Look at me - Dignified childhood conference (in English and Finnish) Need for 100% truth telling with children so their somatic memories match the story they are told using careful accurate language, to avoid confusion. This melts trauma which allows building of positive beliefs.
Direct contact via Facebook has changed the face of 21st century adoption. Motivated by curiosity birth families and adopted teenagers are reconnecting online, with no safeguards which is retraumatising many adopted children. Some walk away from their adoptive parents, some are derailed by the unwelcome intrusion in their lives, others fail exams or live in fear.
In this presentation Helen Oakwater, author of Bubble Wrapped Children, explores the hows, whys, whats and what ifs of unsupervised online contact and explains how future proofing by sharing 100% evidenced historical truth is the protective mechanism needed.
The courts, social services and health professionals must share data with adoptive families so they can understand the possible sensory triggers for a child and then be able to parent them therapeutiucally.
NSW Child Protection Conference sept 2017 Helen Oakwater
The beliefs that lurk below the presenting behaviour of a child (especially a hurt or traumatised child) is where real change and understanding occurs. Useful for Social Workers, Teachers, Foster parents, Adopters and beyond.
Adverse Childhood Experiences become the trauma legacy for many children. Their behaviour indicates the underlying issues ONLY IF we are prepared to notice this.
Making Sense of Classroom Nonsense: How trauma (maltreatment, chaos, poor at...Helen Oakwater
Presentation to Hertfordshire teachers _ Why do adopted and fostered children struggle?
For some children (especially adopted and fostered) their erratic and challenging behaviour results from their maltreatment or neglect in infancy. These children have difficulties because they experienced severe neglect, repeated abuse, domestic violence or chaos which interrupted and derailed their normal developmental path and brain wiring.
Similar to adult PTSD the legacy of infancy trauma causes them to act in apparently nonsensical ways. Consequently parents and carers feel inadequate and use ineffective parenting and behaviour management strategies.
Its not just the booze. FASD + maltreatment & neglect EUFASD2016 conference L...Helen Oakwater
Prenatal exposure to alcohol causes irreparable brain damage creating "swiss cheese brains" with gaps and impaired functionality. Infant maltreatment and neglect post birth exacerbates the challenges. Using 4 avatars to illustrate typical scenarios Helen Oakwater raises issues, questions and offers some reframing for parents and professionals. Bottom line. DO NOT CONSUME ANY ALCOHOL IF AT RISK OF PREGNANCY otherwise you condemn your child (and yourself) to a tougher life with learning and health issues from birth to death.
Trauma Triggered Behaviour at Living with Trauma 24/7 conference : Helen Oakw...Helen Oakwater
Living with children who have experienced severe neglect and maltreatment is often confusing because their behaviour is erratic and challenging.
These children have difficulties because their early experience interrupted and derailed their normal development path and brain wiring.
This presentation looks at trauma, the brain, belief formation, sensory triggers, truth telling and the need to future proof.
Direct contact via Facebook has changed the face of 21st century adoption. Motivated by curiosity birth families and adopted teenagers are reconnecting online, with no safeguards which is retraumatising many adopted children. Some walk away from their adoptive parents, some are derailed by the unwelcome intrusion in their lives, others fail exams or live in fear.
In this presentation Helen Oakwater, author of Bubble Wrapped Children, explores the hows, whys, whats and what ifs of unsupervised online contact and explains how future proofing by sharing 100% evidenced historical truth is the protective mechanism needed.
The courts, social services and health professionals must share data with adoptive families so they can understand the possible sensory triggers for a child and then be able to parent them therapeutiucally.
NSW Child Protection Conference sept 2017 Helen Oakwater
The beliefs that lurk below the presenting behaviour of a child (especially a hurt or traumatised child) is where real change and understanding occurs. Useful for Social Workers, Teachers, Foster parents, Adopters and beyond.
Adverse Childhood Experiences become the trauma legacy for many children. Their behaviour indicates the underlying issues ONLY IF we are prepared to notice this.
Making Sense of Classroom Nonsense: How trauma (maltreatment, chaos, poor at...Helen Oakwater
Presentation to Hertfordshire teachers _ Why do adopted and fostered children struggle?
For some children (especially adopted and fostered) their erratic and challenging behaviour results from their maltreatment or neglect in infancy. These children have difficulties because they experienced severe neglect, repeated abuse, domestic violence or chaos which interrupted and derailed their normal developmental path and brain wiring.
Similar to adult PTSD the legacy of infancy trauma causes them to act in apparently nonsensical ways. Consequently parents and carers feel inadequate and use ineffective parenting and behaviour management strategies.
Its not just the booze. FASD + maltreatment & neglect EUFASD2016 conference L...Helen Oakwater
Prenatal exposure to alcohol causes irreparable brain damage creating "swiss cheese brains" with gaps and impaired functionality. Infant maltreatment and neglect post birth exacerbates the challenges. Using 4 avatars to illustrate typical scenarios Helen Oakwater raises issues, questions and offers some reframing for parents and professionals. Bottom line. DO NOT CONSUME ANY ALCOHOL IF AT RISK OF PREGNANCY otherwise you condemn your child (and yourself) to a tougher life with learning and health issues from birth to death.
Trauma Triggered Behaviour at Living with Trauma 24/7 conference : Helen Oakw...Helen Oakwater
Living with children who have experienced severe neglect and maltreatment is often confusing because their behaviour is erratic and challenging.
These children have difficulties because their early experience interrupted and derailed their normal development path and brain wiring.
This presentation looks at trauma, the brain, belief formation, sensory triggers, truth telling and the need to future proof.
Are you safe on the road? Understanding trauma with NLP eyesHelen Oakwater
Workshop slides for presentation given by Helen Oakwater to Richmond NLP group, November 2019
These slides take you through understanding that trauma comes in different forms (single incident, complex, developmental). Kids and adults impacted differently
Become aware of Sensory and linguistic triggers and how to avoid them.
Understand that trauma is held within the body, has no words.
Why do adopted children need a different kind of parenting? With the majority of children adopted from the care system coming from an abusive or neglectful background, it is unsurprising that many struggle to overcome the consequences of this difficult start to life. The Wall illustrates how unmet physical and emotional needs early in life affect children’s later development, requiring different parenting techniques and support for adoptive parents.
Attachment, trauma, emotional regulation in school to make sense of 'nonsensi...Helen Oakwater
Poor attachments, trauma, developmental delay can cause children act in apparently "nonsensical ways" which can make managing classrooms very tricky. Seeing childrens behaviour through the trauma lens throws new light on old issues and helps teachers manage challenging children with more empathy, compassion and effective strategies
Intergrated-Therapy "Circle of Security"Karen Cowling
Do you want to bring up children who you have been able to parent from the inside out, to raise children who feel attached and loved, to assist them in being able to manage their own and others strong emotions. www.Intergrated-Therapy.com
0408618165
Karen.
Our major goal is to help you achieve your academic goals. We are commited to helping you get top grades in your academic papers.We desire to help you come up with great essays that meet your lecturer's expectations.Contact us now at http://www.premiumessays.net/
Steve Vitto Challeng of the Children Breaking Down the WallsSteve Vitto
Steve Vitto's presentation at the 2011 Challenge of the Children Conference at Hope College in Holland Michigan
Strategies for Defiant Students
svitto@muskegonisd.org
The mismatch between a child’s sensory memory of their maltreatment in infancy and the story they are subsequently told about their early life creates long term confusion and feelings of shame which frequently derails them.
We know ”the body keeps the score” (Bessel Van Der Kolk) yet adults often tell children a sanitised and saccharine version of their past, in the mistaken belief that this will protect the child. It doesn’t. The child has experienced life from inside their own bodies while looking though their own eyes. This is the data they will use to make meaning of themselves and the world. What they need from adults is confirmation of the harsh truth, fresh perspectives and ongoing support to comprehend and integrate the knowledge.
Helen Oakwater, Coach, Trainer and Writer
multifaceted 'truths' contact presents to children in care Community Care Fos...Helen Oakwater
How to Future Proof fostered (and adopted) children.
Recognising the negative beliefs they formed in a toxic or chaotic environment in infancy and see the need to reframe these events.
Accept contact via Facebook is inevitable and 100% truth telling in age appropriate way is necessary to protect child.
Please note the live presentation includes beliefs and behaviour through time, timelines and several diagrams on flip charts making the entire experience sensory and more engaging for the audience.
Helen always gets outstanding feedback and high ratings for her conference speeches at Community Care Conferences.
Are you safe on the road? Understanding trauma with NLP eyesHelen Oakwater
Workshop slides for presentation given by Helen Oakwater to Richmond NLP group, November 2019
These slides take you through understanding that trauma comes in different forms (single incident, complex, developmental). Kids and adults impacted differently
Become aware of Sensory and linguistic triggers and how to avoid them.
Understand that trauma is held within the body, has no words.
Why do adopted children need a different kind of parenting? With the majority of children adopted from the care system coming from an abusive or neglectful background, it is unsurprising that many struggle to overcome the consequences of this difficult start to life. The Wall illustrates how unmet physical and emotional needs early in life affect children’s later development, requiring different parenting techniques and support for adoptive parents.
Attachment, trauma, emotional regulation in school to make sense of 'nonsensi...Helen Oakwater
Poor attachments, trauma, developmental delay can cause children act in apparently "nonsensical ways" which can make managing classrooms very tricky. Seeing childrens behaviour through the trauma lens throws new light on old issues and helps teachers manage challenging children with more empathy, compassion and effective strategies
Intergrated-Therapy "Circle of Security"Karen Cowling
Do you want to bring up children who you have been able to parent from the inside out, to raise children who feel attached and loved, to assist them in being able to manage their own and others strong emotions. www.Intergrated-Therapy.com
0408618165
Karen.
Our major goal is to help you achieve your academic goals. We are commited to helping you get top grades in your academic papers.We desire to help you come up with great essays that meet your lecturer's expectations.Contact us now at http://www.premiumessays.net/
Steve Vitto Challeng of the Children Breaking Down the WallsSteve Vitto
Steve Vitto's presentation at the 2011 Challenge of the Children Conference at Hope College in Holland Michigan
Strategies for Defiant Students
svitto@muskegonisd.org
The mismatch between a child’s sensory memory of their maltreatment in infancy and the story they are subsequently told about their early life creates long term confusion and feelings of shame which frequently derails them.
We know ”the body keeps the score” (Bessel Van Der Kolk) yet adults often tell children a sanitised and saccharine version of their past, in the mistaken belief that this will protect the child. It doesn’t. The child has experienced life from inside their own bodies while looking though their own eyes. This is the data they will use to make meaning of themselves and the world. What they need from adults is confirmation of the harsh truth, fresh perspectives and ongoing support to comprehend and integrate the knowledge.
Helen Oakwater, Coach, Trainer and Writer
multifaceted 'truths' contact presents to children in care Community Care Fos...Helen Oakwater
How to Future Proof fostered (and adopted) children.
Recognising the negative beliefs they formed in a toxic or chaotic environment in infancy and see the need to reframe these events.
Accept contact via Facebook is inevitable and 100% truth telling in age appropriate way is necessary to protect child.
Please note the live presentation includes beliefs and behaviour through time, timelines and several diagrams on flip charts making the entire experience sensory and more engaging for the audience.
Helen always gets outstanding feedback and high ratings for her conference speeches at Community Care Conferences.
Do you have questions about making your storytime more
accessible for children with special needs? Join us for this session
with information that addresses physical and emotional
challenges that some children who come to your storytimes
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children as well as serving caregivers, addressing space issues
and acquiring the right tools for success.
Uncanny Valley addresses our reactions to humanoid objects, such as robots, a video game characters, or dolls, and how they look and act ‘almost’ like a real human. Feeling of uneasiness or disgust in the observer are addressed directly, rather than familiarity or attraction. The theory was proposed by Japanese roboticist Masahiro Mori in 1970 and has been explored by many researchers and artists since. It has application in AI, robotics, MMI, and human-computer interaction, and helps designers to create more appealing devices that can interact with people in various domains, such as industry, education, entertainment, defence, health care, et al.
In this lecture we explain and demonstrate the fundamentals before extending the principle to sound, motion, actions, and eyes as an output mechanism. We also note that all this poses some challenges and risks in the potential for reduced the emotional connections, empathy, acceptance, and trust between humans and machines. On a further dimension the potential to create threat and terror can be useful opportunity in the military domain. It is thus important to understand the causes and effects of the uncanny valley in the wider sense in order to meet the needs of each application space
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Biological screening of herbal drugs: Introduction and Need for
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A workshop hosted by the South African Journal of Science aimed at postgraduate students and early career researchers with little or no experience in writing and publishing journal articles.
This presentation was provided by Steph Pollock of The American Psychological Association’s Journals Program, and Damita Snow, of The American Society of Civil Engineers (ASCE), for the initial session of NISO's 2024 Training Series "DEIA in the Scholarly Landscape." Session One: 'Setting Expectations: a DEIA Primer,' was held June 6, 2024.
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Prepare a presentation or a paper using research, basic comparative analysis, data organization and application of economic information. You will make an informed assessment of an economic climate outside of the United States to accomplish an entertainment industry objective.
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National Child Welfare Conference Finland Keynote speech
1. 1
Does lack of truth telling
destabilise a child's life journey?
Helen Oakwater
Onko puute totuuden kertomista
horjuttaa lapsen elämään matkaa?
National Child Welfare Conference
Look at me – dignified childhood!
Jyväskylä, Finland : 27 Syyskuu 2016
@HelenOakwater
2. Baby Tim lying in a cot
Traumatised
Infant
Maltreated
Traumatised
Infant
Pahoinpitelyn
6. The Infant Perspective
ONE PIECE OF METAPHORICAL “SENSORY SHRAPNEL”
Yksi pala metaforinen "aistien sirpaleet”
One incident of
NEGLECT
Stored in implicit memory & sensory database.
10. 10
Age
0 5 2010 15
Timeline 2: with birth family
Different Maltreatments
What behaviour would you see?
Mitä käyttäytyminen olisi näet?
what do adults tell him?
Mitä aikuiset kertoa hänelle?
Beliefs?
12. 12
Age
0 5 2010 15
Timeline 3: With poorly trained
Foster Carer
How does Foster carer react?
Miten Foster hoitaja reagoi?
13. 13
Age
0 5 2010 15
Timeline 4: With well trained
Foster carer - dark night
How does Foster carer react?
Miten Foster hoitaja reagoi?
14. No therapy or reframing
Shrapnel still inside Tim
I am a
bad boy
Iminä olen
paha poika
15. I am not safe
I’m scared
I am not cared for
I am unlovable
I’m ignored
I’m not valued
I’m bad
It’s a terrifying hostile world
People hurt you
Dangerous place
There is no place for me
I am not important
The world is not okay
POOR ATTACHMENT BETWEEN CHILD AND OTHERS
I’m alone
- Child’s View of Self and World
16. What story is Tim told?
Mikä tarina Tim kerrottu?
“The house was a bit messy”
“Talo oli hieman sotkuinen”
18. 18
“The house was a bit messy”
“Talo oli hieman sotkuinen”
They slept on mattresses
soaked with urine, covered
with filthy bedding, wading
through mouldy rubbish ankle-
deep to get through the front
door and off to school.
Ne nukkui patjat kastettu
virtsaan, peitetty
saastaisia vuodevaatteet,
kahlaa homehtunut roskat
nilkka-syvä päästä
etuovesta ja pois kouluun.
19. “The house was a bit messy”
“Talo oli hieman sotkuinen”
Frequently MISMATCH between sensory
life experiences and story child is told
20. 20
Confusing MISMATCH of language
“The house was a bit messy”
“Talo oli hieman sotkuinen”
inhottava kurjuudessa
vs. puhdas epäsiisti
disgusting squalor
vs. clean untidy
21. Frequently MISMATCH between sensory
life experiences and saccharine life story
“The body keeps
the score”
BESSEL VAN DER KOLK
“Languaging”
“Kieli”
22. “The house was a bit messy”
“Talo oli hieman sotkuinen”
Child needs truthful life story which
matches his sensory experiences
full of rubbish, flies, rotting food and blocked toilet
täynnä roskaa, lentää, mätää ruokaa ja tukossa wc
X XX
24. 100% Truth
Telling
Jigsaw of Truth: True Picture
Heaps of sensory memories
in an age
appropriate
way
Claude Monet: La Terrace de Sante Adresse
25. 25 pieces:
outlining of
story
Aged 6
Jigsaw of Truth:
Heaps of sensory memories
100% Truth Telling in an age appropriate way
Flag
Boat
Umbrella
Clouds
Sea
27. 1000
pieces: the
entire
detailed
story
By 18 - 21
Jigsaw of Truth:
Heaps of sensory memories
Jigsaw of Truth:
Heaps of sensory memories
100% Truth Telling in an age appropriate way
Flag
Boat
Umbrella
Clouds
Sea
+ + +
+ ++++++
29. Coherent Narrative = truthful life story
which matches sensory experiences
Johdonmukainen Narratiivinen = todenmukainen
elämäntarina, joka vastaa aistikokemuksia
30. Coherent narrative allows child
to trust their bodily sensations
“The body keeps the score”
BESSEL VAN DER KOLK
FEEL SAFE INSIDE THE BODY
Johdonmukainen kerronta
mahdollistaa lapsen
luottamaan kehon
tuntemuksia
31. 31
Age
0 5 2010 15
Reframe neglect (laiminlyönti)
so thats why I feel
scared when I'm hungry
and like fart smells
33. 33
Age
0 5 2010 15
Reframe removal episode
it was not my fault
he was drunk and wrong
I was rescued
I am important
I am a good boy
34. 1000 - 199
801 pieces
because
gaps and
blocks in
the story
Jigsaw of Truth:
Heaps of sensory memories
Jigsaw of Truth: Will have gaps
Heaps of sensory memories
100% Truth Telling in an age appropriate way
Flag
Boat
Umbrella
Clouds
Sea
+ + +
+ ++++++
35. 35
Age
0 5 2010 15
Reframe: deeper understanding with age
Reframe: syvempää ymmärrystä iän
wash me & clothes
keeping clean is nice
alcohol can be harmful
eat regularly
36. Avoid False Negative Beliefs
through a Coherent Narrative
“Knowledge is only a rumour
until its in the muscle”
Judy DeLozier
Head, heart and gut understanding
Intrinsic truth
Photos
Evidence & indisputable material
Information, data, words
saccharine life story book
38. Empowering Reframing
MULTIPLE FRESH PERSPECTIVES
utilising extra knowledge, resources, new
learnings and age appropriate wisdom
shrapnel removal
healing
pervasive shame
39. I am safe
I am loved
I am cared for
I am valued
I can trust adults
I’m special
I’m okay
It’s a safe place
People love me
People care for me
There is a place for me here
I am important to them
The world is okay
+ Child’s View of Self and World
40. Future Proofing: to stabilise their
life journey children need
Coherent narrative
Consistency: no surprises
100% truth telling age appropriate
A(his)story which does not conflict with
their sensory memories (i.e. matches)
Knowing deep inside it was not their fault
Help and support to understand, process
and reframe their past
42. 42
minä olen
paha poika
I am a
bad boy
Minä olen
hyvä poika
I am a
good boy
Imagine behaviour, outcomes and life path for each
Kuvittele käytös, tuloksia ja
elämänpolkuasi jokaisen
44. FREE RESOURCES - articles, links, podcasts, videos
LEARNING PLATFORM & TOOLS
ONLINE TRAINING - various audiences
FUTURE-PROOFING - evidence & thinking
REAL and honest
EXPERTS in various fields (coaching, leadership,
communication skills, trauma, etc)
LEADING LEARNER principles
@HelenOakwater
www.FABParents.co.uk
helen@helenoakwater.com
45. • Coach, Author, Trainer
• Adoptive Parent
• Siblings aged 2,4,5 now 25+
• Teacher (11-18: PE & maths)
• NLP & mBIT Coach & Trainer
• Post Grad Attachment & Adoption
(Family Futures)
• Government Task Force
45
Helen Oakwater
www.FABparents.co.uk
@helenoakwater
https://www.amazon.de/Bubble-Wrapped-Children-Networking-Transforming/dp/1780920970
http://www.bookdepository.com/Bubble-Wrapped-Children---How-Social-Networking-is-Transforming-
the-Face-of-21st-Century-Adoption-Helen-Oakwater/9781780920979
helen@helenoakwater.com
46. 46
Does lack of truth telling
destabilise a child's life journey?
Helen Oakwater
Onko puute totuuden kertomista
horjuttaa lapsen elämään matkaa?
National Child Welfare Conference
Look at me – dignified childhood!
Jyväskylä, Finland : 27 Syyskuu 2016
@HelenOakwater