Working towards this critical life-skill will go a long way towards positive self-esteem, happiness as well as means to stand up for your own or other people's rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive, or passively accepting 'wrong'
2. Agenda
• Defining Assertiveness
• The Assertiveness Sequence
• Visual Representation of Behavior
• Assertiveness Ruler
• Characteristics Of Passive People
• 10 Signs You Are A Doormat
• Characteristics Of Aggressive, Passive and Assertive People
• Passive Aggressive Behavior
• Measuring Your Assertiveness
• Assertiveness Bill of Rights
• Actions Toward Assertiveness
3. Defining Assertiveness
• The Ability To Express One’s Feelings
• Assert One’s Rights Without Hurting Others
• Respect Feelings And Rights Of Others
• Communication That Is Direct, Open, Honest
8. Signs You Are A Doormat
Accepting and Justifying Unacceptable Behavior
Assuming Responsibility for Others’ Bad Moods
Blaming Yourself for Everything
Accepting Blame even if you aren’t to Blame
Continuously Apologizing
Allowing Others to Demean you by Staying Silent
Avoiding Confrontation at all Costs
9. Characteristics Of Aggressive People
Are loud, bossy and pushy
Get their way, no matter what
React instantly
Like to get even
Don’t care about feelings
Give vice-like handshakes
Believe that winning is everything
10. Characteristics Of Passive People
Have trouble saying “No”
Do whatever others ask, even if it’s very inconvenient
Get “stepped on” a lot
Talk softly and don’t stand up for their rights
They’re not even sure if they have any rights
Do anything to avoid conflict
Are taken advantage of. They get resentful but don’t tell anyone
11. Characteristics Of Assertive People
Are firm and direct
Don’t blame others but take full responsibility for their own feelings
Concentrate on the present
Can express their needs and feelings calmly and easily
Are confident about who they are
Speak firmly and make eye contact
Respect others’ rights and expect the same in return
14. Measuring Your Assertiveness
• Do you have difficulty accepting constructive
criticism?
• Do you find yourself saying ‘yes’ to requests that you
should really say ‘no’ to, just to avoid disappointing
people?
• Do you have trouble voicing a difference of opinion
with others?
• Do people tend to feel alienated by your
communication style when you do disagree with
them?
• Do you feel attacked when someone has an opinion
different from your own?
15. Assertiveness Bill of Rights
I Have The Right To Say “No”
Be Treated With Respect
Express My Needs, Feelings, Thoughts And Ideas
Be Proud Of My Accomplishments
Disagree In A Respectful Manner
Feel And Express Anger
Get Help When I Need It
Feel Supported
16. Actions Toward Assertiveness_1
• Recognize Your Need To Change
• Take Care Of Yourself - Physical, Intellectual, Social
And Emotional Needs
• Enhance Your Confidence - Know What You Can Do
And What You Want
• Have A Positive Outlook. See The Glass As Half Full,
Rather Than Half Empty
• Put Faith In Your Ability To Make Good Things
Happen
• Challenge Your Irrational Beliefs
• Convey The Impression That You Are In Charge And
Entitled To Lead
• Learn To Confront And Say “No.”
17. Actions Toward Assertiveness_2
• Be Political. Know When To Open Your Mouth And
When To Keep It Shut
• Maintain Perspective. Don’t Let What Happened
Yesterday Affect What Will Happen Tomorrow
• Watch Your Body Language
• Present Yourself Positively. Claim The Recognition That
Is Rightfully Yours
• Ask For What You Want
• Participate In Meetings And Other Group Activities
• Learn From Colleagues And Friends You Feel Are
Assertive
• Practice Assertiveness
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