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Session 12: X3pure Men’s Series
Recovery Target #2: Seeking,
Establishing & Engaging in
Community
Review
Review
         Unwanted Sexual Behavior
                    |
                    |
Review
                   Unwanted Sexual Behavior
                              |
                              |
 White-Knuckle Change                         Real Change
           |                                        |
           |                                        |
      Abstinence                     Understanding of Physiology
           |                                        |
           |                                        |
        Relapse                                Abstinence
                                                    |
                                                    |
                                    Acceptance of Conditional Love
                                                    |
                                                    |
                                     Pursuit of Unconditional Love
Last Session
Last Session
  • Psychological Examination of Feelings
Last Session
  • Psychological Examination of Feelings
   - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we
   have about ourselves.
Last Session
  • Psychological Examination of Feelings
   - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we
   have about ourselves.

   - The “structural void”
Last Session
  • Psychological Examination of Feelings
   - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we
   have about ourselves.

   - The “structural void”


  • Sexual Addiction
Last Session
  • Psychological Examination of Feelings
   - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we
   have about ourselves.

   - The “structural void”


  • Sexual Addiction
   - We are addicted when we have turned sex into an idol, which means
   that we have come to rely on sex or sexual activities, as a source of
   unconditional love instead of friends, family, community or God Himself.
Seeking, Establishing & Engaging
in Community
Seeking, Establishing & Engaging
in Community
  • If the addicted man wants to recover, despite
   how painful it may feel he must seek, establish
   and engage in community.
Building A New Life
Building A New Life
  • To recover means that we need to break up our
   old life. Not only do we need to see ourselves
   the way God sees us – worthwhile, lovable, and
   important – but we need to have people around
   us that see us that way as well. This is the true
   nature of converting conditional love into
   unconditional love.
Areas of Genuine Community
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Accountability Partners
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Accountability Partners
   - Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need
   unconditional love.
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Accountability Partners
   - Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need
   unconditional love.

   - Multiple accountability partners.
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Accountability Partners
   - Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need
   unconditional love.

   - Multiple accountability partners.

   - Work on branching out by telling people your story.
Areas of Genuine Community
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Support Groups
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Support Groups
   - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you
   need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Support Groups
   - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you
   need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.

   - Sex Addicts Anonymous
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Support Groups
   - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you
   need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.

   - Sex Addicts Anonymous

   - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
Areas of Genuine Community
  • Support Groups
   - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you
   need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.

   - Sex Addicts Anonymous

   - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous


  • Start a support group
Areas of Genuine Community
Areas of Genuine Community
  • If the cause of your sexual addiction was a break or
   rupture in the bond between you and another person at
   a very young age, like your mother or father, the solution
   to your addiction is finding ways to repair or rebuild
   similar bonds with other people.
Areas of Genuine Community
  • If the cause of your sexual addiction was a break or
   rupture in the bond between you and another person at
   a very young age, like your mother or father, the solution
   to your addiction is finding ways to repair or rebuild
   similar bonds with other people.

  • The shame that causes and perpetuates sexual
   addiction comes from isolation; the pride and honor that
   causes recovery comes from seeking, establishing, and
   engaging in community.
Farewell
Farewell
  • Next Session: Truth, Trust, and Territory

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X3 pure men's chapt 12a

  • 1. Session 12: X3pure Men’s Series Recovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishing & Engaging in Community
  • 3. Review Unwanted Sexual Behavior | |
  • 4. Review Unwanted Sexual Behavior | | White-Knuckle Change Real Change | | | | Abstinence Understanding of Physiology | | | | Relapse Abstinence | | Acceptance of Conditional Love | | Pursuit of Unconditional Love
  • 6. Last Session • Psychological Examination of Feelings
  • 7. Last Session • Psychological Examination of Feelings - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we have about ourselves.
  • 8. Last Session • Psychological Examination of Feelings - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we have about ourselves. - The “structural void”
  • 9. Last Session • Psychological Examination of Feelings - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we have about ourselves. - The “structural void” • Sexual Addiction
  • 10. Last Session • Psychological Examination of Feelings - The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we have about ourselves. - The “structural void” • Sexual Addiction - We are addicted when we have turned sex into an idol, which means that we have come to rely on sex or sexual activities, as a source of unconditional love instead of friends, family, community or God Himself.
  • 11. Seeking, Establishing & Engaging in Community
  • 12. Seeking, Establishing & Engaging in Community • If the addicted man wants to recover, despite how painful it may feel he must seek, establish and engage in community.
  • 14. Building A New Life • To recover means that we need to break up our old life. Not only do we need to see ourselves the way God sees us – worthwhile, lovable, and important – but we need to have people around us that see us that way as well. This is the true nature of converting conditional love into unconditional love.
  • 15. Areas of Genuine Community
  • 16. Areas of Genuine Community • Accountability Partners
  • 17. Areas of Genuine Community • Accountability Partners - Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need unconditional love.
  • 18. Areas of Genuine Community • Accountability Partners - Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need unconditional love. - Multiple accountability partners.
  • 19. Areas of Genuine Community • Accountability Partners - Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need unconditional love. - Multiple accountability partners. - Work on branching out by telling people your story.
  • 20. Areas of Genuine Community
  • 21. Areas of Genuine Community • Support Groups
  • 22. Areas of Genuine Community • Support Groups - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.
  • 23. Areas of Genuine Community • Support Groups - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved. - Sex Addicts Anonymous
  • 24. Areas of Genuine Community • Support Groups - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved. - Sex Addicts Anonymous - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
  • 25. Areas of Genuine Community • Support Groups - A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved. - Sex Addicts Anonymous - Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous • Start a support group
  • 26. Areas of Genuine Community
  • 27. Areas of Genuine Community • If the cause of your sexual addiction was a break or rupture in the bond between you and another person at a very young age, like your mother or father, the solution to your addiction is finding ways to repair or rebuild similar bonds with other people.
  • 28. Areas of Genuine Community • If the cause of your sexual addiction was a break or rupture in the bond between you and another person at a very young age, like your mother or father, the solution to your addiction is finding ways to repair or rebuild similar bonds with other people. • The shame that causes and perpetuates sexual addiction comes from isolation; the pride and honor that causes recovery comes from seeking, establishing, and engaging in community.
  • 30. Farewell • Next Session: Truth, Trust, and Territory