This document discusses Transactional Analysis (TA), which is a theory that describes personality and relationships. TA focuses on ego states - the parent, adult, and child within each person. It provides examples of complementary and conflict transactions between different ego states. When relationships go wrong, people can fall into "drama triangle" roles of rescuer, victim, or persecutor. Historical scripts, conditioned responses driven by stimuli, can also influence behaviors and self-image. The document suggests changing unhelpful scripts to improve relationships and self-esteem.

1. Role-play
 You or your colleague must work overtime tonight.
 You’ve stayed late often and want to go home early.
 Negotiate a solution.

2. Results of Role-play
 Did either of you get your way?
 Who compromised the most?
 What did it do to your relationship?
 Could things have been handled differently?

3. E. Berne
Nurturing or Caring Parent
Free or Adaptive Child
TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS - TA
SOCIAL COMMUNICATION THEORY

4. Characteristics of ego positions
 Critical parent – sets boundaries – is critical and can be harsh
 Nurturing parent – takes care of – takes away independence
 Adult – logical, rational, non-emotional but sensitive to others
 Free Child – spontaneous, fun – rebellious
 Adaptive Child – behaves - always fits in but sometimes against
feeling

5. Transaction examples:
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Cross transaction CP – FC
Complimentary transactions:
Nurturing parent – nurturing parent
Nurturing parent – adult
Nurturing parent – adaptive child
Critical parent – adaptive child
Adult – adult
Free child – free child
Cross-conflict transactions:
Critical parent – free child
Critical parent – adult
Nurturing parent – free child
Feelings
Thoughts
Behaviour

6. When things go wrong - Drama triangle
THE SAVER
Wants to be needed
EGO POSITION
I’m okay you’re not ok
THE VICTIM
Doesn’t ask for what they need
EGO POSITION
“I’m not okay and you’re not okay
either
THE PROSECUTOR
Criticizes others
EGO POSITION
“ I’m okay you’re
not okay
They underestimate expertise
And integrity in others.
They underestimate capcity in
others
Put themselves down, always feel the victim

7. Drivers of historical scripts
Stimulus ---------> Conditioned response
A. Be strong I never get what I want
B. Be fast There’s always something to do
C. Be perfect I must be perfect before it’s done
D. Be the best I can only ’be’ if it’s always difficult
E. Be good to others I will be rewarded after I’m kind
Where do you fit in?
Advice?
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8. CHANGE THE SCRIPTS
A. BE OPEN ABOUT YOUR
NEEDS
B. DO IT AT YOUR OWN TEMPO
C. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH
D. JUST DO IT
E. BE KIND AND STROKE
YOURSELF
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