Relationship conflicts can either escalate or resolve. Escalation involves talking over each other, voices rising in volume, antagonistic language, and physiological arousal with the goal of winning the argument. Resolution involves taking turns listening, seeking to understand each other's perspectives, avoiding absolutes, and collaboratively finding a solution with the goal of mutual understanding rather than defeat of the other person. Real resolution is achieved through genuinely understanding each other's valid positions and feelings, which fosters willingness to compromise in a sustainable way.