The Art of Listening Have you ever heard anyone described as being a good listener? If so, what did you interpret that to mean? Most of us can hear noises, sounds, words, sentences, and exclamations, but do we hear, really hear, the meaning behind those words, sounds, and noises? There is a difference between hearing and listening. Hearing is one of the five senses (sight, taste, smell, touch, and hearing). It is the actual, physical process by which your ear picks up sounds. Listening is the act of comprehending what you have heard. Active listening is defined as hearing, comprehending, analyzing, and preparing to respond. Listening also happens when we read. The difference between reading and comprehending is the same difference that exists between hearing and listening. You will find the ideas and suggestions discussed in this lesson are applicable to both listening to the spoken word and comprehending the written word. Listening is the other half of the communication duo. Technically, the communication process is not complete unless the words are heard or read. Many people use the word “communication” to refer to writing or speaking, but that is only half of the process. Have you ever sent an e-mail to someone only to find that a few hours later when you accessed your e-mail it was returned to you with a message that stated it was undeliverable? Have you communicated with anyone? Although you may have sent a wonderfully written message, if it was not received you have not successfully communicated with anyone. Another example of incomplete communication would be having a person delivering a speech to a room without an audience. In either situation, you are sending or delivering a message, but no one is receiving or hearing it, and no communication has happened. Listening actively is the receiving part of the communication process. Now here is the amazing part, the active listener after receiving the message becomes the sender. How can that be? In person, the listener becomes the sender by responding to the message without having to ask that person to repeat the message. The response could be anything from a written message, to a few spoken words, to a nod of the head. Listening skillfully not only guarantees that you understand the message, it also shows respect for the speaker. Having respect and understanding for the message is showing respect for the person speaking; these are the traits so often linked to being successful in our professional and personal relationships. Listening Skills Listening is a powerful skill, and it is a skill that you can learn. Active listening starts with conscious effort to refocus your mind and body. To listen actively you must focus all your attention on the listening process. Have you ever talked to someone on the phone who was watching TV? Sometimes you know that person is not listening to you because they often ask you to repeat what you said, or they might give you answers that do not correlate to ...