Setting boundaries is an important trait that will avoid many troubles and solve many troubles, both at personal and at professional level. And by no means should it be taken as rude or feel apologetic about it. It's a fine trait of personality and of character.

1. You need to be very clear on what you tolerate and what do you stand for
Setting boundaries is not:
A sign of arrogance or insolence.
A sign of rudeness or unfriendliness
A sign of bad behavior and anti-social
Setting boundaries is about:
Being transparent
Having a clear set of values
Being well grounded and unshakable
It’s where you draw the line:
Between work and your private life
Between what you can tolerate and what you don’t
Between being of service and support and being abused, exploited and
used
Setting boundaries
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