This document discusses values, self-image, and self-esteem. It begins with two Bible verses that describe humanity as created in God's image and as God's workmanship. The document then provides objectives and learning outcomes for understanding one's self-image, values, and developing self-esteem. It discusses the importance of values and having a positive self-image. Examples are given of identifying one's core values and treating oneself with compassion. The document aims to help people appreciate their inherent worth and add value to themselves and others.

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VALUES, SELF-IMAGE
&
SELF-ESTEEM
We are God’s creation
“So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him; male
and
female he created them…God saw all that he had
made,
and it was very good”. Genesis 1:27-31
Our identity in Christ:
“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ
Jesus to do
good works, which God prepared in
advance
for us to do.” Ephesians 2:13

2. MODULE 4 : VALUES, SELF-IMAGE AND SELF-ESTEEM
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MODULE 4: VALUES, SELF-IMAGE & SELF-ESTEEM
We are God’s creation
“So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him; male and
female he created them…God saw all that he had made,
and it was very good”. Genesis 1:27-31
Our identity in Christ:
“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do
good works, which God prepared in advance
for us to do.” Ephesians 2:13
Objectives
 You will discover a mental picture of yourself (self image)
 You will understand how is your self-esteem – (how you feel about yourself (self esteem) is
 You will identify, clarify and express your core values in life
 You will be expressing your values in your daily life
 You will develop your action plan for success
Learning Outcomes
At the end of the session, Boys you will:
1. Be able to express their your core values in their your daily life
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2. Be able to develop an action plan for success in living relationship with friends, parents,
teachers and the community, be able to apply the values learnt
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WHAT ARE VALUES?
Values are things that are important in your life.
Discussion Scenario :
You are on a cruise, enjoying yourself with your friends and family.
While out at sea, you encountered a storm which killeds the crew on board the ship. Then the
ship begins to sink. You have to abandon ship. There is only one lifeboat which only you know
how to operate. Your boat is equipped to transport only five persons including you. In view of
the harsh situation, those not in the lifeboat will perish. There are ten passengers other than
yourself.
The profiles of then passengers are:
Profiles of Passengers:
1) Retiree, age 68, enjoying life
2) Man , age 20, borderline IQ, hardworking
3) Factory operator, age 50, mother of 4 children, cannot swim
4) Wife beater, 40s, strong, loudmouth and vulgar
5) Wife of wife beater, mid 30s, gentle and scared
6) Air force pilot, age 30, recently married
7) Wheel chair -bound 12 -year -old boy
8) 3 -year -old girl, cannot swim
9) eEx-drug addict, divorced with 2 children
10) Lady in early 20s, studying in the university
Discuss in your groups :
1. Who are the four passengers whom you will choose to save?
2. Why did you choose these four passengers?
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VALUES
The values in your life change as you mature or grow older.
In addition, everyone does not necessarily share the same values, as can be seen from the
Shipwreck scenario.
Identify the qualities that you think are important to you now.
Circle as many as you can.
value Ffriendship loyalty
Wwarmth caring
truthfulness helpfulness
being supportive good in presentationing
sensitivitye good in listenering
not too serious generousity
loving has big heart
humane has good sense of fun
humourous kind
compassionate intuitive
value status value money
enjoy travelling value quality of life
trust peacefulness
directness serenitye
value education forgivenessing
valuinge time caringe for about others
caringe about for the environment
Are there any other values you wish to add?
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SHARE YOUR VALUES
What have you learnt about yourself and your friends from the discussion in the Shipwreck
scenario?
Choose three values that you feel are most important to you.
Choose one value and explain why is this is important?.
How does adding value to people’s lives make you feel about yourself?
Do you feel you appreciate yourself better because you have helped others feel good about
themselves? Explain why.
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SELF IMAGE
(the picture you have about yourself)
Name two achievements you are proud of. They do not have to be earth-shattering, just two
small achievements you know you did well in and are proud of :
1)
2)
 Maintain this positive image in your mind because this is a winning image of yourself!
 Help others to have a positive image of you.
You can help others have a positive image of you
(√ Check them if you agree):
 By being gracious to others, like saying ‘thank you’, ‘please’ and ‘excuse me’.
 By not speaking badly about others because it would be a reflection of your own self-image
and self-esteem.
Can you think of 2 more examples to add to the list?
1)
2)
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SELF ESTEEM
(how you feel about yourself)
(√ Check (√) them following statements that if you agree with:)
 Positive thoughts about yourmyself enable you me to be more energetic so I asyou can better
to achieve my what your goals.
 Negative thoughts about myself limit the belief you I have for in yourmyself and hold you
me back in getting what you I want in life.
 I should Bbelieve in myour own unique quality and values.
 I like who I am. I am a valuable person and I don’t have to pretend to be someone else to
help me like myself.
 I should Ttreat yourself myself well, by knowing that you I am designed to enjoy deserve
pleasure and fun, and which creating these frequently will makeare part of a life meaningful
life.
 I should Bbe willing to acknowledge mistakes and learn from them. I can be the best I can be
even though I am not 100% perfect.
Reflect for a minute
What values are you holdemonstrating when you treat yourself well?
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HOW TO ADD VALUE
TO YOURSELF
Check (√) the following statements that you agree with:
CHECK (√) THE FOLLOWING STATEMENTS THAT YOU AGREE
WITH:(√ Check the pointers when you agree with them )
 You are of great value. Like yourself and care for yourself so others will care for you.
 When you want to know what to do, ask your heart, ‘What is the very best for me now?’
Listen for the answer. It may not come straight away. A pleasant feeling will affirm that your
answer is right. [Is this a positive teaching? Sounds very New Age! Anyway, the last sentence
appears to contradict the fourth point below about feeling right]
 Treat yourself as if you are your best friend, then treating your friends well will be easier.
 Say ‘no’ whenever it feels right [??]. Some good experiences may feel good but may are not
be healthy for you.
 Listen to your own feelings first. Don’t run around asking for everyone’s opinion. Other
people may know what is right for them, but not necessarily what is right for you.
 Set clear boundaries for yourself and what you will and will not do.
 Don’t jump in and talk all the time,; try listening to your friend’s point of view.
 Set aside time for yourself. Get away from other people and spend some quality time for
yourself.
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Learning Opportunities at BB:
Choose one of the following two case studies and answer the questions
that follow.
Case Study 1
Melvin has always grappled with his weight problem since Pprimary Sschool. He ateats because
he enjoyeds food and when he wais stressed. When his mother suggested that he joins Since he
was not really disagreeable to his mother’s suggestion of joining the BB, he simply signed up
since he did not really mind it.
From day one, he discovered that while the activities were all right, he did not really fit in. He
was not confident when asked to lead and he seemed always to have too many questions which
the others felt were ‘dumb’. In addition, he always felt like he was the odd one out. Melvin feels
trapped because he does not really have anyone to confide with in. Even if he did, where would
he start?
How can you advise Melvin not to feel trapped? How can an understanding of self-image
and self-esteem help Melvin?
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Case Study 2
Chris iwas always a natural leader in any group he was in. He was always the first others looked
to for leadership. UnsurprisinglySimilarly, his first year in BB was a breeze and he knew that
promotion was going to be swift and sure. He was proven correct when it came to the ?? to
Lance Corporal promotion that year.
However, his confidence took a beating when he was not promoted to cCorporal subsequently.
In fact, he was not even made assistant squad leader. Both set backs were not what he had
anticipated. While the Officer did say that any Boy who felt that his missed promotion was
unfair, the boy could go to see the oOfficer., Chris did not want to because he was afraid that
others might accuse him of being too presumptuous and arrogant. Nobody really knew how
badly he took these setbacks.
What values does Chris hold? What happened to his self-image when he was not
promoted? What can he do to improve his self-image?
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