It is not always easy to get people to help us. Armed with solid researches and studies, Heidi Grant dissects the reasons and offers the remedy. This book can help you navigate complex human behavior, and gain willing support to achieve your goals.
Avoir confiance en soi : Atelier EWA Network Kriss Brochec
EWA Network est un réseau de femmes qui a pour vocation à développer l' autonomie des femmes. Un atelier a lieu une fois par mois. Ce mois ci-c' était mon tour d' aborder un des piliers du développement personnel : la confiance en soi
One of the most inspiring books of the last few years. And it is so true, that only with a clear WHY, you can actually make a difference.
The document is an abstract of the book Start with WHY from Simon Sinek. You should however absolutely read the book, which contains a lot of appealing cases.
Lien entre personnalité MBTI et pipeau en école de commerceMaxandre Jacqueline
Qui considère les cours de gestion comme « pipeaux » ? : Étude de la relation entre la personnalité MBTI des élèves et leur perception des cours fondamentaux de gestion
Pour une meilleure qualité de diapos : https://drive.google.com/open?id=0BzGnWv1d1xDpeG1LNWVDaXhOWW8
Pour consulter le mémoire entier : https://drive.google.com/open?id=0BzGnWv1d1xDpM3FHckRkaHg3VDA
Résumé
Objectif – Cette étude a pour but de déterminer qui considère les cours de gestion comme pipeaux en explorant le lien entre les types MBTI des étudiants et leurs perceptions des cours.
Méthodologie/Approche – Un questionnaire a été partagé sur les réseaux sociaux et 117 étudiants en école de commerce en France y ont répondu. Des statistiques descriptives et inférentielles ont été utilisées pour analyser les données.
Résultats – En moyenne, 26,56% (IC à 95% : [23,71% ; 29,42%]) des cours fondamentaux sont considérés pipeaux, les Ressources Humaines, l’Organisation & Management et la Psychologie & Management étant les trois cours considérés les plus pipeaux. Les NT sont les plus insatisfaits car ils considèrent le plus grand nombre de cours comme pipeaux. Au contraire, les ST sont les moins insatisfaits. Les ESTJ sont les moins insatisfaits alors que les INTJ sont les plus insatisfaits. Dans l’ensemble, les choix de cours, de critères du pipeau et de critères de satisfaction ne varient pas en fonction du type de personnalité ou des paires de fonctions principales. Cependant, les NF sont plus susceptibles que les ST de considérer l’Économie et la Comptabilité comme pipeaux, et les NT sont plus susceptibles que les ST de considérer l’Économie comme pipeau. Les INTJ sont beaucoup plus susceptibles que les INTP, ISTJ, ENFP et ESTJ de considérer le marketing comme pipeau. Un cours pipeau est surtout défini par le manque de nouvelles connaissances et compétences apportées. Les intuitifs sont plus susceptibles que les ST d’accorder de l’importance aux méthodes d’évaluation pour définir un cours pipeau. Un cours satisfaisant est surtout défini par les qualités pédagogiques du professeur. Les NT sont beaucoup plus susceptibles que les SF d’accorder de l’importance à la valeur de vérité du contenu enseigné pour définir un cours satisfaisant.
Limites de la recherche – Le questionnaire ayant été complété uniquement par des étudiants dans notre environnement proche, l’échantillon n’est pas totalement représentatif de la population en école de commerce en France. Par ailleurs, pour connaitre leur type MBTI, les participants n’ont pas passé le test officiel mais ont dû s’auto-évaluer, ce qui pourrait réduire la fiabilité des résultats.
Originalité / Valeur / Contribution – Cette étude est la première à tenter de définir ce qu’est le pipeau, à mesurer la satisfaction des étudiants dans le cas particulier des écoles de commerce françaises et à évaluer l’impact de la personnalité sur leurs perceptions des cours.
Avoir confiance en soi : Atelier EWA Network Kriss Brochec
EWA Network est un réseau de femmes qui a pour vocation à développer l' autonomie des femmes. Un atelier a lieu une fois par mois. Ce mois ci-c' était mon tour d' aborder un des piliers du développement personnel : la confiance en soi
One of the most inspiring books of the last few years. And it is so true, that only with a clear WHY, you can actually make a difference.
The document is an abstract of the book Start with WHY from Simon Sinek. You should however absolutely read the book, which contains a lot of appealing cases.
Lien entre personnalité MBTI et pipeau en école de commerceMaxandre Jacqueline
Qui considère les cours de gestion comme « pipeaux » ? : Étude de la relation entre la personnalité MBTI des élèves et leur perception des cours fondamentaux de gestion
Pour une meilleure qualité de diapos : https://drive.google.com/open?id=0BzGnWv1d1xDpeG1LNWVDaXhOWW8
Pour consulter le mémoire entier : https://drive.google.com/open?id=0BzGnWv1d1xDpM3FHckRkaHg3VDA
Résumé
Objectif – Cette étude a pour but de déterminer qui considère les cours de gestion comme pipeaux en explorant le lien entre les types MBTI des étudiants et leurs perceptions des cours.
Méthodologie/Approche – Un questionnaire a été partagé sur les réseaux sociaux et 117 étudiants en école de commerce en France y ont répondu. Des statistiques descriptives et inférentielles ont été utilisées pour analyser les données.
Résultats – En moyenne, 26,56% (IC à 95% : [23,71% ; 29,42%]) des cours fondamentaux sont considérés pipeaux, les Ressources Humaines, l’Organisation & Management et la Psychologie & Management étant les trois cours considérés les plus pipeaux. Les NT sont les plus insatisfaits car ils considèrent le plus grand nombre de cours comme pipeaux. Au contraire, les ST sont les moins insatisfaits. Les ESTJ sont les moins insatisfaits alors que les INTJ sont les plus insatisfaits. Dans l’ensemble, les choix de cours, de critères du pipeau et de critères de satisfaction ne varient pas en fonction du type de personnalité ou des paires de fonctions principales. Cependant, les NF sont plus susceptibles que les ST de considérer l’Économie et la Comptabilité comme pipeaux, et les NT sont plus susceptibles que les ST de considérer l’Économie comme pipeau. Les INTJ sont beaucoup plus susceptibles que les INTP, ISTJ, ENFP et ESTJ de considérer le marketing comme pipeau. Un cours pipeau est surtout défini par le manque de nouvelles connaissances et compétences apportées. Les intuitifs sont plus susceptibles que les ST d’accorder de l’importance aux méthodes d’évaluation pour définir un cours pipeau. Un cours satisfaisant est surtout défini par les qualités pédagogiques du professeur. Les NT sont beaucoup plus susceptibles que les SF d’accorder de l’importance à la valeur de vérité du contenu enseigné pour définir un cours satisfaisant.
Limites de la recherche – Le questionnaire ayant été complété uniquement par des étudiants dans notre environnement proche, l’échantillon n’est pas totalement représentatif de la population en école de commerce en France. Par ailleurs, pour connaitre leur type MBTI, les participants n’ont pas passé le test officiel mais ont dû s’auto-évaluer, ce qui pourrait réduire la fiabilité des résultats.
Originalité / Valeur / Contribution – Cette étude est la première à tenter de définir ce qu’est le pipeau, à mesurer la satisfaction des étudiants dans le cas particulier des écoles de commerce françaises et à évaluer l’impact de la personnalité sur leurs perceptions des cours.
【領導管理】10種摧毀團隊的領導方式 (10 leadership traits that will kill your company)周建良 Zhou Jian Liang
【領導管理】10種摧毀團隊的領導方式 (10 Leadership Traits That Will Kill Your Company)
領導能力不足,卻被放到需要帶人管理的職務上,可能不僅是自己的噩夢,更可能為團隊帶來災難。
優秀的團隊管理者,共通點就是具備領導能力。但對許多主管而言,常常是突然因為工作表現優異,進而被拔升到主管職務,但這不代表著就已經具備領導能力。領導能力不足,卻被放到需要帶人管理的職務上,可能不僅是自己的噩夢,更可能為團隊帶來災難。
矽谷行銷公司Adogy創辦人John Rampton就指出,他在第一次創業時,發現有10種領導方式,幾乎在幾個月的時間內,就可讓自己的企業完蛋,他將這些體會,以「10 Leadership Traits That Will Kill Your Company」(10種摧毀你公司的領導特質)寫在美國《Inc.》雜誌的網站上,建議所有管理者避免以下這10種領導方式:
1.缺乏願景(Lack of vision)
2.溝通失敗(Failure to communicate)
3.恐嚇(Intimidation
4.控制狂(Micromanagement)
5.零容忍政策(No tolerance policy)
6.無所不知( Being a know-it-all)
7.給予獎勵(Offering incentives)
8.「暗坎」有用的資訊(Withholding helpful information)
9.搶部屬的功勞(Taking credit for others' work)
10.過往走動式管理(Management by walking around the office)
How To Get Clients & Sell Without Selling (Social Selling)Jane Frankland
http://jane-frankland.com Let's look at how to sell! If you're interested in how to get more clients, sell without selling and social media marketing, then this is for you.
If you want to change the feast and famine lifecycle you regularly experience; modernize the way you sell and create just ONE system for client generation that you can use over and over again, instead of having to 'reinvent the wheel' each time you go to market then watch the presentation.
In it I'll be sharing how you can:
1. CREATE: How to create a personalized Client and Lead Generation Plan that focuses on attracting your ideal clients, growing your email list and gearing you up to sell more. This will revolutionize your lead generation process and enable you to obtain security with your income.
2. ATTRACT: I'll share with you how you can free yourself from cold calling and endless networking events, and enable sales with speed, plus I'll give you a brand new "Social Media Quick Tip" that I've never shared on a free webinar yet. This one tip recently landed me a 7-figure client and is guaranteed to help you attract your ideal clients on any social media platform.
3. PROMOTE: Learn how to create a quick and easy "Social Media List Building Funnel" to grow your email list and in turn your sales.
4. SELL: Find out how to create posts, status updates and tweets to sell your programs, products and services via all the social channels. These are what I call your social media daily wins and you can be certain that you'll not feel in the slightest bit salezey whenever you use them.
Thanks for watching!
Management vs Leadership short group exerciseCarol Carter
Short group exercise to illustrate the difference in themselves between management and leadership. Contact me if you would like this and other memorable teach points for your team. carol@getthrival.com
【領導管理】10種摧毀團隊的領導方式 (10 leadership traits that will kill your company)周建良 Zhou Jian Liang
【領導管理】10種摧毀團隊的領導方式 (10 Leadership Traits That Will Kill Your Company)
領導能力不足,卻被放到需要帶人管理的職務上,可能不僅是自己的噩夢,更可能為團隊帶來災難。
優秀的團隊管理者,共通點就是具備領導能力。但對許多主管而言,常常是突然因為工作表現優異,進而被拔升到主管職務,但這不代表著就已經具備領導能力。領導能力不足,卻被放到需要帶人管理的職務上,可能不僅是自己的噩夢,更可能為團隊帶來災難。
矽谷行銷公司Adogy創辦人John Rampton就指出,他在第一次創業時,發現有10種領導方式,幾乎在幾個月的時間內,就可讓自己的企業完蛋,他將這些體會,以「10 Leadership Traits That Will Kill Your Company」(10種摧毀你公司的領導特質)寫在美國《Inc.》雜誌的網站上,建議所有管理者避免以下這10種領導方式:
1.缺乏願景(Lack of vision)
2.溝通失敗(Failure to communicate)
3.恐嚇(Intimidation
4.控制狂(Micromanagement)
5.零容忍政策(No tolerance policy)
6.無所不知( Being a know-it-all)
7.給予獎勵(Offering incentives)
8.「暗坎」有用的資訊(Withholding helpful information)
9.搶部屬的功勞(Taking credit for others' work)
10.過往走動式管理(Management by walking around the office)
How To Get Clients & Sell Without Selling (Social Selling)Jane Frankland
http://jane-frankland.com Let's look at how to sell! If you're interested in how to get more clients, sell without selling and social media marketing, then this is for you.
If you want to change the feast and famine lifecycle you regularly experience; modernize the way you sell and create just ONE system for client generation that you can use over and over again, instead of having to 'reinvent the wheel' each time you go to market then watch the presentation.
In it I'll be sharing how you can:
1. CREATE: How to create a personalized Client and Lead Generation Plan that focuses on attracting your ideal clients, growing your email list and gearing you up to sell more. This will revolutionize your lead generation process and enable you to obtain security with your income.
2. ATTRACT: I'll share with you how you can free yourself from cold calling and endless networking events, and enable sales with speed, plus I'll give you a brand new "Social Media Quick Tip" that I've never shared on a free webinar yet. This one tip recently landed me a 7-figure client and is guaranteed to help you attract your ideal clients on any social media platform.
3. PROMOTE: Learn how to create a quick and easy "Social Media List Building Funnel" to grow your email list and in turn your sales.
4. SELL: Find out how to create posts, status updates and tweets to sell your programs, products and services via all the social channels. These are what I call your social media daily wins and you can be certain that you'll not feel in the slightest bit salezey whenever you use them.
Thanks for watching!
Management vs Leadership short group exerciseCarol Carter
Short group exercise to illustrate the difference in themselves between management and leadership. Contact me if you would like this and other memorable teach points for your team. carol@getthrival.com
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prosocialbehaviour
Voluntary actions that are intended to help or benefit another individual or group of individuals”
It is performed to benefit others by helping, sharing or comforting.
ALTRUISM:
Behavior that is motivated by an unselfish concern for the welfare of others.
When one person helps another person for
no reward, and even at some cost to oneself. This cost can be time, energy, effort or wealth etc.
Altruism involves no benefit of helper and hence it is selfless help.
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3. Citation Note
Author: Halvorson, Heidi Grant
Title: Reinforcements: How to Get
People to Help You
Boston, Massachusetts: Harvard
Business Review Press [2018]
ISBN: 9781633692350
4. Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson
• Social psychologist
• Researches, writes and speaks about the
science of motivation, influence and decision
making
• In 2017 and 2019 was named one of Thinker’s
50 most influential management thinkers
• Director of R&D for EY American Learning
• Associate Director of Motivation Science
Center at Columbia University
Photo: Growth Instiitute
6. • How to Ask for Yes – and Get a Yes
TED New York, 2019
• No One Understands You and What To Do
About It
Talks at Google, 2016
• The Incredible Benefits of a “Get Better”
Mindset
99U Popup School, 2015
Photo: TED
8. re∙in∙force∙ment
/,rein’fôrsmәnt/
Noun
the action or process of reinforcing or strengthening
- extra personnel sent to increase the strength of an army of similar force
- the process of encouraging or establishing a belief or pattern of behavior,
especially by encouragement or reward.
Definitions from Oxford Languages
9. Book Sections
Why asking for help is difficult
How to ask anyway
Creating a culture of helpfulness
13. Dorsal Anterior Cingulate Cortex
Pain
Social Rejection
Hunger
Thirst
Breathlessness
Part of the brain that processes pain
that are important signals for our
survival, both physical and emotional.
Matthew D. Lieberman and Naomi I. Eisenberger, “The dorsal anterior
cingulate cortex is selective for pain: Results from large-scale reverse
inference.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United
States of America (PNAS), December 8, 2015
Image: PNAS
14. “
“
Pain – physical and social –
is as important signal
in our quest for survival.
15. Pains that come from Threats
Pain from Status Threats
Pain from Certainty Threats
Pain from Autonomy Threats
Pain from Relatedness Threats
Pain from Fairness Threats
Images: Google.com
17. How many people must be asked before
they found one who would help?
S T UDY P A R TICI PANTS’ E S TI MATE A C TUAL R E S ULT
20 10
F. J. Flynn and V. K. Lake, “If You Need Help, Just Ask: Underestimating Compliance with Direct Requests for Help.”
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, no. 1 (2008): 128
Graphic: Stephen Siregar
18. “
“
People want to be helpful. Admittedly, not all
people, but far more of us than you would
imagine.
19. Reason 3:
We Assume Asking for Help Will
Make Us Less Likable
Why Asking for Help is Difficult
20. Winning an Opponent
This is another instance of the truth of an
old maxim: “He that has once done you a
kindness will be more ready to do you
another than he whom you yourself have
obliged.”
Benjamin Franklin and Hanna Amelia (Noyes) Davidson, Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin: With Selections of
His Other Writings (Boston: DC Heath & Co, 1908)
Photo: staticflickr.com
21. We underestimate How Good
Giving Makes People Feel
• Helping boosts your mood
• Helping makes things less awful
• More helping = greater life satisfaction
22. Takeaways
• If you feel bad asking for help, it’s just in your mind
• People are more willing to help that we thought they were
• Asking for help doesn’t make you less likeable
24. The Inherent Paradox in Asking for
Help
Although most people have an innate desire to feel
helpful, they hate feeling compelled to help.
25. Why do You Help?
Because You
Want To
Because You
Have To
Graphic: Stephen Siregar
26. Because You Want To vs
Because You Have To
W H EN Y O U W A NT T O H E LP
• You have autonomy
• You are intrinsically motivated
• You have greater interest and enjoyment in
helping, even when it’s challenging
• You are more creative in your thinking
• You absorb more knowledge
• You are resilient
• You will have greater improvement, superior
performance, and deeper sense of satisfaction
W H EN Y O U H A V E T O H E L P
• You are not likely to help, if possible
• You feel no autonomy (controlled)
• Your intrinsic motivation is destroyed
• You want to get this over with
• You don’t care about quality
27. How Do We Compel People to Help
A D V ERTENTLY
• Reward
• Threats
• Surveillance
• Deadlines
• Other pressure
I N A DVER TENTLY
• Can you do me a favor?
• You owe me
28. Four Steps to Getting the Help You
Need
The Helper Needs to
Notice that You Might
Need Help
People don’t attend to
everything happening
around them
The Helper Needs to
Believe that You Desire
Help
People are not mind
reader and they fear of
looking foolish
The Helper Needs to
Take Responsibility for
Helping
If lots people could
help, why me?
The Helper Needs to
be Able to Provide the
Help You Need
Competing
commitments can be
an issue
Graphic: Stephen Siregar
29. Step 1:
The Helper Needs to Notice
that You Might Need Help
Four Steps to Getting the Help You Need
30. Selective Attention Test
Dan Simons and Christopher Chabris, “The
Invisible Gorilla And Other Ways Our Intuition
Deceive Us,” New York: Harmony Books (2010)
Video: selective attention test - YouTube
• Participants are asked to watch
the video on the left and count
how many times the players in
white passes the ball.
• Only 50% of the participants
noticed the gorilla that
moonwalked across the room.
31. “
“
We don’t pay attention to every detail of our
surroundings – including the other people in those
surroundings – in no small part because it would
be impossible to do so.
32. Step 2:
The Helper Needs to Believe
that You Desire Help
Four Steps to Getting the Help You Need
33. Smoke Coming Into the Room Test
• When the participant was
alone, they quickly became
alarmed and seek out help
• When the participant was with
others who ignored the smoke,
they did nothing.
B. Latane and J. M. Darley, “Group Inhibitions of Biystander Intervention in
Emergencies,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 10, no 3 (1986):
215
Video: The smoke filled room study - YouTube
34. Public Assault Experiment
I F T H E W O MAN Y E LLED, “ I D O N ’T
K N OW Y O U!”
Helping,
65%
Not
Helping,
35%
Helping Rate
Helping Not Helping
I F T H E W O MAN Y E LLED “ I D O N’ T
K N OW W H Y I M A R R IED Y OU!”
Helping
19%
Not
Helping
81%
Helping Rate
Helping Not Helping
R. L. Shortland and M. K. Straw, “Bystander Response to an Assault: When A Man Attacks A Woman,” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 34, no. 5 (1976): 990
Graphic: Stephen Siregar – Simplified, not a representation of complete result
35. Direct Requests Trigger Action
• 75-90 percent of help that colleagues give to one another is in
response to direct appeals1
• Half of Americans who volunteer with charities and other public
works became involved because they were asked by the
organization itself, or by people they know who also
volunteered.2
1. S. E. Anderson and I. J. Willilams, “Interpersonal, Job, and Individual Factors Related to
Helping Processes at Work,” Journal of Applied Psychology 81, no. 3 (1996): 282.
2. Bureau of Labor Statistics, 2009.
36. Takeaways
• Don’t expect people to voluntarily offer to help just because you
show every sign of being overwhelmed. They are just too busy
to notice.
• Even when they see that you might need help, people want to
be sure that you DO need it. People don’t want to feel foolish
for offering an unneeded or inappropriate help
• Ask for help directly and ensure people that their help is needed
and appropriate
37. Step 3:
The Helper Needs to Take
Responsibility for Helping
Four Steps to Getting the Help You Need
38. Diffusion of Responsibility
A participant placed In a room
They are told that there are “others”
in separate rooms (in reality there
are none) and they “communicated”
through mic and speaker,
unmonitored by the researcher (it
was only a scripted conversation
between other researchers)
In the (scripted) conversation, one of
the “participants” suddenly had a
“seizure”
Graphic: Stephen Siregar
39. Why Does It Have to Be Me?
How many of the real participants
looked for someone to help the
person having a “seizure”?
Those who thought they are:
• Alone: 100% seek help;
• With 1 other: 80%;
• With 6 other: 60%.
B. Latane, S. A. Nida, and D. W. Wilson, “The Effects of Group Size on
Helping Behavior,” in J. F. Rushton and R. M. Sorrentino, eds.,
Altruism and Helping Behavior: Social Personality and Developmental
Perspectives (Hillside, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, 1986): 287-313
Graphic: Stephen Siregar
40. Takeaways
• The bigger the number of people you send your request for help
to, the bigger the possibility that you will be ignored
• To alleviate the confusion and give a clear sense of
responsibility about helping you, take time to ask individuals
directly
41. Step 4:
The Helper Needs to be Able
to Provide the Help You Need
Four Steps to Getting the Help You Need
42. How to Ask for Help from a Busy
Person
• Be specific about the help and how much effort it will take
• Keep the request to a size that the person can do
• Be open to receiving help different than what you asked
43. Don’t Make It
Weird
• Overdoing it on empathy
• Apologizing profusely
• Using disclaimers
• Emphasizing how much the other
person will love helping
• Portraying the help you need as a
tiny insignificant favor
• Reminding people that they owe
you one
• Talking about how much their help
will benefit you
45. The In-Group Reinforcement
People are more motivated to help one another if they feel they
are in the same group
• Use the word “together”
• Highlight shared goal
• Talk about shared experiences and feelings
47. The Effectiveness Reinforcement
People are more generous when they know their help will have a
direct impact
• Be clear up-front about the nature of assistance that you want
and what its impact will be
• Follow-up afterwards. Let them know in advance that you will.
• Allow people to choose how they help you.