting and counselling based on the author’s immense hands-on experience of working with parents, teachers, counsellors, psychologists, social workers, religious leaders, children and families. This position is distinctive and decisive in modern living with the positivist perspective in that Christian living is highlighted as the focal point in effective parenting. The PowerPoint is a useful guide to parents, counsellors, teachers and social workers dealing with children and young people based on Christian principles.
Wondering why the adoption process seems so intense?
This webinar will explain the process, the children who wait and what you can do to prepare yourself.
Helen Oakwater, adoptive parent, international trainer and author explains the why and how of the process and will expand your thinking about the epic adventure that is required to be and survive as an adoptive parent to a children who experienced abuse and/or neglect before they were placed for adoption.
Why do adopted children need a different kind of parenting? With the majority of children adopted from the care system coming from an abusive or neglectful background, it is unsurprising that many struggle to overcome the consequences of this difficult start to life. The Wall illustrates how unmet physical and emotional needs early in life affect children’s later development, requiring different parenting techniques and support for adoptive parents.
Attachment, trauma, emotional regulation in school to make sense of 'nonsensi...Helen Oakwater
Poor attachments, trauma, developmental delay can cause children act in apparently "nonsensical ways" which can make managing classrooms very tricky. Seeing childrens behaviour through the trauma lens throws new light on old issues and helps teachers manage challenging children with more empathy, compassion and effective strategies
Steve Vitto Challeng of the Children Breaking Down the WallsSteve Vitto
Steve Vitto's presentation at the 2011 Challenge of the Children Conference at Hope College in Holland Michigan
Strategies for Defiant Students
svitto@muskegonisd.org
'Parenting and family ties counselling in the home'Dr Wango Geoffrey
The PowerPoint Presentation is based on the book, Parenting: Counselling in the Home. The book seeks to address the challenges of parenting in modern living. From the onset, the authors define parenting as the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, spiritual and intellectual development the child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting is an on-going process. Nonetheless, it has become extremely difficult in today's society for parents, especially the ever busy working father and/or mother and in particular the single parent, to adequately attend to all the needs of the child. The book helps make greater gains by assisting parents with important learning support services including a range of information on various issues in life and home. It adopts the Positive Parenting strategic approach which is constructive, purposeful, practical and progressive. The book accomplishes this task by: (1) assisting parents in understanding the needs of the child; and, (2) providing parents with information and support about child growth and development. The book is written primarily for parents as well as a wide range of people from the helping and health professions. These include: Clinical Psychologists; Counsellors; Psychologists; Psychiatrists; Sociologists; Social Workers; Physicians; Nurses; Teachers and other educators; members of the clergy as well as personnel working in the home, school and education.
'Parenting and family ties christian parenting and counselling in the home'Dr Wango Geoffrey
Many Christian parents want to bring up their child based on religious philosophy. This Power Point focuses on parenting and family ties based on the book, Parenting: Counselling in the Home. The Christian parenting concept is a life-long process based on Christian principles and values inasmuch as it involves constant and continuous guidance and counselling, coaching and mentorship of the child. The authors’ emphasis on an all-round growth, development and nurturing of the child is attuned to the Christian perspective. The Christian parent/s wants their child upbringing to correspond to the Christian philosophical underpinnings, a rigorous methodological discipline. In particular, there is need for meeting the physical, intellectual, emotional, social and spiritual needs of the child that must be critically aligned to the Christian philological task. The PowerPoint offers empirical illustrations on that foregrounds Christian ethos while promoting effective Christian parenting and counselling based on the author’s immense hands-on experience of working with parents, teachers, counsellors, psychologists, social workers, religious leaders, children and families. This position is distinctive and decisive in modern living with the positivist perspective in that Christian living is highlighted as the focal point in effective parenting. The PowerPoint is a useful guide to parents, counsellors, teachers and social workers dealing with children and young people based on Christian principles.
Wondering why the adoption process seems so intense?
This webinar will explain the process, the children who wait and what you can do to prepare yourself.
Helen Oakwater, adoptive parent, international trainer and author explains the why and how of the process and will expand your thinking about the epic adventure that is required to be and survive as an adoptive parent to a children who experienced abuse and/or neglect before they were placed for adoption.
Complexity of Attachment Issues in FASD.pdfHelen Oakwater
Prenatal alcohol exposure can significantly affect a fetus. (FASD)
The intersection of attachment, trauma and FASD creates multilayered complexities for the child and parents.
This presentation is a graphical version of the chapter Helen Oakwater wrote for "Prevention, Recognition and Management of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders"
Meet TIM, BOB, AAMY & SANDY who represent such children.
The mismatch between a child’s sensory memory of their maltreatment in infancy and the story they are subsequently told about their early life creates long term confusion and feelings of shame which frequently derails them.
We know ”the body keeps the score” (Bessel Van Der Kolk) yet adults often tell children a sanitised and saccharine version of their past, in the mistaken belief that this will protect the child. It doesn’t. The child has experienced life from inside their own bodies while looking though their own eyes. This is the data they will use to make meaning of themselves and the world. What they need from adults is confirmation of the harsh truth, fresh perspectives and ongoing support to comprehend and integrate the knowledge.
Helen Oakwater, Coach, Trainer and Writer
multifaceted 'truths' contact presents to children in care Community Care Fos...Helen Oakwater
How to Future Proof fostered (and adopted) children.
Recognising the negative beliefs they formed in a toxic or chaotic environment in infancy and see the need to reframe these events.
Accept contact via Facebook is inevitable and 100% truth telling in age appropriate way is necessary to protect child.
Please note the live presentation includes beliefs and behaviour through time, timelines and several diagrams on flip charts making the entire experience sensory and more engaging for the audience.
Helen always gets outstanding feedback and high ratings for her conference speeches at Community Care Conferences.
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1. ADOPTION UK WEBINAR : JUNE 2020
Future-proofing your adoptive
family : (whistlestop concepts)
Helen Oakwater
Adopter, Coach, Trainer, Author, Explorer
• Story telling
• Pointers to resources: deeper dive
• Facebook & contact
• Oakwater shrapnel metaphor
• Understand the past : ie WHY
• Jigsaw of truth
• Reframing
• Damage limitation in future
www.FABparents.co.uk
@HelenOakwater
Former:
AUK Trustee
AUK Local Coordinator
LA Panel member x2
Govt Task Force
24. 1000
pieces: the
entire
detailed
story
By 18 - 21
Jigsaw of Truth:
Heaps of sensory memories
Jigsaw of Truth:
Heaps of sensory memories
100% Truth Telling in an age appropriate way
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Umbrella
Clouds
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31. https://youtu.be/qp0HIF3SfI4
Start with Why
Simon Sinek
TED talk & book
Although this video is
about inspiring
leadership,NOT
TRAUMA or
CHILDREN, the
concepts map across
to the importance of
WHY when trying to
understand impact
and legacy of child
trauma
Importance of WHY in relation to contact & beyond