This document discusses psychological recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors. It covers examining feelings, seeking community, truth and trust, and developing faith. Early childhood experiences can lead to pathogenic beliefs like feeling unworthy. These beliefs are difficult to overcome but exploring them through counseling, support groups, and journaling can help replace conditional love with unconditional love.
Natalie hughes choosing my guilt free- religionCrystal Andrus
What if threats of damnation and hellfire were not hung over our heads? In fact, what if you removed all guilt, shame and fear from the religious equation?
This ppt is focusing on conscience as part of the topic " Ang Paghubog ng Konsiyensiay batay sa Likas na Batas Moral" in k to 12 curriculum of DepEd Philippines.
In this presentation I discuss fear of intimacy. We will also take part in a few exercises that point to giving and receiving love. The exercises will be very experiential and we will discuss them afterward.
Natalie hughes choosing my guilt free- religionCrystal Andrus
What if threats of damnation and hellfire were not hung over our heads? In fact, what if you removed all guilt, shame and fear from the religious equation?
This ppt is focusing on conscience as part of the topic " Ang Paghubog ng Konsiyensiay batay sa Likas na Batas Moral" in k to 12 curriculum of DepEd Philippines.
In this presentation I discuss fear of intimacy. We will also take part in a few exercises that point to giving and receiving love. The exercises will be very experiential and we will discuss them afterward.
2014 JANUARY #BookCLUB summary of "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" by Brene Brown @LoveLearningNOW
10 things you need to know if you're in a relationship with a narcissistAngela Atkinson
The first step to healing yourself from narcissistic abuse and manipulation is to start within your own head. You have to change those thoughts and limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Read more: http://queenbeeing.com/10-things-you-need-to-know-if-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship/
The 12 Steps of Recovery - savn sobriety workbookRobyn Bridgeo
SAVN.tv has just released the 12 Steps of Recovery video series and workbook. Click the link below to join the live video chat recovery group.
http://savn.tv/live-group/The-12-Steps-of-Recovery
Understanding human emotions and how they link to each other. Based on Baruch (Benedict de) Spinoza and the Buddha. Hierarchy of human emotions. Definition of most human emotions. Categorical Imperative.
How to Control Your Anger By Mr. Nilesh Mandlecha. How to Deal with Anger? Understanding the difference between healthy & unhealthy Anger.
For info log on to www.healthlibrary.com.
2014 JANUARY #BookCLUB summary of "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" by Brene Brown @LoveLearningNOW
10 things you need to know if you're in a relationship with a narcissistAngela Atkinson
The first step to healing yourself from narcissistic abuse and manipulation is to start within your own head. You have to change those thoughts and limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Read more: http://queenbeeing.com/10-things-you-need-to-know-if-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship/
The 12 Steps of Recovery - savn sobriety workbookRobyn Bridgeo
SAVN.tv has just released the 12 Steps of Recovery video series and workbook. Click the link below to join the live video chat recovery group.
http://savn.tv/live-group/The-12-Steps-of-Recovery
Understanding human emotions and how they link to each other. Based on Baruch (Benedict de) Spinoza and the Buddha. Hierarchy of human emotions. Definition of most human emotions. Categorical Imperative.
How to Control Your Anger By Mr. Nilesh Mandlecha. How to Deal with Anger? Understanding the difference between healthy & unhealthy Anger.
For info log on to www.healthlibrary.com.
Why do so many relationships end up in breakups, separation, and/or divorce? Why is it that in many situations when we love our partner, they don't love us; and when they love us, we don't love them? Why is it that every relationship promises to be different, but it ends up being very similar to the old relationships? Why do we repeat our patterns – like a broken record?
Structural pathology - Transactional AnalysisManu Melwin Joy
Berne suggests that ego boundaries can be thought of as semi permeable membranes through which psychic energy can flow from one ego state to another. Some people continually act in unpredictable ways and others are so predictable they seem monotonous. These disorders are caused by ego state boundaries which are too lax or tight, have lesions or overlap. This is known as structural pathology.
Journeying with Students into Healthy Relationships & SexualityMatthew Martin
WHO: youth pastors, youth workers, and campus leaders
WHAT: We'll will explore why and how teens and young adults are struggling with relationships and sexuality, and how as leaders we can journey with them towards greater wholeness and godliness.
TOPICS
• How and why teens struggle emotionally, relationally and sexually
• What's required for healthy relationships and sexuality?
• Addictive behaviour and relationships, strategies for pursuing health and freedom
• Understanding sexual identity and how to help same-sex attracted teens
• Making your youth group a safer place for hurting teens
• The River: components of a curriculum for Christ-centred healing and wholeness
When life gives you lemons make margaritas-Looking after yourself after separ...Brisbane Family Law Centre
The grief suffered upon the breakdown of a marriage or significant relationship is on par with the grief we experience upon the death of our loved ones. In this workshop Family Lawyer, Clarissa Rayward teams up with Provisional Psychologist, Sophie Jordan, to discuss how you can best help yourself after separation and divorce.
6. Recovery Targets
Recovery Target #1: Psychological Examination of Feelings.
Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishing and Engaging in
Community.
Recovery Target #3: Truth, Trust and Territory.
Recovery Target #4: Development and Exploration of Genuine
Faith.
10. Systems Theory Reprised
• Family Systems Theory
- This theory explores the reality that we all belong to various
different systems whether they are family, community, church, or
society.
11. Systems Theory Reprised
• Family Systems Theory
- This theory explores the reality that we all belong to various
different systems whether they are family, community, church, or
society.
• Root of Conditional Love
12. Systems Theory Reprised
• Family Systems Theory
- This theory explores the reality that we all belong to various
different systems whether they are family, community, church, or
society.
• Root of Conditional Love
- Feeling as if we have to be someone whom we aren’t in order
to receive love.
15. Psychoanalysis
• Early Childhood Development
- At birth your brain becomes very attached, or wired, to the
person most capable of helping you survive in the world.
16. Psychoanalysis
• Early Childhood Development
- At birth your brain becomes very attached, or wired, to the
person most capable of helping you survive in the world.
• How can a helpless child change the moods
of an unhappy and therefore inattentive
parent?
17. Psychoanalysis
• Early Childhood Development
- At birth your brain becomes very attached, or wired, to the
person most capable of helping you survive in the world.
• How can a helpless child change the moods
of an unhappy and therefore inattentive
parent?
- He does so by changing himself.
19. Pathogenic Beliefs
• If a child can avoid having a break or a
separation in his bond with his parents or
caregivers he will do it immediately by
changing, altering, or suppressing his feelings,
desires, and even the way he sees himself in
the world.
21. Pathogenic Beliefs
• In blaming ourselves for what really were our
parents’ or guardians’ mistakes of conditional
love, we develop what are called pathogenic
beliefs. These beliefs are deep-seeded “icky
feelings” such as “I am dumb,” “I am
incapable,” “I am unlovable,” “I am unworthy,”
or “I am shameful.”
26. Default Positions/Repetition
Compulsion
• Because we overvalue the negative messages
we begin to ignore the positive messages, thus
throughout our lives our pathogenic beliefs
grow stronger and stronger.
27. Default Positions/Repetition
Compulsion
• Because we overvalue the negative messages
we begin to ignore the positive messages, thus
throughout our lives our pathogenic beliefs
grow stronger and stronger.
• Repetition Compulsion
30. Default Positions/Repetition
Compulsion
- When you were a child, you blamed yourself for the way you
were treated by parents or guardians.
- If your parents or guardians were abusive or neglectful, beliefs
about who you are become pathogenic, or “diseased in origin,”
such as “I’m shameful, stupid, ugly, embarrassing, unworthy,
unlovable, etc.”
31. Default Positions/Repetition
Compulsion
- When you were a child, you blamed yourself for the way you
were treated by parents or guardians.
- If your parents or guardians were abusive or neglectful, beliefs
about who you are become pathogenic, or “diseased in origin,”
such as “I’m shameful, stupid, ugly, embarrassing, unworthy,
unlovable, etc.”
- These pathogenic beliefs do not go away as we get older. In
fact, we carry them around at the very core of our being as
feelings of psychological discomfort, “ickiness,” unhappiness,
depression, or, as we have called it here, the feeling of being
loved conditionally.
34. Facing the Shadow
• Patrick Carnes
“Because I am unworthy, no one would love me if they really knew what I
was like on the inside. Consequently, my needs are never going to be
met if I have to tell the truth about who I am. Given that sex is my most
important need, I will never be able to depend on another person who
really knows me to get it.”
36. What to do now?
• You need to be willing to explore this side of
yourself.
37. What to do now?
• You need to be willing to explore this side of
yourself.
• This isn’t about sex; it’s about who we think
we are, what value we believe we have, and
how we can manage difficult emotions.
39. Engage in Recovery Target #1 by...
1. Visiting a licensed counselor or therapist in order to express hard
personal histories and feelings in a safe environment.
40. Engage in Recovery Target #1 by...
1. Visiting a licensed counselor or therapist in order to express hard
personal histories and feelings in a safe environment.
2. Discussing deep issues or feelings with your accountability partner.
41. Engage in Recovery Target #1 by...
1. Visiting a licensed counselor or therapist in order to express hard
personal histories and feelings in a safe environment.
2. Discussing deep issues or feelings with your accountability partner.
3. Joining a support group where these feelings can be shared.
42. Engage in Recovery Target #1 by...
1. Visiting a licensed counselor or therapist in order to express hard
personal histories and feelings in a safe environment.
2. Discussing deep issues or feelings with your accountability partner.
3. Joining a support group where these feelings can be shared.
4. Maintain a journal where thoughts feelings and discoveries can be
explored.
43. Engage in Recovery Target #1 by...
1. Visiting a licensed counselor or therapist in order to express hard
personal histories and feelings in a safe environment.
2. Discussing deep issues or feelings with your accountability partner.
3. Joining a support group where these feelings can be shared.
4. Maintain a journal where thoughts feelings and discoveries can be
explored.
5. Or all of the above.
45. Farewell
• If you ever feel lost and confused, please keep
in mind that our over-all goal in recovery is to
discover the areas in our lives where
conditional love either existed or exists now,
and then learn ways to convert that conditional
love into unconditional love.