2. • MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT
BETWEEN A MAN AND A
WOMAN TO LIVE TOGETHER
AS A HUSBAND AND A WIFE
THE REST OF THEIR LIVES.
3. • THIS UNION IS FACED BY
MANY CHALLENGES THAT
THREATEN ITS EXISTENCE
UNLESS THEY ARE CAREFULLY
AND WISELY HANDLED AND
ON TIME.
4. • INDEED MANY MARRIAGES INCLUDING OURS WHO
ARE SITTING HERE TODAY ARE FACED BY MANY
PROBLEMS. IN FACT MANY OF OUR MARRIAGES ARE
BELOW HAPPINESS AVERAGE. WE LIVE TOGETHER AS
SPOUSES BECAUSE OF MANY OTHER FACTORS BUT
NOT DUE TO A FULFILLING RELATIONSHIP.
5. • AS WE BEGIN THIS
LESSON, YOU HAVE TO
BEAR THE FOLLOWING
POINTS IN MIND.
6. • 1. HAPPINES OR SADNESS IN
MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP DEPENDS
SOLELY ON TWO PEOPLE, THE
HUSBAND AND THE WIFE.
ANYTHING OR ANYBODY ELSE
INTERFERERS WITH YOUR MARRIAGE
AS EITHER OR BOTH OF YOU
ALLOW IT.
7. • 2.MARRIAGE AT ITS BEST IS LIKE A COMPUTER. YOU
GET OUT OF IT WHAT YOU PUT INTO IT. IF YOU PUT
DELIGENCE, LOVE, CONCERN, UNDERSTANDING,
FAITHFULNESS TO EACH OTHER, CARE, TRUST AND
FAITH IN GOD, YOU GET HAPPINESS, SATISFACTION,
FULFILMENT, INTIMACY AND COURAGE TO FACE
ISSUES IN LIFE.
8. • BUT IF YOU PUT SUSPISION, SELF-NTEREST, PRIDE,
COMMANDS, DIRECTIVES, DOUBTS IN GOD,
UNCOMMITMENT, UNFAITHFULNESS, YOU WILL GET
FRUSTRATIONS, ANGER, PROBLEMS OF ALL KINDS,
SOMETIMES SICKNESS AND EVEN DEATH..
9. • 3..YOU MUST KNOW THAT THERE IS NO PERFECT
WOMAN OR MAN. YOU MARRIED A SINNER AND
YOU SHOULD BE READY FOR SURPRISES FROM
HIM/HER. MARRIAGE AT ITS BEST IS GAMBLING. YOU
CANNOT KNOW A GOOD HUSBAND OR WIFE BEFORE
YOU MARRY HIM/HER. REAL LOVE IN MARRIAGE
COMES AFTER THE UNION, NEVER BEFORE IT.
10. • 4. HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE COMES ONLY WHEN THE
SPOUSES WANT TO HAVE IT AND WORK DELIGENTLY
TOWARDS IT. ANYTHING GOOD IS WORKED FOR. YOU
CANNOT EXPECT TO HAVE HAPPINESS IN YOUR
MARRIAGE WHEN YOU ARE DOING NOTHING
TOWARDS IT OR EVEN DAMAGING THE LITTLE IN IT.
11. THE FOLLOWING ARE TESTED
HIGHLIGHTS ON HOW TO HAVE
HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE
RELATIONSHIP. TRY THEM AND
YOU WILL PROVE THEM RIGHT.
12. • 1. HAVE A HEART SET TO LOVE AND
SERVE GOD. LET HIM BE THE MASTER
OF YOUR LIFE IN ALL YOU DO AND
SAY. RESPECT HIM IN ALL PLACES,
EVENTS, ACTIVITIES SITUATIONS
AND ASSOCIATIONS. JOB 22:21
13. • 2. LOVE YOUR SPOUSE. MORE
THAN ANY OTHER PERSON OR
THING UNDER THE SUN DO NOT
VALUE ANY PERSON UNDER THE
SUN MORE THAN YOUR SPOUSE.
14. • 3. DO YOUR HONEST PART IN
AND FOR YOUR MARRIAGE TO
MAKE IT HAPPY. DO NOT SIT
AND ORDER, COMMAND OR
DIRECT YOUR SPOUSE TO DO
WHAT YOU SHOULD WHILE YOU
ARE NOT PARTICIPATING
15. • 4. BE WILLING TO
CHANGE YOUR FORMER
ATTITUDES AND
BEHAVIORS THAT MIGHT
OFFEND YOUR SPOUSE.
16. • 5.. CREATE TIME TO BE
TOGETHER WITH YOUR SPOUSE
AS MUCH AS YOU ARE ABLE TO,
TO SHARE, DISCUSS, PLAN
,RELAX AND EVEN ENJOY EACH
OTHER. THAT IS WHY WE ARE
HERE.
17. • 6. PRACTICE FORGIVENESS
AND TOLERANCE AS MUCH
AS POSSIBLE.TWO PEOPLE
LIVING TOGETHER WILL HAVE
FRICTIONS OF SOME SORT AT
TIMES. YOU MUST LEARN THE
ART OF LIVING TOGETHER.
18. • 7. HAVE REGULAR AND SATISFYING
SEXUAL RELATION- SHIP TO EACH
OTHER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE.
KNOW THAT SATSFYING SEX TO A
LOVING MARRIED COUPLE SOLVES
MORE THAN 60% OF MARITAL
SQUABLES
19. • 8. COMMUNICATE WITH EACH
OTHER AS OFTEN AND AS
FREELY AS POSSIBLE IN THE
RIGHT WAY AND AT THE RIGHT
TIME. USE THE RIGHT WORDS
AND PHRASES. CARE FOR BODY
GESTURES AND EXPRESSIONS
20. • 9. ALWAYS HANDLE YOUR FAMILY
ISSUES AND PROBLEM AS A TEAM.
ATTACKING EACH OTHER IS DEADLY
TO MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP. EVEN IF
ONE IS TO BLAME OR CORRECT, DO IT
IN LOVE. AT ALL COST AVOID ‘HOLIER
THAN THOU’ ATTITUDE TOWARDS YOUR
SPOUSE.
21. 10. SERVE EACH OTHER
FREELY, ALWAYS AND
WILLINGLY SO THAT EACH
ONE OF YOU FEELS LOVED
AND WANTED.
22. • 11. BE FAITHFUL TO EACH OTHER IN
MATTERS OF SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.
NO EXTRA MARITAL RELATIONSHIP.
NO DENYING OR REFUSING
CONJUGAL RIGHTS TO YOUR
SPOUSE.
23. • 12. HANDLE YOUR PARENTS AND
BROTHERS AND SISTERS CAREFULLY
IN RELATIONSHIP TO YOUR SPOUSE
AND MARRIAGE. YOUR PARENTS
AND RELATIVES CAN TERRIBLY
AFFECT OR EVEN DAMAGE YOUR
MARRIAGE.
24. • 13. NEVER HAVE SECRETS WHICH YOUR SPOUSE DOES
NOT KNOW, MORE SO ON YOUR PROPERTY OR,
INVESTMENTS. IF YOU OWE ANYBODY ANYTHING, LET
YOUR SPOUSE KNOW SO THAT IN THE EVENT OF
INSTANT DEATH, HE/SHE WILL BE ABLE TO HANDLE THE
MATTER.
25. • 14. LET THE WIFE BE
SUBMISSIVE TO THE
HUASBAND ALWAYS,
GIVING HIM RESPECT AS
THE HEADS OF THE FAMILY.
EPHE 522-24
26. • SHE SHOULD MANAGE HER HOME WELL, ESPECIALLY
IN MATTERS OF HOME MAKING. SHE SHOULD MAKE
SURE THAT THE GIRL CHILD IS WELL BROUGHT UP, WITH
RIGHT FEMININE MANNERS; PROPER DRESSING,
APPROPRIATE MAKE UPS, GOOD BEHAVIOR AND
ACCEPTABLE RESPECT.
27. • 15. LET THE HUSBAND LOVE HIS WIFE
SACRIFICIALLY, CARING FOR AND
CHERISHING HER IN ALL THINGS,
KNOWING THAT SHE IS A WEAKER
VESSEL, AND A FELLOW HEIR OF
GOD’S GRACE. EPHE 5:25-27,
1PETER 3:7.
28. • HE SHOULD BE THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY, DIRECTING
RULING AND MANGING HIS HOME WELL HE SHOULD
MAKE SURE THE BOY CHILD IS WELL BROUGHT UP AS A
MAN, RESPECT HIS MOTHER AND ALL FEMALES BOTH
AT HOME AND OUTSIDE.
29. • 16.MAKE ROOM FOR
SEPERATENESS. MISSING
YOUR SPOUSE FOR A DAY
TWO OR A WEEK CREATES
THIRST TO BE TOGETHER.
30. • 19. PRACTICE GOING TO BED TOGETHER. THIS HELPS
TO CEMENT YOUR INTIMACY AND ONENNESS. BEING
LEFT IN THE SITTING ROOM TILL MIDNIGHT WATCHING
FOOTBALL MATCH, THE NIGERIAN MOVIES OR ANY
THING ELSE THAT CAN BE AVOIDED IS NOT HEALTH
FOR A COUPLE’S RELATIONSHIP.
31. • 21. GENUINELY AND CONSTANTLY EXPRESS YOUR
LOVE TO YOUR SPOUSE. THIS MAY BE HOLDING
HANDS TOGETHER, JUST SAYING THAT YOU LOVE
HIM/HER, AN EXPRESSIVE EYE CONTACT AND MUCH
MORE GOES ALL THE WAY TO STRENGTHEN YOUR
RELATIONSHIP.
32. • 21. REGULARLY SHARING HEART
FELT AFFECTIONS SUCH AS
KISSING, HUGGING AND BODY
TOUCHES WHICH IN MOST CASES
SHOULD NOT BE SEXUAL
ADVANCES THOUGH IN THE LONG
RUN THEY ENHANCE IT.
33. 22. KEEP YOUR SELF AS ATTRACTIVE AS POSSIBLE TO AND FOR YOUR SPOUSE.
THE FACT THAT YOU ARE MARRIED DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU BECOME
CARELESS IN YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, TEETH AND BODY SMELL, DRESS
COLOR COMBINATION, HAIR DRESSINGS AND CUT, BEARD TRIMING ETC.
34. • 23 PRACTICE GENEROSITY.
GIVE FREELY TO YOUR
SPOUSE ALL THINGS BUT
MORE SO LOVE. GIVE TO
OTHER PEOPLE WHAT YOU
CAN GIVE AND YOU WILL BE
BLESSED.
35. • 24 BE THANKFUL ALL THE TIME,
FIRST TO GOD, THEN TO YOUR
SPOUSE FOR ALL HE/SHE IS AND
OR HAS DONE. PRACTICE TO
SAY, ‘THANK YOU, I
APPRECIATE’
36. • 25. BOTH SHOULD LOOK AT THE FUTURE. WHAT WILL
YOU BE 30 YEARS FROM TODAY? AND HOW ARE YOU
BOTH WORKING TOWARDS THAT? HOW WILL YOU
LIVE WITHOUT PARENTS, CHILDREN AND WHEN
RETIRED? YOU MUST PREPARE FOR IT NOW.
37. • 26. PRAY FOR YOUR SPOUSE
DEARLY AND CONSTANTLY. ASK
THE LORD TO GIVE YOU A
GENUINE HEART TO LOVE
HIM/HER IN THE BEST WAY
POSSIBLE.
38. • 27. WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
SEEMS TO BE GOING BAD, RECALL
THE PAST POSITIVE THINGS IN YOUR
LIFE. WHAT BROUGHT YOU
TOGETHER? CAN YOU GO BACK
AND TRY TO REKINDLE THAT LOVE!
