DOING AN EVALUATION OF OUR MARRIAGE WILL ASSIST US TO CHANGE FOR THE BETTER IN 2016.

1. EVALUATING YOUR
MARRIAGE IN 2015
As we started 2015, we may have
set certain marital expectations;
some were met and others not.
Lets do an evaluation.
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2. For marriage to succeed, a couple
needs to agree on the basics, which
include values, religion, parenting, and
lifestyle, among other things.
If you find that you and your partner
agree on all except one issue, then
actively negotiate an agreeable
compromise. Do this, and you will have
a happy marriage.
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3. Lets look at the year 2015
and analyze our marriage
success or failure.
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4. Would you say you had a happy
marriage?
One of the main reasons why people
are so unhappy with their marriage is
because of unrealistic expectations
that they have set.
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5. Married people assume that their spouses
will change; But the opposite is also true.
We need to realize that change is not one
sided.
Both of us contribute a lot in the success
of manage/
Were you disappointed that your spouse
never changed as much as you expected?
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6. Some spouses had the expectations
that their spouses will not change.
 These perspectives hinder people
from having a happy marriage. One
thing you can be sure of is this, your
partner would change after marriage
and most likely not in the way that you
want him or her to.
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7. In order to have a happy marriage,
you must be willing to accept your
spouse the way they are.
If there is something you dislike about
them, you need to realize that it is
here to stay. Don’t think that you can
change your spouse drastically in the
marriage.
What changes have you seen in your
spouse during this year?
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8. The primary ingredient to a happy
marriage is love. The kind that
demonstrates itself in actions
of genuine care and affection.
How would you evaluate yourself in
this area? How did you show love to
your spouse in a manner that you had
never done before?
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9. Love thinks of the other person first
– and PUTS each other first.
Did your spouse feel not loved or
played second-person role? How
well did you treat your spouse?
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10. Couples feel genuinely happy to provide
for each other’s needs and are concerned
about each other’s well-being.
Does this mean that their relationship
always overflows with romance? Not
necessarily.
How would you evaluate your romance in
marriage this year? Any new
improvements that you brought in this
area?
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11. Most couples identify their marriage as
being happy when they:
Like being with their spouse.
Enjoy each other’s company.
And love each other so much that they
miss being away from each other even for
short periods of time.
Were you available to your spouse this
year?
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12. A happy marriage is a one within
which the husband and wife
considers each other to be friends
who respect and appreciate each
other deeply.
Can you rate friendship in your
marriage?
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13. Thoughtfulness, consideration, kindness,
and generosity create a thriving
environment for a marriage to flourish. For
this creates a willingness and desire to give
and to compromise.
What did you do to flourish your marriage?
Were you able to go an extra mile because
your spouse? Rate your willingness to give
to your spouse?
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14. When a husband and wife strive to be
selfless by putting each other first,
they begin creating the kind of
relationship that is filled with healthy
compromise, mutual understanding,
and peace.
What made a huge difference in your
marriage in 2015?
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15. Commitment is one of the major keys in
marriage. It is good to give yourself fully
to your spouse. He/she is the closest
person you have in life.
Within the context of
marriage, commitment is about unity,
faithfulness, monogamy, friendship,
affection, love, respect and many other
beautiful attributes that are absolutely
priceless.
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16. Were you absolutely convinced that
he or she is TOTALLY committed to
you and your marriage?
What would your spouse say about
your commitment to him/her in this
year?
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17. Sex is key in marriage.
The idea of wanting to have better sex
might not have been achieved.
How can you rate your sexual life in
marriage?
If you want better sex, then accept the
forgiveness your spouse offers as this
will start clearing away feelings of
guilt and shame.
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18. Things won’t change unless you
change how you do things.
DOING AN
EVALUATION OF OUR
MARRIAGES WILL
ASSIST US TO CHANGE
FOR THE BETTER IN
2016.
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