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- 2. There IS alot you can help with, but first…. Let’s understand what junior year looks like through your child’s eyes
- 3. Life on Repeat “School, homework, extracurricular activities,sleep, repeat—that’s what it can be for some of these students.” -Noelle Leonard, PhD, research scientist at NYU College of Nursing Stress Feeling Burdened “School work, college applications, extracurricular activities, and parental expectations all contribute to teenagers’ stress.” -2015 NYU study
- 4. NYU Study: Top Students’ Stress+ Coping Mechanisms Affluence + elite private education = Unique pressures and expectations Chronic stress tends to be high for juniors, as it’s the point at which students consolidate their portfolios in preparation for college apps.
- 5. NYU Study Findings □3 hours of homework/night □ High motivation levels (girls more than boys) □ Stressed on a daily basis □ 26 % reported symptoms of depression @ clinically significant level *Grades, homework, and preparing for college were the greatest sources of stress.
- 6. Schools, Parents andStudents feel caught in a cycle of escalating demands and expectations. □ Expensive education □ College cache □ Competition b/w students and b/w parents Students felt they were asked to work as hard as adults, or even harder, with little time left for relaxation or creativity. Students reported high rates of feelings of “closeness” to their parents, with an average valuation of 3.15 on a 0-4 scale.
- 7. So What Are YourKids Facing Now?
- 8. The Arc ofJunior Year Academics Extracurriculars Interpersonal
- 9. The COLLEGE partof Junior Year Fall Spring Summer Naviance/ Research -Surveys -Personality inventories -Career finders -Research -Enter universities of interest -Refine college list College Visits Attend ISM college visits Attend ISM college visits -Visit universities -Research colleges Testing PSAT/SAT/ACT SAT/ACT/ SAT II/TOEFL -Test prep -Senior year test planning Application Prep -Academics paramount -Join clubs/ organizations -Leadership roles -Academics -Active in extracurriculars -Request teacher recs -Common App essay -Supplemental essays
- 10. The Nature of JuniorYear Tangibles Intangibles
- 11. The Tangible “Stuff” ofthe Process □ Grades □ IB Scores □ Standardized Testing □ Teacher/Counselor Recs □ Application □ Essays
- 12. The INtangible “Stuff” ofthe Process □ Work Ethic/Persistence □ Character □ Relationships with faculty + peers □ Organization □ Reading + Writing ability □ Adaptability + Flexibility
- 13. Why are IntangiblesImportant in the College Process? □Work Ethic/Grit □Character □Relationships with faculty □Writing Ability □Organization
- 14. “Raising children is an uncertainthing; success is reached only after a life of battle and worry.” Democritus How to Nurture Character Encourage teens to: □ Define values/mission □ Self-reflect □ Be organized □ Set personal boundaries □ Nurture relationships w/ teachers □ Develop gratefulness □ Pursue interests + passions □ Honor commitments
- 15. YOUR ROLES Time Keeper OrganizerCounselor Sleep- Enforcer Consultant Life-Skills Trainer
- 16. Adaptive Coping Strategies ● sports andexercise ● preventive activities such as good planning ● maintaining a balanced perspective on school and grades
- 17. Remind your kids…. UNIVERSITY ADMISSION ISN’TA JUDGMENT ON MY PARENTS OR MY UPBRINGING THERE’S GOING TO BE SOME SORT OF REJECTION IN ALL OF THIS SUCCESSFUL UNIVERSITY ADMISSION IS ABOUT ENDING UP WITH A CHOICE….AND BEING HAPPY A YEAR FROM NOW
- 18. Parents Are NotPerfect... And that’s okay.
Editor's Notes
- #4 http://www.nyu.edu/about/news-publications/news/2015/august/nyu-study-examines-top-high-school-students-stress-and-coping-mechanisms.html