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Five love languages
- 2. 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NLT)
- 3. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
- 4. 8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[a] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!
- 5. Titus 2:3-5 3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self- controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. NIV
- 6. LOVE IS A LANGUAGE Love is not a feeling. Love is not romance. Love is not physical intimacy. Love is the most important word in the English.
- 7. Like human languages, love is a language that we must learn and communicate. a. We must learn the love language of our partner. b. We must communicate in the love language of our partner.
- 8. We all have a PRIMARY and a SECONDARY love language.
- 9. 1. Primary love language is our natural way of receiving and showing love. We usually learn this language in our families growing up. 2. Secondary love language is a learned pattern of expressing love that is not as natural.
- 10. No matter how much we may be communicating love in our language to our partner, if they do not speak that language, it means nothing to them. We will continually be baffled as to why they seem so unhappy.
- 11. WE NEED TO KEEP THE “LOVE TANK” FULL
- 13. Symptoms of an empty tank CRITICAL SPIRIT MISBEHAVIOR HARSH WORDS WITHDRAWAL
- 14. A person’s love language is the primary means through which a person has love communicated to them.
- 16. For any marriage to work long-term, both parties must work at filling each other’s love tank every day.
- 17. Titus 2:3-4 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
- 18. Titus 2:3-4 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
- 19. Titus 2:3-4 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
- 20. Words that builds up a person. There is power in a spoken words. Anytime a person does well, give him words of affirmation. You cannot make a man to do something, but you can motivate him to so something .
- 21. Giving your undivided attention. It is not talking with the TV on. It is real talking and looking to each others eyes. Understanding someone or seeking to understand.
- 22. MAYBE YOU WILL SAY, WE WE ARE ALWAYS TOGETHER.. but the question is, .are you spending quality time?
- 23. Non Literate people understands what a gift is. Gift Normally means that a person thinks of “me”. It’s not the price, it’s the thought that counts. Hindi kailangan magastos. It is powerful way of communicating to someone.
- 24. Doing something for someone. This is an active service. This does not necessarily men BIG things; they are most of the times very simple, as simple as doing the laundry, cooking for him, or even vacuuming the floor.
- 25. It is the very first language that babies understand. In married persons physical touch means.. Holding hands Hugging each other Kissing Massage Sex
- 27. THREE WAYS TO DISCOVER YOUR SPOUSE'S LOVE LANGUAGE 1. WHAT MAKES YOUR SPOUSE MOST HAPPY ABOUT?
- 28. 2. WHAT IS YOUR SPOUSE’ S MOST REQUESTED?
- 29. 3. HOW DOES YOU SPOUSE COMMUNICATE LOVE TO YOU?
- 30. A.Words Of Affirmation B.Quality Time C.Receiving Gifts D.Acts of service E. Physical touch
Editor's Notes
- Love is not a feeling. Feelings rise and fall. Love is not romance. Romantic fires can blaze or smolder. Love is not physical intimacy. Without love, all you have is lust. Love is the most important word in the English language but also the most confusing.
- Like human languages, love is a language that we must learn and communicate. 1. We must learn the love language of our partner. 2. We must communicate in the love language of our partner.
- We all have a PRIMARY and a SECONDARY love language 1. Primary love language is our natural way of receiving and showing love. We usually learn this language in our families growing up. 2. Secondary love language is a learned pattern of expressing love that is not as natural.
- No matter how much we may be communicating love in our language to our partner, if they do not speak that language, it means nothing to them. We will continually be baffled as to why they seem so unhappy.
- “I’m in love!” Studies show that the average life span of a romantic obsession is two years (if it is secretive, it may last a little longer). After a while, we start seeing irritating or annoying personality traits. We recognize their capacity for anger, harshness, unkindness, etc.
- Statistic: 45% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages, and 75% of third marriages end in divorce The primary reason? “I am no longer in love!”
- 1. Verbal compliments, or word of appreciation 2. They thrive with a person who continually notices what they do right. 3. They await a partner’s encouraging words to awaken the talents and gifts they may have suppressed. 4. They best respond to kind and humble words where partners do not make demands but only requests of each other which each is free to fulfill or not to fulfill. 5. Many times a person can become a workaholic because he or she is simply looking for words of affirmation. 6. If communication has broken down, then make a list of each other’s best qualities and make a point of complimenting your spouse in one of these areas each week. 7. Jesus spoke words of affirmation over His disciples such as calling Simon, which means “reed”, Peter, which means “rock.”
- 1. Undivided Attention: Their primary desire is for their spouse’s undivided attention. They want them to focus on them, spend time with them, or do things with them. This may mean having a talk without the distraction of the T.V., or going for a quiet walk with no interruptions. Quality time is time shared that can never again be recaptured. 2. Togetherness: Togetherness is a central aspect of quality time. Talking on the phone while playing a game is not togetherness. 3. Feelings/Sympathy Conversation: They do not want to just talk about the news, weather, etc. They want to talk about opinions and ideas. The focus in on what each other is hearing and not just on what each other is saying. 4. Eye Contact: Don’t listen and do something else at the same time. Listen to the feelings that are expressed and not just the content. Verbalize those feelings back to them. 5. Body Language: Let your body show that you are involved in the time of communication. 6. Don’t interrupt: The average person goes 17 seconds before interrupting. Determine not to interrupt. 7. Don’t Defend: Make your goal to be understood, not to defend yourself. 8. Some people are “Dead Seas” while others are “Babbling Brooks.” • Dead Sea people have a lot of experiences flowing into them but never communicate them. • Babbling Brook people release everything that flows into them. Whatever comes through the ear flows out through the mouth in sixty seconds. • Many times a Dead Sea will marry a Babbling Brook and soon become miserable with each other’s personality. 9. Ask yourself the following question: “I feel most loved by my spouse when _______________________.” Filling in this sentence can bring meaning to quality time. 10. Jesus would spend time with His twelve and often draw them aside for a season to spend time with them.
- A gift is a symbol of thought. The monetary value does not matter. The gift may be found, bought, or made. It says, “Look, he or she was thinking of me.” Make a list of the things that your spouse has been most excited about over the years and don’t wait for a special occasion to give them another one. If your spouse’s primary love language is receiving gifts, then you may have to be “delivered” from an inability to spend money. You may feel that spending money is wasting money. However, you are blessing yourself if your spouse’s primary love language is receiving gifts. The gift of YOURSELF, or your personal presence, at important times speaks more than a physical gift. Jesus was constantly giving of Himself to the people He ministered to on a daily basis. He often gave to the poor.
- “How do you know if your spouse loves you?” If the person has a primary love language of acts of service, it would be because: “He or she cooks the meals, washes the car, takes out the garbage, paints the bedroom, dusts the bookcase, cleans the garage, rakes the leaves, mows the yard, fixes the sink, and changes the cat’s litter box.” Their acts of service communicate the feeling of “I want to be a blessing in your life!” Jesus served His disciples, thus showing them His love for them (John 13). This does not mean that we have to be a doormat. On the other hand, we must understand that for some partners, what we DO says much more than what we SAY.
- Research shows that babies who are held, touched, and kissed are healthier than those who are not. The Lord placed nerve sensors in the human body for the purpose of transmitting stimulus to the brain. For many people, it is that physical touch that is their love language. Hugs communicate more than words. A slap or any other form of physical abuse is the most devastating thing that could happen to them. Those who thrive on touch grew up in a “touching:” family. Those who do not have this love language have to work at being physically affectionate. The physical touch love language is different than the sexual drive. Ask yourself, “Do I crave physical touch at other times besides times of sexual intimacy?” The answer will tell you if physical touch is your primary love language. Jesus took children in His arms and John leaned against His breast at the last supper.
- 1. They don’t want to snuggle or cuddle? (Physical touch) 2. They don’t give you anything on your anniversary? (Receiving gifts) 3. They never help you. (Acts of service) 4. They always seem to allow other things to become more important than being with you. (Quality time) 5. They are critical and negative and never seem to appreciate your efforts. (Words of affirmation)
- 1. Honey Do List (Acts of service) 2. Do something as a family (Quality time) 3. Get you that new dress or rifle (Gifts) 4. Hug, embrace, or snuggle (Physical touch) 5. A little appreciation (Words of affirmation)
- Hugs and kisses (Physical touch) Words of encouragement or praise (Words of affirmation) Leaving a card, gift, or surprise (Receiving gifts) 4. Cleaning the house, washing the dishes, helping to complete paperwork, etc. (Acts of service) 5. Spending time talking and listening, planning an outing with your spouse, etc. (Quality time)