The document discusses the concept of resiliency and provides information on developing resilience. It defines resiliency as the ability to overcome challenges and adversity and emerge stronger. Protective factors that can help build resilience are discussed, such as social support systems and personal characteristics like a sense of humor and self-efficacy. Risk factors that undermine resilience are also outlined. The document then provides several "keys" to building resilience, like maintaining perspective, being adaptable, and accepting oneself. It concludes by discussing strategies for coping with daily problems, life-altering adversity, and how to avoid cognitive "sink holes" that can hamper one's resilience.
2. What is Resiliency
• Resiliency is the ability to
overcome challenges of all
kinds–trauma, tragedy,
personal crises, life
problems
• The ability to bounce back
stronger, wiser, and more
personally powerful.
4. Ten Keys to Resiliency
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ujvCEDwfTX0
5. Protective factors
• For people to overcome trouble, somehow the
protective factors in their lives have to outweigh
the forces that drag them down.
• Some of these protective factors are present in
resilient people themselves, characteristics like
insight, independence, initiative, creativity, a
strong ethical sense, and the ability to see the
funny side of difficult situations.
• Other protective factors come from their
environment.
6. Protective factors
• developing good social skills (the individual)
• having parents who monitor where their children are,
what they are doing and with whom(family)
• participating in positive social activities
(neighbourhood)
• feeling connected to school (school)
• achieving good school grades (school)
• having friends who positively influence decision-
making (peers)
• having supportive adults in the community
(neighbourhood) (AADAC, 2003e, p. 26)
7. Risk Factors
• becoming involved with ATODG at an early age (the
individual)
• having friends who use or encourage use of ATODG
(peers)
• belonging to a family with a history of substance abuse
(family)
• experiencing conflict within the family (family)
• having a poor connection to school (school)
• getting low school grades (school)
• having easy access to ATODG (neighbourhood)
(AADAC, 2003e, p. 21)
8. What I need to know
• What constitutes adversity is in the “eye of the
beholder”
9. Resilience is…
• Managing emotions rather than suppressing
them.
• Facing our difficulties head on.
• Built through pain and struggle.
– It is essential to not get too entrenched in these
negative emotions to the point where they
paralyze you.
10. Resilience is a process.
• There is not an endpoint at which we can arrive
and say, “Ah! At last I’ve attained resilience,”
• Even though people do become stronger through
overcoming adversity, it doesn’t mean that they
will be “inoculated” to all future adversities.
– You may still may be vulnerable to coping poorly with
future challenges.
11. There is a crucial distinction between
surviving an adversity and thriving as
a result of it.
• A survivor can be consumed
with bitterness or wallow in
self-pity.
• A more successfully
resilient person emerges
from an adversity with a
stronger character and a
more refined perspective.
• The truly resilient individual
fights to overcome the
trauma, and to learn from it
12. keys to Resilience
A sense of humour
being quick to laugh and easy
to smile has consistently been
associated with a better
psychological state.
You do not take yourself or
your ideas too seriously
You are able to step back and
observe with a little more
detachment and objectivity
13. Self efficacy
• the belief in your ability to get things done
and move your life in a desired direction.
• the capacity to stay focused on your goals and
to carry out the necessary actions to
accomplish them.
– we become a lot more hopeful in our ability to
pull through a tough situation if we have faith in
our ability to successfully take the steps to move
forward.
14. Goal setting
• Often when we
confront an adversity,
we may find ourselves
facing circumstances
that we just cannot
change.
• Knowing what is within
our power to change,
and having the sense to
set goals we can reach
15. perspective
• Resilient people maintain
a sense of perspective in
the face of adversity.
• They are able to step back
and appraise events in a
calm and measured
manner, not jumping to
“doom and gloom”
conclusions every time
there is a setback.
• Clearly see potential
options
16. Curiosity
• imply an open-mindedness to experimenting with
different approaches that will increase your
ability to move through an adversity.
• Unsuccessful attempts are viewed as learning
experiences not as failures.
• Higher capacity for self-reflection.
– able to gain insights about themselves and recognize
the growth that emerges from their struggles.
• if you are open to the possibilities of the good
things that can emerge from a trauma, you may
be more likely to reap them.
17. Authenticity and self acceptance
• The kinder we are to ourselves, the more
resilient we will be in facing adversity.
• Self acceptance implies that we possess
realistic expectations and goals and that we
have an accurate recognition of our strengths
as well as our vulnerabilities.
18. Persistence and flexibility
• knowing when to take action to deal with your
problems, and when to take time to step back,
rest, and to reenergize.
19. Social Support
• It is well recognized that a good social support network
is necessary to help maintain a positive state.
• Resilient individuals maintain strong connections with
others and tend to have supportive relationships.
• They are not too proud to accept help and guidance
from those they trust.
• Some may find support in their close circles of family
and friends, while others may derive it from being
active in community groups or faith-based
organizations.
20. Emotional Control
• The ability to moderate the intensity of your
feelings in order to keep your focus in stressful
events.
• The ability to exhibit consistent behaviors
across a wide range of situations.
• People who can regulate their emotions
effectively are better able to rise above
negative scripts that can keep them
ruminating or despairing over a problem.
21. What undermines resilience
• Jumping to conclusions
– respond impulsively to situations before you have
all the information or the complete story? And in
doing so, do you tend to lose control over your
emotions?
22. Tunnel Vision
• hyper-focus on the negative.
• Do you tend to zero in on the
worst-case scenarios, and the
doom and gloom?
• Is it possible that in doing so,
you may be ignoring
information that could
influence your beliefs in a more
productive way?
• seriously undermines your
ability to be resilient in the face
of adversity.
23. Magnifying and minimizing
• Magnifying and minimizing entails collecting
information about a scenario, but proceeding to
overvalue some details of the story and undervalue
others depending on your cognitive biases.
• Can you see how this might lead to a self fulfilling
prophecy if the overemphasis is on a situation’s
negative aspects?
• A resilient mindset is promoted through cultivating a
balanced and accurate appraisal of one’s life
situations.”
24. Personalization
• Personalization is the default feeling that you are the
cause of your problems.
• Do you automatically attribute your adversities to your
own doing?
• Do you believe it’s usually all your fault?
• Do you feel guilty because you tend to think that your
actions have led to the pain and misfortune of others?
• That’s a whole lot of weight for any psyche to take on.
• Resiliency requires that we be able to accurate discern
our own culpability in situations as opposed to the
causes that are external to us.
25. Overgeneralization and Pessimism
• Overgeneralization and pessimism are the
self-destructive tendencies to exaggerate the
impact of isolated events, and to perpetuate
an overall mindset of negativity.
26. Externalization
• The belief that others
are usually to blame for
your predicaments.
• In an effort to protect
your self-esteem, you
are unable to identify
your own role and
responsibility in
contributing to your
adversities.
27. Can you avoid the sink Holes
• In groups of 2 respond with the appropriate
sink hole
28. Sink holes
• Responding impulsively to situations before
you have full information. Loss of control over
emotions.
Jumping to Conclusions
29. Sink Holes
• Focusing on the negative. On behaviors that
mesh with your thinking (negative or
positive)—ignoring data that could disconfirm
beliefs.
Tunnel Vision
30. Sink Holes
• Collecting all the information, but overvaluing
some and undervaluing others. Leads to self
fulfilling prophesy. Growth and change
requires a balanced, accurate appraisal of the
situation.
Magnifying and minimizing
31. Sink holes
• Reflex tendency to attribute problems to one’s
own doing. Often leads to depression and/or
guilt (because others have been violated and
it’s your fault). You only see the internal
causes of a problem and not the external
cause. Resiliency requires accuracy. Self
efficacy requires belief that you can change
the internal causes.
Personalization
32. Sink Holes
• Opposite of personalizing. Problems are rarely
your fault. Protects the person’s self esteem.
Externalizers fail to identify the problems that
were genuinely their fault and within their
control. They think everyone else has let them
down. Prone to anger.
Externalizing
33. Sink Holes
• Character assassination reaction to problems
(I’m a bad parent). Explanatory style (me,
always, everything).
Over generalizing
34. Sink Holes
• Those who jump to conclusions. Getting angry
because others can’t read your mind and
know what to do/say. Gets in the way of
problem solving. Ask questions to
understand/clarify the situation before making
assumptions.
Mind Reading
35. Sink Holes
• You assume that your negative emotions are
the way things actually are
Emotional Reasoning
36. What enables resilience and what
undermines it
What Happened What you think Consequences : feelings
and actions taken
Somebody cuts you off on
the road
The person is a jerk I speed up, cut him off and
then slow down
You significant other
resents you for spending
time with your friends
You pass by a group of
people and they start
laughing
This happened to me….
37. Avoid the sink holes
• Give and example of when you did the following
– Jumping to conclusions
– Tunnel vision
– Magnifying and minimizing
– Personalization
– Externalizing
– Over generalizing
– Mind reading
– Emotional reasoning
38. Coping strategies and applications
Day to Day Adversity
Step one : Identify the negative beliefs that may
be preventing you from resolving your issue
39. ABCDE Model
Step one : Identify the negative beliefs that may
be preventing you from resolving your issue
40. ABCDE model animated
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41. Reframing
Reframing example What happened What you think Consequences:
feeling and actions
taken
Negative reaction Somebody cuts you
off on the highway
This person is a real
jerk- why aren't the
cops around when
you need them
You roll down your
window and shout
at them. Your
blood pressure
soars
Reaction reframed
as positive
Somebody cuts you
off on the highway
They probably
didn't see me.
Good thing I'm a
careful driver
You slow down, stay
alert and focus on
getting safely to
your destination
42. Consider
• What did you notice about your beliefs? Andy Pattersn
in behavior?
• What were some of the consequences you
experienced? What emotions did you experience?
• Did you have any physical reactions?
• Is there likely to be lingering effects from your actions?
• How often did you make a mountain out of a molehill?
• Did you find it easy to reframe your beliefs? Does this
come easy to you or do you get stuck with your
perceptions?
43. Dealing with External Factors
• Adapt Model
– A= Attitude
– D= Defining the probelm and setting realistic goal
– A= generating Alternative solutions
– P= Predicting the consequences and coming up
with a soloution plan
– T = Test it
44. Dealing with life altering Adversity
1. Take time
2. Ask for support
3. Join support groups
4. Talk about it
5. Focus on healthy behaviors
6. Re-establish routines
7. Avoid alcohol and drugs
8. Avoid major life decisions for a while
9. Look for meaning and purpose in your life