Important and visionary stuff for the people willing to develop themselves into social development activists.

1. Becoming a social member of characters…
A lecture series by
Chanakya P Rijal, PhD in Leadership
Kathmandu, Nepal
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2. Becoming a social member of characters…
 To be a referred member in society requires
patience, persistence and perspiration on
everything what one intends to do or contribute
with.
 Becoming is not free from obstacles, and
obstacles are not the enemies, rather they are the
opening gateways to success.
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3. Becoming a social member of characters…
 Just begin with some way that you wanted to do it
since long for the community.
 Begin it today, or you will have no opportunities later.
 Bring in your intended approaches, tools, and
techniques so that you could be in place to make the
best use of your ideas.
 Do not wait someone else to begin, you begin the
first to do something for the community.
 Doing small things would be enough.
 So, think what you want to begin with…
1. Begin
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4. 2. Imagine
 Dreaming works as powerful as making a plan for
tens of hours.
 You should have a dream to be a role model in your
community.
 Better dream invites with better action patterns in
us.
 So, let’s imagine the deed and also the outcomes
for the community.
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5. 3. Laugh
 Take things happily, even when they go wrong.
 Enjoy by heart working on each creation.
 Accept positively each achievement.
 Do not regret of losing.
 Take every social problem as simple, possible and
light as you can.
 Just think, ‘it is possible and I can do it.’
 Be happy, to make others feel you are happy.
 Do not loose the sense while expressing
happiness, control it.
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6. 4. Believe
 Believe in yourself first, and then the rest of others
– the god, supervisors, mentors, friends, children,
parents, and so on.
 Also believe you are a goldmine of numerous
positive innovation and constructive happenings.
 You should also believe the power of common
people to be the most powerful one, and you are
one of them.
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7. 5. Seek
 Always try to seek support of others.
 Explore the newer ways of doing things for the
community with its support and engagement.
 Get help from fellow community members to
make it easier for attainment.
 Seek the community permission to test newer
things that you have explored for it.
 Also seek permission to explore better frontiers
and collective opportunities for the community
that you are working or living with.
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8. 6. Play
 Do not work in isolation.
 Make lots of fun and entertainment.
 Take each job as a beautiful creation of god and
play with it while working on it.
 Also, playing lonely is not enjoyable, bring others
in it as and when possible.
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9. 7. Trust
 Trust others open heartedly; they will help you in
times of your crises.
 Accept and appreciate for all positives they have
contributed for you.
 Do not again forget to trust your conviction too.
 Trust others first to gain their trust on you.
 Do not forget to trust yourself for what you are going
to do for the community.
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10. 8. Listen
 Listen more than what you speak.
 Listen, listen and again listen… to be a good
communicator.
 Listen to your inner voice and also listen to the
people with whom you are working.
 Seek advice from even very junior members and
ordinary members of the community when you
are at crises.
 Listen to each member of the society to make it
an inclusive endeavor with greater extent of
collective motivation and ownership.
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11. 9. Create
 Try to make new things happen to set a trend of
doing things in newer and innovative ways.
 Create more relationships; create more learning
rooms; create much wider spectrum of your
contributions to the society and its members.
 Try to make it a selfless endeavor of creating for
the society and its well being.
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12. 10. Connect
 You must connect the past, present and project
something for the future.
 Connect the problem situation and growing
situation.
 Connect the people with your mission of social
work.
 Also connect others’ ideas into yours to create a
powerful synergy.
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13. 11. Touch
 Gentle, mild, and loving touch to the children,
women, senior citizens, poor and marginalized
people facing problems will help transform their
courage, confidence and trust in self.
 Galloping onto your lap a crying child will really
work as a magical treatment in the community to
tell them the value of love and affection for a a
person in need.
 Gallop the plant that you have sown and also pour
water into them every day.
 A humble touch will connect you with the rest of
community members.
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14. 12. Forgive
o Naturally, the people are born to make mistakes.
o Once they get to know that they have made
mistakes and hence they assure they will never
repeat such mistakes, forgive them.
o Forgiving is the biggest sacrifice against mistakes.
o Forgive each member of your family and society
who has made mistakes.
o Forgive your supervisor for whatever mistakes
made in the past.
o Forgiving helps release tension and mental
anxiety.
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15. 13. Pray
 A prayer serves as holy as visiting a temple
located at tens of thousands of miles.
 Pray for success, pray for good health and
harmony of each fellow member beloved to you.
 If you start praying for others, millions of humble
prayers will happen for you!
 In fact, what else would you be seeking in life?
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16. 14. Hope
 Even if all options collapse, do not give up with a
positive hope.
 Share a hope for happening miracles; as you know, a
beautiful creation may be hidden behind a critical
crisis!
 It will happen, if you truly hope for positive
performance outcomes.
 Do not give up having positive dreams for self and for
others.
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17. 15. Choose
When you are left with many options, choose among
the most rational one/s for many – not only for
yourself.
Choose for righteousness, choose for betterment,
choose for harmony, and choose for total
transformation with impacting outcomes for
positivism.
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18. 16. Appreciate
 Appreciate people for every attempt and every
type of attainment they have made, even if it is a
negative one, and then tell them how it could
have been done for better results.
 Do not let people down due to failure.
 Appreciation accelerates harmony in public life.
 Appreciate others to receive their appreciation for
you on your contribution.
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19. 17. Give
 Give time, priority and attention to others first, if
you really want to receive something from others,
be the first to give.
 You have blood, toil, sweat and tears – all
naturally made for giving, not for storing; if you
store them unused, you will turn sick.
 Give to the society with your concern, interest,
time, tangible efforts through action, money and
ownership of social failure.
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20. 18. Read
 Read a whole story; read a new situation whole;
and read the social sentiments to understand
them better with truthful realities.
 Reading from books and newsfeeds makes you
become free from confusion of unknown.
 Reading the foreheads of the people you are
working enables you to understand them better.
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21. 19. Write
 Writing serves as a powerful tool to express really
what you cannot do verbally.
 Writing keeps you free from all burdens.
 Better social members write more than what they
read or speak.
 Writing is a universal freedom of life.
 Effective writing has a legacy and will serve as a
future evidence to do so in many instances.
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22. 20. Release
 Finally, release your every tension by speaking,
expressing and sharing with rest of others.
 Your creativity, innovation and better ideas, and
marvelous problem solutions will have no value
onto others until you release them.
 If you keep one fear or tension, it will hatch
several others; please release it multiplies...
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23. So What?
 These are the twenty common features of a more
effective human being as a social member of
desired characters.
 Can we practice these inputs in our life, from
today only, and right now onwards?
 Finally, let’s enjoy a song on ‘twenty words that
change your life’…
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24. Any questions?
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25. If no more questions now, I have a question for you
Can anyone have an active social life
without executing these twenty words?
Or
Is there a profession that may not require
all or any of these twenty words?
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26. Thank you very much for your time, concern and
effective participation !
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