The document discusses why women need stronger personal boundaries. It defines personal boundaries as taking responsibility for one's own actions and emotions without taking responsibility for others. Strong boundaries are important for self-esteem and identity development. The document then lists common symptoms of poor boundary issues like not having time for oneself, difficulty saying no, feeling depleted from overgiving, and constantly defending oneself. It provides tips for setting healthy boundaries, which include setting clear rules and consequences, communicating boundaries, following through when boundaries are crossed, and embracing discomfort during the boundary setting process. Finally, it gives 10 tips for women to value themselves, rest, take vacations, control health factors, and ask for help.

1. WHY DO WOMEN NEED STRONGER
BOUNDARIES
Mrs. Garima Bhati
Assistant Professor
Institute of Teacher’s Education

2. HEALTHY PERSONAL BOUNDARIES
Taking responsibility for your own actions
and emotions, while NOT taking
responsibility for the actions or emotions
of others.

3. PERSONAL BOUNDARIES, SELF-ESTEEM, AND
IDENTITY
 Personal boundaries and self-esteem go hand
in hand. People with high self-esteem have
strong personal boundaries. And practicing
strong personal boundaries is one way to build
self-esteem. Another way is to think of
boundaries in terms of identity. When you have
these murky areas of responsibility for your
emotions and actions—areas where it’s unclear
who is responsible for what, who’s at fault, why
you’re doing what you’re doing—you never
develop a solid identity for yourself.

4. WHY YOU NEED STRONGER BOUNDARIES FOR
YOU
 Setting strong personal boundaries is not a
cure-all for your relationship woes (or your
lost keys). In fact, they’re more of a side
effect of having a healthy self-esteem and
generally low levels of neediness with people
around you.

5. WHY BOUNDARIES ARE GOOD FOR YOU
Not only do personal boundaries boost your
self-esteem and bolster your sense of
identity, they also make life a hell lot easier.

6. DO YOU HAVE BOUNDARY ISSUES?
There are always some symptoms which are
being ignored for long time. Here are some
symptoms of having boundaries issues:

7. NO TIME FOR YOURSELF
You’re left with very little time for yourself?

8. YOU CAN’T SAY “NO”
 You say ‘yes’ when you want to say ‘No’

9. FEELING GUILTY
You often feel guilty for everything and blame
yourself for others’ mistakes?

10. OTHERS TAKE ADVANTAGES OF YOU
You often feel others take advantages of you?

11. SOLVING OTHERS’ PROBLEMS
You feel responsible for solving other
people’s problems?

12. FEEL DEPLETED FROM OVER GIVING
You feel depleted from so much over giving?

13. CAN’T SPEAK YOUR TRUTH
You don’t speak your truth and your side of the
story?

14. SELF SACRIFICE TO AVOID CONFLICT
You self sacrifice in order to avoid conflict?

15. POINTLESS FIGHTING OR DEBATING REGULARLY
Do you find yourself sucked into pointless
fighting or debating regularly?

16. DEFENDING YOURSELF FOR THINGS YOU
BELIEVE AREN’T YOUR FAULT
Do you spend a lot of time defending yourself
for things you believe aren’t your fault?

17. HOW TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES?
Poor boundaries are almost always a
reflection of low self-esteem. To build self-
esteem, you need to first understand that it’s
simply the by-product of being a competent,
well-adjusted human being. Self-esteem is
not something that you pursue for its own
sake. Doing that isn’t only unhelpful—it’s
toxic.

18. (A) SET YOUR BOUNDARIES
This is easier said than done. But you will get
nowhere unless you define what your
personal boundaries are. What will you
tolerate or not tolerate in your life? What
behaviors will you accept or not accept?
From your family, your partner, your friends,
your colleagues,

19. (B) DECIDE WHAT THE CONSEQUENCES ARE IF
SOMEONE BREAKS ONE OF YOUR RULES.
This is bound to happen, and often. And it will
be difficult to think of what the consequences
should be once it does. You’ll be biased by
the person, the context, and a myriad other
factors. So decide from the get-go.

20. (C) COMMUNICATE CLEARLY
Make your boundaries known. This is
particularly important for the people closest
to you. It’s probably okay for the mailman to
not know all your boundaries (save for the
basic ones like not breaking down your door
to deliver mail), but it’s absolutely not alright
for your partner to not know when they’d be
crossing the line.

21. (D) FOLLOW THROUGH
If someone crosses your boundaries, do
what you said you would. Be compassionate,
but be firm.

22. (E) LET YOUR FEELINGS LEAD YOU
Anger is often a sign that your boundaries
are getting crossed. We physically and
emotionally feel when things are not right -
let that guide you. There’s most likely a
boundary that needs to be set.

23. (E) EMBRACE THE DISCOMFORT
Boundary setting can be difficult, whether it’s
hard for the people affected or difficult for
you. Embrace the discomfort - it’s the only
way to grow. And the more you practice, the
easier it gets.

24. (F) LET THE RIGHT PEOPLE IN WHO CAN
SUPPORT YOU
The people you love will come to support and
trust your choices. Let them in and be on
your team to be there for you when you need
it.

25. (G) REFRAME YOUR FEAR OF HURTING OTHERS
Setting boundaries can sometimes feel like
hurt to those affected by your choices, so it is
important to reframe the situation into an act
of love, for yourself and them. Let them
know why what you are doing is the best for
both of you and if they don’t get it, then that’s
their problem, not yours.

26. TIPS TO WOMEN:
Give yourself the value you deserve, love
and care, you are a great woman and don't
forget you are Beautiful Instrument for
Creation.

27. 1. You should NOT finish all housework in
one day. Those who have done it are
stressed and some are already buried.

28. 2. SLEEP if necessary for headache to
disappear. Take time to rest, it's not a sin to
sit, put your legs on the table and eat
something you like.

29. 3. Have some vacations. Those who refuse
to take vacation leave, take time off or break
time, if not, their families will miss them
because they have prematurely gone on the
journey without return.

30. 4. STOP taking sedatives to sleep, you're
destroying your brain and organs. Sometime
you'll start forgetting things. Relax your brain,
worry less, go for a walk, laugh, smile more,
everything will happen eventually.

31. 5. Meditate. Have a quiet time and relax.
Breathe fresh air. Breathe out all negativities.

32. 6. Stay in front of your mirror, smile for
yourself. That turns on a positive aura around
you, so you can shine with your own light.

33. 7. GO buy you a snack or something to drink.
Just do something for yourself, even if your
partner doesn't do it for you... do it yourself,
so you can download things in your head.

34. 8. GET the appliances needed to ease your job
and avoid stress as it is women's largest
silent killer.

35. 9.Ask help when you don't feel good, do
something about it, go to health center,
hospital or call some nearby doctor. Don't
self medicate.

36. 10.Control your pressure and sugar level
whether you're sick or not. Doing this has saved
a lot of women in the past. Trust this good
advice.