Your role is to be a supportive listener and help your buddy feel heard and validated. Let the appropriate adults handle addressing the situation directly.

3. Self-Determination
What does it mean?
“The ability to identify and achieve goals based on a
foundation of knowing and valuing oneself.”

4. There are many components to Self-Determination
We are going to focus on the following four
components for this training…
 Communicating Assertively
 Self-Management
 Self-Awareness
 Taking Responsibility

5. People communicate their needs
and wants in three different ways.
» Aggressive- likely to
encounter anger from others.
» Passive- needs and wants will
not be known.
» Assertive- Express their
needs and wants in a way
that is likely to be met with a
positive response from
others.
For Example:
Help students communicate
assertively by using “I” statements.
“I would like…” or “I need to…”

6. What does it mean?
 The way in which we talk with
people affects how well they
are able to understand us and
react to us.
For Example:
Use visual choices to help
your buddy pick which room
they would like to visit that
day. Monitor their behavior
and try using this technique
for communication to help
them do what they want
before they become agitated.

7. What does it mean?
 Knowing our
strengths,
weaknesses, needs
and preferences.
Help your buddy
 We learn more
discover and become
about ourselves
aware of their likes and
through our
dislikes by presenting
experiences.
them with options.
For Example:
 “Would you like to play
with play-dough or
make an art project?”
 “Would you like to go
on the swings or in the
ball-pit?”

8. Self-Management
For Example:
 You are going to
make a beaded
keychain in the art
room with your
buddy. Help them
make the first step.
 Ask them, “What is What does it mean?
the first thing we  Being able to
need to do to make control and manage
the keychain?” oneself in a manner
 Then prompt them that will help them
throughout the get what they want.
process.

9. Taking Responsibility
What does it mean?
 The more
For Example: responsibility one
 When finishing an
art project
demonstrates, the
encourage your more control he/she
buddy to help you has in a situation.
clean-up the  Help your buddy
materials and space keep track of their
that they used. “stuff”.

10. What does it mean?
“An act of repeated aggressive
behavior in order to intentionally
hurt another person, physically or
mentally.”
Types of Bullying:
Direct
Social
Cyber Bullying

11. Verbal or Physical Attacks
What is it?
Examples:  It is the most obvious
form of bullying and
Hitting, grabbing,
includes physical
pushing, chasing with an
and/or verbal attacks.
intent to harm,
threatening to hurt

12. What is it?
 Behaviors that harm others
through damage (or threat of
Examples: damage) to relationships or
feelings of acceptance.
Exclusion,
Rumors, Gossip,
Lies

13. What is it?
 Use of information
and technology to
support deliberate,
repeated, and
hostile behavior by
an individual or
group.
Examples:
E-mail, Text Messages,
Facebook, Twitter

14. » Bullies
˃ Characteristics such as: Aggressive, Hostile, Domineering towards peers
and other behavior problems such as truancy or drug and alcohol abuse.
» Victims
˃ Characteristics such as: Passive, Insecure, Weak, Withdrawn, Sensitive and
Quiet.
» Bystanders
˃ A person who witnesses or hears about an act of bullying and does nothing
to stop the situation.
˃ 85% of children that are neither bullies nor victims.

15. Listen
 Your buddy may be
comfortable enough
to tell you what
happens at school.
Watch
 Is your buddy acting
differently that
he/she used to?

16. What to do:
 Listen to what your buddy has
to say and ask questions to find
out what exactly happened.
 Support his/her feelings by
acknowledging and validating
the way they feel.
 Ask what he/she thinks would
be helpful to stop the bullying.
 Tell your buddy’s parent or the
program director what your
buddy has told you.
 Don’t ignore it.

17. What NOT to do:
˃ Don’t offer premature solutions
such as, “This is what you
should do next time.”
˃ Don’t blame your buddy or give
them the impression that
he/she is responsible for why it
happened.
˃ Ignore it.