45 Minute Session for Day One of The Equity Exchange, hosted by John Burroughs School. Session to unpack nature of mistakes in DEI work and the importance of vulnerability and emotion regulation for leaders.

1. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
The Equity Exchange
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School

2. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Chat Cascade
What are the THOUGHTS and
FEELINGS that come up for you
when you contemplate mistakes
and vulnerability in DEI work?

3. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Debunking Some Myths
 All or None
 Mistakes
 Apologies
 “Tonsils” Theory
 Vulnerability

4. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Chat Cascade
What are the factors and
experiences that shape your
attitude toward mistakes and
vulnerability?

5. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
A New Approach

6. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
GrowingThrough
Mistakes
WilliamTaylor’s
ReflectiveCompetence
Model

7. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Emotion Regulation
“Emotion regulation” is our ability to effectively manage
and respond to an emotional experience. We unconsciously
use a variety of emotion regulation strategies to cope with
difficult situations many times throughout each day.
Healthy coping strategies do not cause harm, and they can
help to diffuse strong emotions, often allowing for a greater
understanding of what led to the emotional experience.
Rolston and Lloys-Richardson (2014)

8. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Phenomenon:
Lack of mindfulness about the true source
of our emotions and targeting the wrong
person, event, or source
Strategy:
Question, name, and express toward the
correct source
Inspired by From Safe Spaces to Brave Spaces: A New Way to
Frame Dialogue Around Diversity and Social Justice by
Brian Arao and Kristi Clemens (2013)

9. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Phenomenon:
Cognitive Dissonance, the “Perfectly Logical
Explanation,” and the Backfire Effect
Strategy:
Pause, listen, and accept that mental models
are made and therefore can be remade
Raising Race Questions: Whiteness and Inquiry in Education
By Ali Michael (2014)
http://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe_clean

10. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Phenomenon:
Classic Responses to Shame: Moving Away,
Moving Towards, Moving Against
Strategy:
Hold back the primary response, engage with
vulnerability, seek relationship and empathy
Brené Brown, Men, Women, and Worthiness (2012)

11. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Reflection Dialogue
Please discuss in small
groups what resonates,
what’s helpful, and
what’s missing.

12. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Our Work Together and
Our Work Back at Home
All emotions are real and correct, and
they are not always under our control.
How we behave when we experience
emotions is under our control, and our
actions can be correct or incorrect.

13. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Have a BRAVE Institute!

14. Mistakes, Vulnerability, and Emotional Resilience
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
Presenter
Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Outreach Specialist
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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