Divorce recovery -2 of 3- personal recovery including personal vision and purpose, gratitude, planning for the future after divorce

1. Kevin Karlson JD PhD

2. Based on the book by Dr. Karlson

3. Dr. Kevin Karlson

4.  5 minute warm up/check in/introductions exercise in pairs
 3 things you are grateful for today and why
 Homework from last week
Mini-lecture on these topics: (one per session—about 30 minutes)
 Emotional freedom
 Personal freedom
 Relational freedom
 Financial freedom
 Spiritual freedom (new tips and tools every session)
Each week we will structure questions on one of these topics above, and
provide time for :
 Journaling
 Discussion with partner
 Lessons learned- report out to whole group
 Q and A
 Homework for next week

5.  Rate yourself on these factors from
1 (low) to 7 (high) [Here’s an example]
7
6
5
4
3
2
1
Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance Forgiveness

8. Where you are now
God’s vision
for
your future!
Spiritualfreedom
Emotional freedom
Personal freedom
Relational freedom
Financial freedom

9.  For I know the plans I have for you,” says the
Eternal, “plans for peace, not evil, to give you a
future and hope—never forget that.”
Jeremiah 29:10-12
 1.Freedom from the negative emotions of
divorce
 2.Freedom to become what God has always
had in mind for you
 3.Freedom to have a godly relationship
 4. Freedom to prosper financially

10. Session 2

11.  Personal RecoveryTopics-Session 2
 Roles
 Identity
 Vision, Purpose, Mission
 Values
 Goals

13.  Discover/create a new identity
 Re/discover your personal
 Vision
 Purpose/Mission
 Values/Beliefs
 Goals and a strategy for achieving them
 Career
 Epitaph

14.  If you haven’t been baptized in the Holy Spirit,
now would be a good time, if you’re willing
 The Holy Spirit has gifts for you (1 Cor. 12)
▪ Wisdom
▪ Knowledge
▪ Faith
▪ Healing
▪ Miracles
▪ Prophesy
▪ Distinguishing of spirits
▪ Speaking in prayer language
▪ Interpretation of prayer language

15.  Divorce is the result of an attack by the
Enemy
 Recovery from divorce requires recognition of
the spirits at work and tools for getting rid of
them now and resisting them in the future
 Each session of this series will address the
spirits and the tools

16.  22 The Holy Spirit produces a different kind of
fruit:
 unconditional love,
 joy,
 peace,
 patience,
 kindheartedness,
 goodness,
 faithfulness,
 23 gentleness, and
 self-control.

17.  Where there is no vision from God, the people
run wild, but those who adhere
to God’s instruction know genuine happiness.
 Proverbs 29:17

18.  A vision is a picture of your desired future so
you can avoid being stuck in the past or the
present
 “if you don’t know where you’re going, any
road will get you there”
 A vision is a guide for decision making
 Where there is no vision, the people perish
(Proverbs 29:11)
 Session 2 is devoted to crafting a new
personal vision for the future

19. The story is told of the farmer who saw a vision in
the clouds.
He read there three letters, G.P.C. He reasoned, "I
must 'Go preach Christ.' I will obey God.“
He turned out to be a crashing failure as a
preacher. Just when he thought he was nothing
at all, that he had lost his only real career, that
he had to sell his farm, he was saved by an angel.
The angel came to him, and said, "You already had
a job. God was saying, 'Go plant corn.'"

20. Time for reflection and integration

21.  What is your personal vision?Who has
God called you to be?
 It’s a vivid, idealized description of you, the person, that
inspires, energizes and helps you create a mental picture
of your target.
 Your vision statement should describe God’s desired
outcome for your life.
 What does your Strengthsfinders summary tell you
about your God given strengths and gifts?
 This is a clue to God’s vision for you

22. KEVIN
 Strategic
 Relator
 Developer
 Input
 Futuristic
KIM
 Relator
 Responsibility
 Positivity
 Belief
 Input

23.  Write a one
sentence
epitaph for
your
tombstone.
 How do you
want to be
remembered?

24.  I wish that…
 I had been more true to myself
 I hadn’t worked so hard
 I had more courage to express my feelings
 I had stayed in touch with my friends
 I had let myself be happier

25.  Eternal One (to Habakkuk):
2 Write down this vision.Write it clearly on
tablets, so that anyone who reads it may run.
3 For the vision points ahead to a time I have
appointed; it testifies regarding the end, and
it will not lie.
Even if there is a delay, wait for it.
It is coming and will come without delay.

26.  Given what God has called you to be, what
has he called you to do?
 What is your purpose(s) for being on the planet?
 What mission(s) has he given you to accomplish?
 Your mission statement should be able to guide your
actions, spell out your overall goals, provide a sense of
direction and guide decision-making.
 When completed, it should provide the framework or
context from which all ideas, strategies and goals are
formulated.

27. Richard Bach

28.  Share as much of your journaling or your
reactions to this session as you wish
 You will each have about 5 minutes, so
manage the time

29.  3 amazing people in my life
 3 great things about my physical body
 3 great things about where I work and what I
do for a living

30.  3 great gifts of talent and skill I have been
given
 3 gifts of knowledge and experience I have
been given
 3 ways in which my life is wealthy, prosperous

31.  Share as much of your journaling or your
reactions to this session as you wish
 You will each have about 5 minutes, so
manage the time

32.  What are the 5 values most important to you?
 Rank them from 1 (most important) to 5 (less
important)
 1.
 2.
 3.
 4.
 5.

33.  The year is 2018. Looking back from a
perspective of amazing success, what has
God helped you to accomplish?
 List your achievements in these areas, and how
you achieved them:
▪ Spiritual
▪ Emotional
▪ Personal
▪ Relational
▪ Financial

34. Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always...
Concerning acts of initiative and creation there is one elementary truth the ignorance of
which kills countless ideas and splendid plans:
That the moment one definitely commits oneself, the
Providence moves too.
All sorts of things occur to help one that would otherwise never have
occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision raising in
one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and
material assistance which no man could have dreamt would come his
way.
Whatever you can do, begin it.
Goethe

36.  Share as much of your journaling or your
reactions to this session as you wish
 You will each have about 5 minutes, so
manage the time

37.  Questions
 Report outs
 Homework:
 Journaling every day
 Finalize and fill in your vision, mission, values,
goals

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