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June 13-14, 2015, at Hotel Holiday Inn Mayur Vihar, Delhi
Discuss Agile Conference Delhi-2015
www.discussagile.com
Agile FAQs
Karthik Kamal Balasubramaniam
It's not an Agile Story
It’s not an Agile Story
‘Apollo-Dionysus’ 	
Dilemma
Ying - Yang	
Order-Chaos	
Black - Red	
Sun - Moon	
Day - Night
The items on the Right Vs The items on the Left!
Individuals and interactions over processes and tools
!
Working software over comprehensive documentation
!
Customer collaboration over contract negotiation
!
Responding to change over following a plan
‘Agile is Dead’
‘Agile is Dead’
‘Balance’ - Slayer of this nemesis
Although we have not embraced this balance successfully yet,
we as an Agile community ‘acknowledge’ the need for one.
That’s progress!
With that HOPE I begin
HER	
All representations in this presentation are mostly
alluded to one gender to emphasise on the qualities
related to ‘feelings’ which is conventionally referred
as ‘feminine’. However I as an individual do not
subscribe to that norm entirely!
!
!
All the paintings in this presentation are done by
Shilo Shiv Suleman one of the fiercest artist I have
ever known.
DISCLAIMER	
!
The idea of the presentation is not to let people
judge, but use this as a means to better understand
the self via the surrounding
!
I could be totally WRONG with my current
understanding of certain behaviours and I will
leave that decision to the participant’s discretion
Human fallacy is acknowledged but not dealt with
in many organisations. We barely even scratch the
surface!
!
(possible) reasons,
No Tangible immediate results
!
Fear of confrontation
!
Way too complex
!
Social Conditioning
!
Individual Process
An humble attempt to ‘DEMYSTIFY’ this complex web
of behaviour through fictional characters based on
OK-OK corral (Based on Transactional Analysis)
Distressed Damsel
I am Not Ok - You are Ok
Perennial Cynic
I am Not Ok - You are Not Ok
Pragmatic Adult
I am Ok - You are Ok
Insolent Genius
I am Ok - You are Not Ok
Insolent Genius
I am Ok - You are Not Ok
!
OverConfident
Know-It All
Do not listen
Dominant
STRATEGIES
Build Trust/Mutual Respect
Be Assertive
Help them see Value in their peers
TOOLS
2 Chair Technique
Professional /Psychological Contracts
1-0-1’s and Interventions
Sandwich Strokes
Trust Exercise
Ego Gram
Theme - Get-Rid-Of
Payoff- Furious, Burned up
Distressed Damsel
I am Not Ok - You are Ok
!
Submissive
Subservient
Silent
Not-Confident
STRATEGIES
Give positive strokes
Be supportive
Be compassionate yet be strong
Give responsibility and ‘allow’ mistakes
TOOLS
2 Chair Technique
Professional /Psychological Contracts
1-0-1’s and Interventions
Positive Strokes
Ego Gram
Theme - Get-Away-From
Payoff- Embarrassed
Perennial Cynic
I am Not Ok - You are Not Ok
!
Cynical
Regressive
Passive Aggressive
Futile
STRATEGIES
Be logical
Solution Focused
Talk about options
Help them pick an available option
TOOLS
2 Chair Technique
Admin/ Professional /Psychological Contracts
Value Vs Practice Mapping exercise
Ego Gram
Theme - Go-Nowhere-With
Payoff - Humiliated
Pragmatic Adult
I am Ok - You are Ok
!
Positive
Open to ideas
Assertive
Forward looking
Solution Oriented
Non-Judgemental
Active Listener
Acts on ‘here and now’
Healthy Space to be in!
Theme - Get-On-With
Payoff- Joyful, Jubilant
Every Individual exhibit traits of all these
characters. However there is one dominant
element !
ALL CHARACTERS ARE REQUIRED TO SUSTAIN
BALANCE
However ‘Pragmatic Adult’ is the desired life position
Path to ‘Self-Realisation’
TOOLS
Journal
Supervision
All the other tools mentioned earlier
BE fearless 	
Embrace the feminine with a tad bit of logic. 	
You will Go places!
It's Not An Agile Story : Presented By Karthik Kamal Balasubramaniam
It's Not An Agile Story : Presented By Karthik Kamal Balasubramaniam

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It's Not An Agile Story : Presented By Karthik Kamal Balasubramaniam

  • 1. June 13-14, 2015, at Hotel Holiday Inn Mayur Vihar, Delhi Discuss Agile Conference Delhi-2015 www.discussagile.com Agile FAQs Karthik Kamal Balasubramaniam It's not an Agile Story
  • 2. It’s not an Agile Story
  • 3. ‘Apollo-Dionysus’ Dilemma Ying - Yang Order-Chaos Black - Red Sun - Moon Day - Night
  • 4. The items on the Right Vs The items on the Left! Individuals and interactions over processes and tools ! Working software over comprehensive documentation ! Customer collaboration over contract negotiation ! Responding to change over following a plan
  • 6. ‘Agile is Dead’ ‘Balance’ - Slayer of this nemesis
  • 7. Although we have not embraced this balance successfully yet, we as an Agile community ‘acknowledge’ the need for one. That’s progress! With that HOPE I begin
  • 8.
  • 9. HER All representations in this presentation are mostly alluded to one gender to emphasise on the qualities related to ‘feelings’ which is conventionally referred as ‘feminine’. However I as an individual do not subscribe to that norm entirely! ! ! All the paintings in this presentation are done by Shilo Shiv Suleman one of the fiercest artist I have ever known.
  • 10. DISCLAIMER ! The idea of the presentation is not to let people judge, but use this as a means to better understand the self via the surrounding ! I could be totally WRONG with my current understanding of certain behaviours and I will leave that decision to the participant’s discretion
  • 11. Human fallacy is acknowledged but not dealt with in many organisations. We barely even scratch the surface! ! (possible) reasons, No Tangible immediate results ! Fear of confrontation ! Way too complex ! Social Conditioning ! Individual Process
  • 12. An humble attempt to ‘DEMYSTIFY’ this complex web of behaviour through fictional characters based on OK-OK corral (Based on Transactional Analysis)
  • 13. Distressed Damsel I am Not Ok - You are Ok Perennial Cynic I am Not Ok - You are Not Ok Pragmatic Adult I am Ok - You are Ok Insolent Genius I am Ok - You are Not Ok
  • 14. Insolent Genius I am Ok - You are Not Ok ! OverConfident Know-It All Do not listen Dominant STRATEGIES Build Trust/Mutual Respect Be Assertive Help them see Value in their peers TOOLS 2 Chair Technique Professional /Psychological Contracts 1-0-1’s and Interventions Sandwich Strokes Trust Exercise Ego Gram Theme - Get-Rid-Of Payoff- Furious, Burned up
  • 15. Distressed Damsel I am Not Ok - You are Ok ! Submissive Subservient Silent Not-Confident STRATEGIES Give positive strokes Be supportive Be compassionate yet be strong Give responsibility and ‘allow’ mistakes TOOLS 2 Chair Technique Professional /Psychological Contracts 1-0-1’s and Interventions Positive Strokes Ego Gram Theme - Get-Away-From Payoff- Embarrassed
  • 16. Perennial Cynic I am Not Ok - You are Not Ok ! Cynical Regressive Passive Aggressive Futile STRATEGIES Be logical Solution Focused Talk about options Help them pick an available option TOOLS 2 Chair Technique Admin/ Professional /Psychological Contracts Value Vs Practice Mapping exercise Ego Gram Theme - Go-Nowhere-With Payoff - Humiliated
  • 17. Pragmatic Adult I am Ok - You are Ok ! Positive Open to ideas Assertive Forward looking Solution Oriented Non-Judgemental Active Listener Acts on ‘here and now’ Healthy Space to be in! Theme - Get-On-With Payoff- Joyful, Jubilant
  • 18. Every Individual exhibit traits of all these characters. However there is one dominant element ! ALL CHARACTERS ARE REQUIRED TO SUSTAIN BALANCE However ‘Pragmatic Adult’ is the desired life position
  • 19.
  • 21. BE fearless Embrace the feminine with a tad bit of logic. You will Go places!