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2. No matter what you do, it's always a
mix of two things.

3. Means, and ends.

4. Now, this may be a bit of an
oversimplification.

5. You can take pretty much any one
thing or process and come up with a
kajillion different categories to put
them in.

6. Good things and bad things.

7. Legal and illegal.

8. Safe or dangerous, etc.

9. But for the sake of this post, we'll talk
in terms of ends and means.

10. Means is simply what you do to get
the ends.

11. But few things are purely one or the
other.

12. And end is useless unless it's part of a
bigger process, or means, to get an
even bigger end.

13. This is helpful to think about when
you're out with the intention of
meeting people, especially the ladies.

14. Most guys see a cute girl, and
suddenly all their problems will be
solved if only she accepts them.

15. Then they'll be the hero of Earth, and
never worry about anything again.

16. But even if you walk up and she falls
madly in love with you, SHE is still a
means to a greater end.

17. Certainly, you are not going to use her
and throw her aside like a spent Dixie
cup.

18. Hopefully you'll see her as a partner in
creating a relationship, even for a
short time.

19. And that relationships is going to be a
means to create an ends of more
happiness, self expression, and sexual
fulfillment.

20. Now, if you walked up and said all this,
you may sound like Data from Star
Trek.

21. But this is how you are programmed.

22. All humans are built with goal seeking
mechanisms, and feedback
mechanisms.

23. And within each feedback mechanism
are all kinds goals in and of
themselves.

24. Just think about walking.

25. Your overall intention is to get from
here, to over there.

26. But in the process of doing so, you
need to keep balance, and keep one
foot going in front of the other.

27. If you captured only a second or two in
time, and played it over and over, each
step of your foot would be an end,
within a larger process.

28. The bigger you go, the same this same
structure exists.

29. From the smallest atom all the way up
to the galactic truth of why this whole
thing exists.

30. Not to get too metaphysical, but no
matter WHAT happens with that one
particular girl, the same overarching
goals still exist, and you will still pursue
them.

31. So instead of seeing her as a "make or
break" princess of the realm, just see
her as maybe part of your own
process, maybe not.

32. Go over and talk to
her, and see what
happens.
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