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Abused Women : 10 Tips on How to Get Out of an
by Admin on May 8, 2014 in Abused Women, Relationships
Has your relationship deteriorated into domestic violence, or an emotionally abusive situation?
Are you afraid, doubting your own capabilities, or even your sanity?
The simple truth is that you’re not crazy, you’re not stupid, and most importantly, you’re not
alone. Now is the time to gather your strength, seek support from your family and friends, and
get out. Hopefully these tips will help you make the decision to save yourself.
1. Acknowledge the abuse
You may be blaming your spouse’s behavior on stress — or even on yourself. Take a moment to
consider: Is he controlling all the household money? The way you dress? The amount of time
you spend with friends? Does he hit you or your children? Hurt pets? Destroy things you love?
Force you to do things you don’t want to do? All these are examples of domestic abuse. If this
sounds like your life, please acknowledge that you’re in an abusive relationship, and get help.
2. Find a support system
Believe this: you have friends and family who love you, and who are willing — perhaps even
waiting anxiously — to help you. And every city has organizations that offer help and guidance
to women in your situation. You don’t have to suffer in silence, and you don’t have to go it
3. Make your decision
Understand that you have have the right to control your body, to make your own decisions, and
live a life free of emotional and physical pain. Then make the choice to take back your power.
Please don’t talk about any plans you’re making to leave with your spouse — this can cause a
bad situation to escalate.
4. Collect and create important documents
This is vital. First, make sure you have copies of all your important records — taxes, insurance,
and birth certificates for you and your children. Then, keep a careful record of any abuse. Save
text messages and emails; call the police if there are problems; start keeping a dated diary; if
you’re injured, take photos and seek medical attention.
5. Keep a secret stash of money
While this won’t be easy, it’s not impossible. You may want to open a bank account, along with a
post office box that bank statements will go to. Set up some small amount of money to be
directly deposited to your account from your paycheck. If this isn’t possible, ask a close friend to
hold money for you.
6. Pack an emergency bag
Keep a bag hidden in your house for emergencies. In the bag, make sure you’ve got a small
amount of cash, your car keys, a no-contract cell phone, and a few clothes for you and your
children. If you feel that you’re in real danger, this could save your life.
7. Establish a “safe word” and a safe place to go
Set up a system with your children and your support network so they’ll know if you’re safe or in
trouble. Ask a trusted friend or family member for a spare key to their house so you’ll have a
safe place to go — especially if you have to leave in a hurry.
8. Get police backup
Before returning to your home for your possessions, ask for a police escort. Do this even if your
spouse appears to offer no resistance to your move.
9. File for a restraining order
The most dangerous time for you and your children will be after you leave your abusive spouse.
This is the time to get a restraining order. It will keep you separated from him, whether he’s
planning violence or reconciliation.
10. Allow yourself to heal
Find a good counselor, and stick with your therapy for at least six months. The scars left by
abusive relationships aren’t just physical scars. You need time to heal your emotional wounds
and learn how to keep from falling into another abusive situation.
It’s not easy to leave an abusive relationship. You may feel helpless and alone. But know this:
You deserve better. You can find the strength and the support to change your life.
Robert Moment is a life coach, speaker and author of several life-transforming books,
Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence Help for Abused Women and
Domestic Violence Survivors, Verbal Abuse: How Women Can Successfully
Recognize, Respond to and Overcome Verbally Abusive Relationships and
Abused Women : 7 Keys to Reclaiming Your Life After an Abusive Relationship
Domestic Violence Survivors : 10 Keys to Reclaiming Your Life After Leaving an Abusive
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