There are 8 commitments you must make to protect your children during and after your divorce. 1. You must not fight with the other parent within hearing or sight of the children. 2. You must not say anything bad about the other parent to your child. 3. You must not confide your troubles to your children. 4. You must not treat your child as a messenger. 5. You must not make the children feel as though they must hide their love for their other parent. 6. You must not ask the children for information about the other parent. 7. You may not use your children as bargaining to secure better financial settlement. 8. You must make your children know they are loved by both parents.