The document discusses the importance of communication in marriage. It identifies five levels of intimacy in communication, from sharing facts to freely sharing feelings. It recommends couples communicate in the first and last ten minutes of the day. Additionally, it notes that men and women often have different communication styles, such as women being expanders and men being condensers, and that understanding these differences can help couples communicate more effectively. The key message is that learning how to properly communicate is essential for marital success and happiness.
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Communicating With Your Spouse
1. COMMUNICATING WITH
YOUR SPOUSE
When we enter in marriage, we do so as
amateurs with no experience at all. We
then must learn the most important
lesson in marriage which is
communication.
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2. Good communication in marriage is the
glue that holds up marriage. No
marriage can be sustained with good
communication.
Most marriages break up because
communication was not utilized well.
Good communication is the key to
upholding your marriage.
Without communication, there is no
marriage.
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3. It is hence important for all couples to
learn on this important lesson. My
advice is particularly to new couples
that are either entering into the
marriage institution or are already
there is that THEY MUST LEARN
COMMUNICATION FIRST.
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4. FIVE LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION.
I. Five Levels of Communication
Level 1 - This is the lowest level of
intimacy.
At this level couples give out facts and
other information about their day or other
activities.
Level II - This is a low level of intimacy
but up from level 1.
At this level couples share ideas of other
people.
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5. Level III - This is the moderate level of
intimacy.
It is at this level where you begin to
share you own ideas and opinions.
At this level you begin to take a risk
by expressing what you think. You
even ask for a response of the other
partner, like where did you get an idea
like that?
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6. Level IV - This is the high intimacy
level.
At this level you begin to share
personal information and emotions.
This is where you open up and talk
about your childhood and things that
have happened to you.
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7. Level V - This is the highest level of
intimacy.
At this level you willingly and freely
share who I am. You willingly share
your feelings and emotions. You
willingly share with someone who
cares about you.
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8. What level do you communicate with
your companion?
One of the great problems in
communication is the fact that too
many couples are not on the same
level in their communication level.
Women generally have the tendency
to be able to access their feelings
easier than a man does.
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9. As a result, the woman can go to a
higher level quicker than a man.
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10. II. What is the best time of the day to
talk to each other?
This may seem to be very simplistic,
but it is very practical and profound.
If you are not communicating very
much to your companion here is a
golden opportunity to learn when and
how.
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11. The best time to communicate is
during:
A. The first ten minutes of your day
when you are both awake.
In this case, the important thing is to
honor and respect each other’s
uniqueness.
B. The last ten minutes before you
depart from each other for the day.
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12. C. The first ten minutes when you see
each other again.
D. The last ten minutes at the end of
your day.
If this exercise happens well then you
will experience a good day and will
really enjoy each other.
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13. III. How can I learn to communicate to
my spouse?
A. We must learn how to speak each
other’s personal learning style
language.
In order to accomplish this you must
understand what each other’s style is
and work towards talking the same
way.
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14. If you do not match their same style,
then they may not respond to you.
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15. Different kinds of learning styles.
1. Visual.
In this style, the person learns better with
what they see with their eyes.
They need to see what is going on.
They need to see the big picture.
They want to show you or just look at
it.
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16. 2. Auditory.
This is where they want to listen to
what is going on.
You need to be audible enough not to
be misunderstood.
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17. 3. How you feel about something.
This communication level is affected
by how a person feels about the
matter.
They may respond, “This doesn’t feel
right.”
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18. Feelings are real and you must take
them seriously.
If your husband or wife is feeling
uncomfortable, you must learn to
cope with those feelings and not be
pushy.
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19. 4. Extroverts.
o These are the people that have
to talk in order to think.
o They get their energy from other
people.
o They like to brainstorm out loud.
o They need affirmation from
others.
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20. 5. Introverts.
Probably the best way to approach
an introvert is to give them time to
think.
Extroverts have to talk to think while
introverts have to think to talk.
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21. Introverts are drained by being
with people.
They get suspicious about
compliments in public.
They give more compliments to
extroverts.
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22. What does this kind of information do
for couples?
It simply helps them understand each
other and to learn how to have a
happier marriage.
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23. IV. We must try to understand the
differences between males and
females.
Our styles are different because we
are different because we have gender
differences.
Let’s look at how we are different. The
first gender difference is:
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24. 1. Our brains are different.
Women will use 40% more brain
connectors than will men.
Women will use more of the left and
right side of their brains at the same
time.
Men are more goal oriented where
women are more relational.
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25. Men’s brains are compartmentalized
and women’s brains are one big
container that carries everything
altogether.
The second gender difference is:
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26. 2. Our responses are different.
There are responses or gender
statements which frustrate the man
and some that frustrate the woman.
One thing for sure is they are
different statements.
The purpose of understanding this is
to work toward understanding each
other better.
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27. The third gender difference is:
3. Women are usually the expander in
most relationships.
Women have the ability to go on and
on and on with all of the minute
details. Where men are more likely to
give the bottom line.
The result is we want our
companions to communicate like us.
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28. The problem is we normally marry the
opposite of what we are.
Normally in 75% of the marriages the
woman is the expander.
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29. 4. Men are usually the condenser in
the relationship.
Most men are condensers.
The solution was each needs is to
adjust according to each other’s
communication style and gender.
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30. FINALLY
Communication in a marriage is
extremely important. Without proper
understanding and adjustments many
marriages will experience great
difficulty and possibly split up.
Communication is the key to the
success of your marriage!
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31. If we only took time to learn how to
communicate with our spouses before
we enter into marriage and during our
marriages, I believe that we can
salvage our marriages.
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32. Take time to learn your spouse
communication style. Then adjust
accordingly without complaining. You
can happily live together. You must
always be a learner. Both of you must
understand this.
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