Learn three effective ways to improve your relationship with your stepchild and create a more relaxed and healthy blended family dynamic.

2. What Do You Do If They
Don’t Like You?

3. Do You Feel Guilty
Because You Haven’t
Been Able To Generate
Real Love For Them Yet?

4. How Do You Improve
This Dynamic?

5. Start Slowly and Set
Achievable Goals

6. Having A Wonderful
Vision
Vs
Being Idealistic

7. How Possible Is It To
Love Instantly?

8. Not Very…
Imagine telling yourself
to love someone you
meet for the first
time…

9. It’s Going To Take A
Little Time

10. It’s Going To Take A
Little Patience

11. What if they
don’t like you?

12. You can’t blame them

13. Your Stepchildren’s
View Of Things
You are a threat

14. Your Stepchildren’s
View Of Things
You are an invader

15. Your Stepchildren’s
View Of Things
You are trying to take
over their
bio parent’s role

16. Your Stepchildren’s
View Of Things
You are preventing their
bio parents from falling
back in love and getting
back together again.

17. Your Stepchildren’s
View Of Things
You are a threat

18. Your Stepchildren’s
View Of Things
None of the above is
likely true, but for them
it is real

19. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfection and the
Super Stepparent

20. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Striving for the
Perfect Family

21. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfect Discipline

22. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfect Home

23. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Perfect Love

24. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Stop

25. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Relax

26. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Start Slowly

27. How Most Stepparents
Sabotage Their Relationships
Get To Know Them

28. Get To Know Them
 What are they interested in?
 How can you support their interests?
 How can you develop a
friend/mentor/ally type of
relationship with them?
 What kind of skillful generosity can
you practice with them?

29. Deepening
Your Relationship
Look For Ways To Have
Fun With Them!

30. Deepening
Your Relationship
Don’t Go Overboard

31. Deepening
Your Relationship
Let Them Dictate The
Speed Of The
Developing Relationship

32. Deepening
Your Relationship
Don’t Go Overboard

33. Deepening
Your Relationship
Let Them Control How
Fast Or Slow To Develop
The Relationship

34. Deepening
Your Relationship
Don’t Be A Threat
Tell Them You Are Not
Looking To Replace Their
Bio Parent

35. How To Discipline
Relax!

36. Deepening
Your Relationship
Take On
A Supporting Role

37. Deepening
Your Relationship
Don’t Go Overboard

38. If You Feel
Like An Outsider
Relax

39. Deepening
Your Relationship
Engage

40. Deepening
Your Relationship
Be Your
Number One Supporter

41. Self Compassion
The Alternative to
Beating Yourself Up

42. Self Compassion
Defined

43. Self Compassion
Supported by Science
Based Research

44. Self Compassion
Benefits
Increases in Motivation
Improvement in
Happiness
Reductions in Stress

45. Self Compassion
The Essentials
Self Kindness
Acknowledge/Accept
Common Humanity
Mindfulness

46. For the article this
presentation is based
on go to:
www.davidcjohnstone.com/stepparent-relationships/